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Anonymous wrote:No to the nanny chorus. The OP instructed her nanny to not stop giving the baby dairy. The nanny did it anyway. This is a big problem and its not a nanny that would I trust.

What if the baby had died because of OPs stupidity? Fire her, OP, you need a "yes maam" nanny. The line is already forming with parents who want to hire your nanny and these parents will listen to her because she is experienced. You are not worthy of yohr nannyand I am not a nanny.

Food elimination to test for intolerance is not done willy nilly by the nanny.
If you suspect that your child is allergic to dairy, then you eliminate that, just that, while giving everything else the child usually has, and not introducing new foods. Then after the test period, if the child has not shown symptoms, you can conclude that it is an allergy to dairy.

If your nanny eliminates dairy and MB thinks fruit juice is the culprit and cuts that back too, you don't know what was causing what.
If your nanny eliminates dairy and MB gave a dinner with pine nuts, something baby's never had, it could be the pine nuts or the milk. You just don't know.

While you eliminate dairy, you need to substitute other sources of same nutrition, perhaps soymilk or cheese, etc. You don't just take away milk from a 16 month old for who knows how long of a period the nanny did this.

All those nannies saying your nanny knew better and you should feel lucky are just plain wrong. These are big decisions and she should've told you what she was doing. She clearly doesn't know her boundaries and thinks of herself as a co-parent than a nanny.

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Anonymous wrote:No to the nanny chorus. The OP instructed her nanny to not stop giving the baby dairy. The nanny did it anyway. This is a big problem and its not a nanny that would I trust.

What if the baby had died because of OPs stupidity? Fire her, OP, you need a "yes maam" nanny. The line is already forming with parents who want to hire your nanny and these parents will listen to her because she is experienced. You are not worthy of yohr nannyand I am not a nanny.

Anonymous wrote:No to the nanny chorus. The OP instructed her nanny to not stop giving the baby dairy. The nanny did it anyway. This is a big problem and its not a nanny that would I trust.

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4) Thank your lucky stars your nanny cares more about your child than your good opinion. She's making the toughest call a nanny ever has to - doing what is right for the child when the parents aren't on board.

This is never the nannies decision to make. A nanny is an employer. You aren't a co-parent and you don't get to do whatever you please. You can voice your suggestions. You can quit if you are upset that your wishes are not be followed. You don't get to do what you want anyway and just lie about.

I agree about not lying, of course, but omitting a food that makes the child sick is not the same as lying (unless she keeps a food diary and wrote down that she was giving him milk when she really wasn't, it doesn't sound like any lying took place). But I disagree on the other point -it is absolutely the nanny's job to make choices that keep the baby healthy and safe - that is presumably why you hire someone experienced, professional, and communicative, because you want to be able to trust them and their expertise. Same goes for sleeping - you MBs may say "please please spend 45 minutes rocking my baby and then give her this pacifier and sing this song blahblahblah" but if I can get her into her crib and asleep in 5 minutes instead of 60, I'm going to - simply because it is better for the baby in the short and the long-term.

Parents often want to point out that they're the parents and you're not, which is true, but unless you're an MB who's also an ex-nanny I am positive that I have burped, swaddled, bathed, clothed, napped, taught, sang, and played with dozens more babies/toddlers/kids than you have. I have tricks and techniques and instincts honed over years and years of working and that is why parents pay me above-average rates. Before you start in on how it's all about what's easiest for the nanny, let me tell you that when my MB asks me to make sure her son spend X minutes in his walker, I'm just not going to - because it isn't good for her child. It's much better for me to be walking him around the room with him holding onto my fingers than to plop him in his walker, so that's what I do (I record that time on our log but never say he spent time in the walker if he didn't).

MB's on this board are unbelievably ignorant and shockingly superior in their attitudes - it is hard to give up some control over your child and your home, I get it, but as with any job the best success happens when you hire someone wonderful, tell them your non-negotiables, and then let them do what you hired them to do. This is when you really reap the benefits of an experienced nanny - when you let her do what she's great at and listen to her suggestions. If you don't want that, use daycare.

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4) Thank your lucky stars your nanny cares more about your child than your good opinion. She's making the toughest call a nanny ever has to - doing what is right for the child when the parents aren't on board.

This is never the nannies decision to make. A nanny is an employer. You aren't a co-parent and you don't get to do whatever you please. You can voice your suggestions. You can quit if you are upset that your wishes are not be followed. You don't get to do what you want anyway and just lie about.

Anonymous wrote:No to the nanny chorus. The OP instructed her nanny to not stop giving the baby dairy. The nanny did it anyway. This is a big problem and its not a nanny that would I trust.

4) Thank your lucky stars your nanny cares more about your child than your good opinion. She's making the toughest call a nanny ever has to - doing what is right for the child when the parents aren't on board.