I think this would be such a sad situation to be in. I have always been a live-out nanny and have had some truly horrific jobs that I have had to leave ASAP. I cannot even imagine having to stay and "suck it up" just because I had no other option.

For a live in position, I would strongly advise potential nannies to have a trial period of at least a month to six weeks. I would also have them set up a back up living plan for three mos. as well.

I guess I am kind of that live-in nanny that has no other good place to go. I would rather be able to get my own place at this point, but there just isn't anything out there that I could afford that allows pets.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What exactly are you saying, 20:27? Your nonsense about the slave trade makes it hard to parse your point. Try harder, and with more feeling.

If you'd really like to reduce your stupidity, you may read:

"Global Woman: Nannies, Maids, and Sex Workers in the New Economy".

I'm sorry, I hate to be this person. But really, your grammar...I just don't know where to start.

Don't worry. Just start on page one of the book, and you'll be fine.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What exactly are you saying, 20:27? Your nonsense about the slave trade makes it hard to parse your point. Try harder, and with more feeling.

If you'd really like to reduce your stupidity, you may read:

"Global Woman: Nannies, Maids, and Sex Workers in the New Economy".

I'm sorry, I hate to be this person. But really, your grammar...I just don't know where to start.

Anonymous wrote:What exactly are you saying, 20:27? Your nonsense about the slave trade makes it hard to parse your point. Try harder, and with more feeling.

If you'd really like to reduce your stupidity, you may read:

"Global Woman: Nannies, Maids, and Sex Workers in the New Economy".

Hi everyone, I've been a live-in nanny and relocated to DC to run away from my ex-boyfriend. I was very young when all of this started, about 17, and I suppose felt very, very attached to him. Here's what the problem was: I was 17 and he was 32. I know he was not old enough to really by my father, but still he was up there. I realized after 5 years that a 15 year age difference is significant. There were also tons of other problems too. It was very hard to break up with him because
1. I was soooooo attracted to him. he was really hot
2.I knew I would be pretty much "homeless"
3. I do not have a close relationship with my family at all. My mother passed away when I was a child and my father has never really been loving.
4. I was a student with a very low-paying job. I nannied part-time and the economy where I lived was very depressed.
5. I liked having that "love" feeling from my boyfriend and feeling like we had a family unit. It was hard to leave that.

So I finally broke things off with him at age 22. I lived with a girlfriend for a month or so before moving to DC. A friend of mine was interning here and gave me the idea to move to DC. I searched for a live-in nanny job through sittercity and accepted a job after coming to DC and meeting them. It turned out to be an okay situation for a while because I was so desperate for a job and place to live. The family had job schedule was very demanding and changed ALL THE TIME. They expected me to be available at all times- in exchange for $200/week. Sometimes I would really work part-time (20 hours) and other times it was full-time. This schedule made it nearly impossible to have any kind of social life because I could never be far away from home in case they called me in to work. Finally after 8 months I gave notice and moved on to another live-in nanny job with a neighbor! I was doing side babysitting for her and explained the situation so she offered me a live-in arrangement and also a car! I worked 10/hours in exchange for a free rent and I was able to find a full-time job to work around her schedule. I am no longer a live-in nanny and understand that a live-in position is NOT for me. I feel no matter how well laid out it is, lives in means you live at work and employers forget about "your" time. It is the nature of the beast and I definitely can't deal with that type of environment.
It was so hard for me to be myself when I lived with my boss.

I also wanted to mentioned that I now with someone who is not so much older and feel that we are at the same phase in life. It's nice being with him and he is so much nicer than my ex-boyfriend too!!!! I don't feel that I missing out anymore or living out some weird father figure fantasy.

What exactly are you saying, 20:27? Your nonsense about the slave trade makes it hard to parse your point. Try harder, and with more feeling.

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Anonymous wrote:Maybe you didn't know that some immigrant domestic workers are "paid" with a monthly bag of old clothes to send to the Old Country. Her other "payment" comes in the form of a mattress and food a couple times a day. If you think slavery is only in the history books, think again. It's not just about your ancestors.

Nice try, I'm white.
Slavery isn't just about payment. It is about being treated as property and having your rights and freedom taken away from you. These immigrant workers you are attempting to champion are still free to leave their jobs at any time. No, it may not bode well financially for them, but no one is going to kill them for it. When you use a term such as slavery, you evoke (intentionally I have to assume) the U.S's shameful history regarding it. Slavery still exists in very treacherous ways, being a poorly paid/treated domestic worker is hardly one of them. Find a new word, that's all I am trying to convey.

Let me guess. You aren't an immigrant domestic worker from a country to poor to feed you and your family. Btw, the slave trade isn't just about your skin tone.

Anonymous wrote:Maybe you didn't know that some immigrant domestic workers are "paid" with a monthly bag of old clothes to send to the Old Country. Her other "payment" comes in the form of a mattress and food a couple times a day. If you think slavery is only in the history books, think again. It's not just about your ancestors.

Nice try, I'm white.
Slavery isn't just about payment. It is about being treated as property and having your rights and freedom taken away from you. These immigrant workers you are attempting to champion are still free to leave their jobs at any time. No, it may not bode well financially for them, but no one is going to kill them for it. When you use a term such as slavery, you evoke (intentionally I have to assume) the U.S's shameful history regarding it. Slavery still exists in very treacherous ways, being a poorly paid/treated domestic worker is hardly one of them. Find a new word, that's all I am trying to convey.

It is a modern form of slavery, even though nanny is choosing to be in this situation

Maybe you didn't know that some immigrant domestic workers are "paid" with a monthly bag of old clothes to send to the Old Country. Her other "payment" comes in the form of a mattress and food a couple times a day. If you think slavery is only in the history books, think again. It's not just about your ancestors.

Anonymous wrote:What you describe is legalized slavery. Paying a live-in lower wages just because she lives in, should be illegal. Living-in should be only a convience, not a necessity because you aren't paying a living wage.

Please don't belittle slavery. Being paid (among other things), however paltry the amount, negates the ability to deem something slavery. It's an inflammatory and inaccurate word to use in this situation.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Slavery...in case you need a refresher.

What you describe is legalized slavery. Paying a live-in lower wages just because she lives in, should be illegal. Living-in should be only a convience, not a necessity because you aren't paying a living wage.

I've come across a few live-in nannies in horrible situations (treated poorly, lack of privacy, working round the clock, terrible pay) because they had nowhere to go. For most, losing their job would also mean losing their home and means of transportation. Some come from broken homes or just don't make enough money to rent a place so they're stuck until they can find another live-in job. How common do you think this really is?