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[Post New]04/15/2013 14:09
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Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:13:48, I have a question for you, in spite of your colorful language. Do you feel like you "really knew" your husband before you got married?


Hahaha Yes I did, my husband and I dated since my freshman year of high school, married 12 years later, so yeah I knew him. Your point?
[Post New]04/15/2013 14:26
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nannydebsays

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Op, are you going to tell your nanny to stop double dipping, or are you just going to tolerate it for the next few months?

In this nanny's opinion, you should tell your nanny that you know what she's been doing and that you expect it to stop for the remainder of her time with you.
[Post New]04/15/2013 14:32
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Anonymous
OP, i would give her no bonus. And on her last day I would tell her, "We had planned to give you a $2,000 bonus, but found out you were double-billing us since January of 2013. We considered just reducing your bonus by the amount you were double-billing us but a bonus is for going above and beyond, and you went way below by stealing from us, so in the end, although we appreciate how well you've taken care of Child, we don't feel right giving a bonus to someone who has been stealing from us. I'm sure you'll understand why we also won't be giving you a letter of reference." And then OP, I'd change the locks.
[Post New]04/15/2013 14:35
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nannydebsays wrote:Op, are you going to tell your nanny to stop double dipping, or are you just going to tolerate it for the next few months?

In this nanny's opinion, you should tell your nanny that you know what she's been doing and that you expect it to stop for the remainder of her time with you.


Deb, we planned to just tolerate it because we are so close to the end and overall she has been a great employee. I appreciate your opinion, though. We may rethink this.
[Post New]04/15/2013 15:15
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Anonymous wrote:OP, i would give her no bonus. And on her last day I would tell her, "We had planned to give you a $2,000 bonus, but found out you were double-billing us since January of 2013. We considered just reducing your bonus by the amount you were double-billing us but a bonus is for going above and beyond, and you went way below by stealing from us, so in the end, although we appreciate how well you've taken care of Child, we don't feel right giving a bonus to someone who has been stealing from us. I'm sure you'll understand why we also won't be giving you a letter of reference." And then OP, I'd change the locks.


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[Post New]04/15/2013 15:18
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Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:OP, i would give her no bonus. And on her last day I would tell her, "We had planned to give you a $2,000 bonus, but found out you were double-billing us since January of 2013. We considered just reducing your bonus by the amount you were double-billing us but a bonus is for going above and beyond, and you went way below by stealing from us, so in the end, although we appreciate how well you've taken care of Child, we don't feel right giving a bonus to someone who has been stealing from us. I'm sure you'll understand why we also won't be giving you a letter of reference." And then OP, I'd change the locks.


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[Post New]04/15/2013 18:56
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Anonymous
She's about to have a baby and is getting all of the money she can. Honestly, it's not the RIGHT thing to do, but I don't think she has evil intentions. She might do the cleaning etc super fast (I mean, you clearly thought she HAS been cleaning for those 2 hours, right?) and then go to another job for a few.

Also, are you 100% certain?
[Post New]04/15/2013 18:57
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Anonymous
Instead of sinking to a bad level and say NO BONUS FOR YOU in 2 months, I'd call her out now.
[Post New]04/15/2013 19:19
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Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:She's about to have a baby and is getting all of the money she can. Honestly, it's not the RIGHT thing to do, but I don't think she has evil intentions. She might do the cleaning etc super fast (I mean, you clearly thought she HAS been cleaning for those 2 hours, right?) and then go to another job for a few.

Also, are you 100% certain?


Then she should still only get paid for the time spent cleaning. It's dishonest and a form of stealing. Op, I'd wonder what else she's been lying about if she can lie about taking your money for hours she didn't work. No offense op, but you sound like a pushover. I mean you know about it and you're STILL going to allow it and were even thinking of giving her a bonus?!
[Post New]04/15/2013 20:12
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Anonymous
I'm another nanny who finds this unacceptable. OP, you may think she has done a wonderful job for 5 years, but this is a pretty big breach of trust, and I would be wondering what else you don't know about.
[Post New]04/15/2013 20:25
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Anonymous
OP, I think you should ask the nanny to explain why she fid this. How fid you find out? We never lnow what is going on in someome else's life and she has been with you five years and I would give her an opportunity to discuss this
[Post New]04/15/2013 20:31
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Anonymous
Nanny no doubt feels she's been underpaid. Did op disclose the pay rate?
[Post New]04/15/2013 20:34
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Anonymous
I agree that what she did is wrong, but I can't truly fault her too much for doing what she felt she needed to do (crazy pregnant new mom brain??) in order to save for the baby. I would call her out on it now, and not wait until later, but I can understand why OP is tempted to look past this.
[Post New]04/15/2013 20:36
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Anonymous
OP, is it possible she is doing the cleaning for you earlier in the day, then going to the other house so isn't technically double dipping? How did you find out? If it were me I would probably ask her about it and see what she says then priced from there.
[Post New]04/16/2013 08:47
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Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:Nanny no doubt feels she's been underpaid. Did op disclose the pay rate?


No she didn't, but even if it was a low rate, the nanny always has the option of accepting or declining a position, right?
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