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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'd be kind of freaked out if asked. Becoming someone's guardian is so much more than being a nanny to their kids! Since I don't have any kids of my own, and I am not yet married, I would be afraid of something happening to the parents and then my whole life being changed. Not just in the way that suddenly you have kid(s) to care for like they were your own, but that it might affect me with finding a husband, planning my own future with kids, things I would want to go do before having my own children.

I wouldn't mind being put down as like a "permanent" nanny for kids that I had been working with for a while and really cared about, so that I could still care for them while say their aunt who is not as good with kids but named guardian, has some built-in help... But I don't think I could be their guardian. Someone that decides to have their own kids, or even adopt or foster kids, make a HUGE decision to do so, but in the end that is THEIR decision and have figured out on WHEN to go ahead and start with that in their lives. There is too much uncertainty with it for me, not something that can be planned around which isn't easy for someone with my personality that likes to have plans and stuff.[/quote]

Um...kay.  So you think they shouldn't ask their nanny because YOU are ready for kids?

OP, if you think this is what you want, then you are obviously close to your nanny.  Ask her what she thinks. [/quote]

No, I was giving my opinion of how I would feel if a family asked ME. I thought the OP wanted other people's opinions, I was giving the point of view of a nanny that would get freaked out by someone asking her something that HUGE and possibly life changing. While the OP may want something, how her nanny feels can be a totally different story.

Also OP, if you have other options that could work out if something happened to you, then it might be less stressful on your relationship with your nanny if things ever came down to her moving on from your position (whether it is 6 months from now or 6 years from now). Nobody knows exactly what is going to happen in the future, and I know quite a few nannies/families that had great relationships but something changed and they ended up parting ways. Are you going to switch the person you have listed in your will if this happens? Are you going to keep asking your then current nanny to do this? It can get complicated, is what I am saying. If a nanny leaves and goes to a new family, moves away, etc and you don't change your will soon enough, then that can be a mess. So while your nanny might agree to it at this time in her life, and you want her to be it, if you do have another good option (not like a relative that you totally hate or that would not make a good parent), then I would consider them over using your nanny.[/quote]

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