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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]15:58, I'm glad you don't have kids yet, because you are definitely too immature.  Why on earth would a mature adult be freaked out that another person asked them this question?  Unless the OP is putting undue pressure on her nanny to accept, there is no reason why the nanny can't politely decline.  As for the nanny/family relationship souring with time, that is no more likely to happen with a nanny than with a family member or close friend.  Sometimes people change their minds about guardianship.  Luckily these things can be changed.  It's not set in stone.

To OP:  i rieterate my advice.  If you and DH want this, approach your nanny and see how she would feel about it.  If she seems hesitant, then find someone else, but many nannies (myself included) would be honored to do this for a current or former family.  [/quote]

Maybe someone asking you to take care of their kids if they die is a small thing, but to me that is something pretty serious and not to be taken lightly! Sure she is just asking a question that the nanny could politely turn down, but do you normally go around asking people stuff like that on a regular basis? It's not like she is asking her if she has an opinion of what kind of new car they should buy, which can already be an important decision in their lives. I would think that someone should already have a feeling that the person will say yes before asking something of this nature, so that the nanny doesn't have to politely turn her down. Maybe asking her first if she wants to be an acting godparent of sorts, to gauge her reaction and commitment to the kids beyond her position. Something that then could be expanded into actually being written into a will.

I have a best friend that I have known for 20 years that has 2 kids that I have been like an aunt to. I can see HER asking me to become their guardian in case something happened to her, but not for a family that I work for and have known for a much shorter amount of time. OP only says long term, not exactly how many years, which could just be 3 yrs. That might be "a long time" for a nanny position, but think that a stronger relationship is needed to start asking for the level of commitment someone wants. You mention that "things can be changed. It's not set in stone" which I had also mentioned, but not everyone regularly thinks about these things and goes to change them in a timely manner. In the event that this didn't get changed quick enough, it could be very disruptive in the children's lives. It is something to think about and consider, that that it would ever be likely to happen.

If everything I have says makes you think that I am too immature to have kids, then that is your opinion. I like to think of it as taking things seriously and REALLY determining I want to ask something of someone else before going through with it, looking at ALL sides of a situation and how it would affect my kids left behind by me (in a parent role), as well as how it would affect the nanny in her role, and the kids as well. If lots of consideration and thinking things through over time before coming to a huge decision is called immature to you, then you got me, I am immature.[/quote]

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