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Avilla82
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Hello to all,
I have a problem, and I am unsure of how to handle it. I have been a Nanny for 12+ years and have always been with amazing families, long term 2+ years. I then became a mom 2.5 years ago and now I see just how important and hard it is to find perfect care for our little angels. So here is my problem. Ill start by saying, I don't want to set a bad example for my current nanny, and in the situation I am in, The environment is bad, uncomfortable and needs to be delt with, yesterday. I have worked for my current family for 17 months and within this time the father seems to have grown to dislike any and everything I do. I have noticed that he gives me the cold shoulder and if there is something that needs to be addressed he will send me a rude text message (while he's in another room of home). I will then address the text message with "mom" as soon as i see her next, because "dad" won't speak with me, and because my number one thing to a good team arrangement, is communication. I have to get it off my chest. On multiple occasion this has happened and not once have I got any feed back, resolution or explanation as to what I can correct, or if its even me. I have grown to be very uncomfortable in their home I spend 10 hours daily in. I feel like I have done everything I can to put my personal feelings aside and be professional, not taking to hearlt the things he says, but it's increasingly getting more and more difficult, being that I only see him through the day. I walk on egg shells when he's here or I leave to park. I know I take great care of these beauties and I take pride in what I do. So in the last week I took it upon myself to search for another job, and in turn have been offered an amazing position, my only thing is that they need someone to start Monday. I feel horrible that I'm going to have to give such short notice, and I have read many of these forums and how many parents are not happy about short/no notice of leaving. I am not one of those nannys, I feel I have done and communicated to the best of my ability. What do you all suggest please help. How do I go about this? I don't want bad blood. I am an honest person, they were not needed for a reference check for the new job. Thanks! |
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| Will you need your current family for a reference in the future? |
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| I pull a Brandon Walsh when offered a position where they need me to start right away. "I'm thrilled at this opportunity and would like to accept. The thing is, I have a moral obligation to give my old job a minimum of [however much] notice. Part of why you made me this job offer is because of my morals and ethics. I would never leave you high and dry by giving you only two days notice; I really hope you can understand why I can't do that to the people I work for right now." |
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Oh, she is willing to give me time. Monday is just the preferred date. I have never had such ill feeling over how I have been treated, the many years I have been a nanny. Now one more question, if I give a 2 week notice and the treatment gets worse (the last 2weeks have been horrible) what do I do then??
P.s I love the "Brandon Walsh" reference! 90210 junkie! Thanks for advice. |
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Current family may fire you when you give notice. I'd tell new family you feel obligated to give notice, then if curren family dumps you, tell new family that they've released you from
The notice period after conversation and you can now start early. |
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I don't think I would personally want to use them as a reference. I don't think people, employees or not should have to endure such rudeness, and especially in this case. I cherish and love what is supposed to be "your pride and joy" you would think one would want to show gratitude.
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That's a great idea. Thanks!
I'm use to staying until kids go to school and I am no longer needed. Makes for a way better exit. This is not ideal. |
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Presumably you have no contractual notice period required?
You know the right thing - it's to give appropriate notice to your employers. I would not want to hire someone who left their prior employer this way. |
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No, no contract. I agree, I wouldn't hire someone with that type of background either. This is why I'm here. I'm trying to configure a respectfull plan if action. Weighing my pros and cons. I also don't want to be treated worse over the next 2 week, for doing the correct action.
Thanks! I like all the comments! |
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| I would tell them at the end of the day Friday that this was your last day. I wouldn't be in that environment a second longer than I had to be. |
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| It is not morally right or professional to quit with no notice. If you do it you do it but I would count on never asking for a reference from them. |
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It would be very unprofessional to leave without notice. Give them two weeks notice and let your new job know that you have done that. If the soon-to-be-former job fires you on the spot or during the notice period, start your new job early.
You have 12 years experience in this field. You know the right thing to do. |