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[quote=Anonymous]While some APs are "teenagers", many are not.  As someone keeps reminding us on this site-- they are not "girls" they are adults.  Well-- sometimes they are, and sometimes they're not-- and age doesn't always dictate.

I specifically try to hire APs at the "mature" end of the spectrum, because while I'm happy to host a young adult in my house, I really have no desire to have another "child".  I've had 3 great APs who I would take over most nannies any day.  They've been pleasant, hard-working, cheerful wonderful people and I adore them all.

Sadly, my current AP is terribly immature-- despite being 26.  There are 18-year-olds who have more maturity.  She's not a bad girl.  She's pleasant enough.  But she has NO INTEREST in acting like an adult.  She is used to being taken care of, and she clearly wants to continue being taken care of.  Not a terrible person, just immature and self-centered.

I can relate to the OP.  Feeling like you need to write down every task to a minute detail is maddening.  I, for one, don't have time to do that-- and it would make me crazy anyway.  If someone really doesn't WANT to get something done, all the micromanagement isn't going to fix that.

Honestly OP-- all the napping, etc. Makes me worried.  She may be depressed (or maybe she's just partying too hard at night.). I don't think you can control whether she does her work at the beginning or end of the day-- as long as its done.  But, if it just isn't getting done, talk to her.  Say, "I left you with 3 chores today:  change the sheets, wash the kids' dishes, and do a load of laundry.  You had 6 hours alone to get this done.  Please explain to me why it didn't get done?"

Approach her directly, and unapologetically, and ask her.  Her response will tell you everything you need to know. [/quote]

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