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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote]4) Thank your lucky stars your nanny cares more about your child than your good opinion. She's making the toughest call a nanny ever has to - doing what is right for the child when the parents aren't on board.[/quote]

This is never the nannies decision to make. A nanny is an employer. You aren't a co-parent and you don't get to do whatever you please. You can voice your suggestions. You can quit if you are upset that your wishes are not be followed. You don't get to do what you want anyway and just lie about. [/quote]

I agree about not lying, of course, but omitting a food that makes the child sick is not the same as lying (unless she keeps a food diary and wrote down that she was giving him milk when she really wasn't, it doesn't sound like any lying took place). But I disagree on the other point -it is absolutely the nanny's job to make choices that keep the baby healthy and safe - that is presumably why you hire someone experienced, professional, and communicative, because you want to be able to trust them and their expertise. Same goes for sleeping - you MBs may say "please please spend 45 minutes rocking my baby and then give her this pacifier and sing this song blahblahblah" but if I can get her into her crib and asleep in 5 minutes instead of 60, I'm going to - simply because it is better for the baby in the short and the long-term.

Parents often want to point out that they're the parents and you're not, which is true, but unless you're an MB who's also an ex-nanny I am positive that I have burped, swaddled, bathed, clothed, napped, taught, sang, and played with dozens more babies/toddlers/kids than you have. I have tricks and techniques and instincts honed over years and years of working and that is why parents pay me above-average rates. Before you start in on how it's all about what's easiest for the nanny, let me tell you that when my MB asks me to make sure her son spend X minutes in his walker, I'm just not going to - because it isn't good for her child. It's much better for me to be walking him around the room with him holding onto my fingers than to plop him in his walker, so that's what I do (I record that time on our log but never say he spent time in the walker if he didn't).

MB's on this board are unbelievably ignorant and shockingly superior in their attitudes - it is hard to give up some control over your child and your home, I get it, but as with any job the best success happens when you hire someone wonderful, tell them your non-negotiables, and then let them do what you hired them to do. This is when you really reap the benefits of an experienced nanny - when you let her do what she's great at and listen to her suggestions. If you don't want that, use daycare.[/quote]

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