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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]As many threads here have detailed, there is no advantage for the employer, only the nanny, to allowing her to bring a child to work. [/quote]

I don't think that is true.

Yes, there is a greater advantage for the nanny, but there can be a very inherent benefit in your child having a built-in playmate to learn cooperation and expand imaginary play with, as well as in teaching both greater patience and ability to share in both material goods and attention (think about the classic "only child" and then think about the average "second child" - by having two unrelated children share a nanny you get the best of both outcomes and the worst of neither. Like second children they will be less self-centered and better able to tolerate other people sometimes taking priority over them, but like only children will have their parents' full attention in the evenings outside the share, a built-in time for the sophisticated relationship building that so often propels only children to worldly success). Along with financial reasons, this is a central reason for using a nanny share, although there you will hear about it as the nanny vs. daycare debate (the primary nanny-con being less opportunity for the child's socialization).

Just to reiterate, I am not suggesting the advantages are equal - in this scenario, the benefit to the nanny is greater - but in a situation where the nanny was bringing her own child of a similar age (presumably pre-elementary school), there can be a benefit for the other child (and, by extension, her parents) as well.[/quote]

If you read what the PP wrote, she said that if she was looking for a share that she would consider it, but if you are not looking for a share then that means you are most likely not interested in the "advantages" to the MB that you listed above.

You don't need another child there with the nanny to have as a playmate or any of the other things. You can easily go to socialization classes, other groups, set up playdates, and then there is a good chance that the family might have other children as well. There are many "only children" out there that learn these skills without having another child being taken care of with them, all day long. So these are not really that beneficial to the MB if these skills can be done in other ways as well, with her still having a nanny focusing totally on her child.[/quote]

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