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[Post New]02/04/2013 11:30
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Anonymous
Is there a new nanny lined up?
[Post New]02/04/2013 11:34
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Anonymous
The nanny may feel that she's working twice as hard, so maybe she's earning what she's making. It's up to the parents to determine their priorities.
[Post New]02/04/2013 11:50
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Anonymous
It doesn't matter what the nanny feels like she deserves, you can't just take on another job during the same hours someone else is paying you! Like others have said, if this is truly rare, I would let it go. If its regular, but less than 2-3 hours/wk, I'd just talk with the nanny, let her know how many hours your are willing to accomidste as a perk to her, and go from there. If we are getting into the 5 or more hours a week, then you need a formal share arrangement.

If your nanny is at all professional, she knows she is getting away with something. Just make expectations clear. If she would really quit over not being able to double dip, she's no professional!
[Post New]02/04/2013 13:53
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Anonymous
OP if its a regular thing then this isn't appropriate at all. You should sit down with the other family and negotiate a share arrangement. This would not involve the nanny making $35 an hour. Right now, the nanny has an incentive to do this as much as possible as she receives a windfall.
[Post New]02/04/2013 14:53
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Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:I think it's completely reasonable that you reduce the rate for the hours that the nanny brings another child (however, I'd say that what the other family pays her is really none of your business and should be left out of the equation all together). Something along the lines of:

"Nanny, I'm very concerned over the increased number of days you're bringing little Jimmy over her during our regularly scheduled hours. It's fine if you continue doing so, but I think it's only fair that we treat those hours as a nanny share and pay $X rate. You will of course still continue to earn your regular rate any time you're just watching my children"

OR if you're not comfortable with letting the child come over frequently even at a reduced rate:

"Nanny, I know there are occasions of unexpected emergencies but I've noticed you're bringing little Jimmy over here more and more frequently without any extenuating circumstances. It's fine if you need to bring him over here every once in a blue moon, but I'm really not comfortable having it happen on a regular basis. Having a third child here limits your interactions with my children and splits your focus and I'm not comfortable with the dynamic it creates."

FWIW I'm a Nanny, and I would never think to try and double up like this without discussing it with both sets of parents ahead of time.


I agree with this poster. I am a nanny and it sounds like your nanny is taking advantage of your generosity. You are inconvenienced by her bringing an additional child (not enough car seats so can't take your children out to activities). I would let her know that since it is becoming more of a regular thing that you would like to look at this as a share on the days when she brings an additional child. I don't think it would be fair to pay only half of what you pay now, but maybe 70 or 75%. If it were me I would still offer her the full pay on her days off when she comes in to work for you with another child because she is going out of her way and by paying her extra you are giving her more reason to help you out on those days. I would not worry about what the other family is paying her, that is their business.
[Post New]02/04/2013 15:37
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Anonymous
OP, please let us know how the talk turns out....
[Post New]02/04/2013 15:52
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Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:I think it's completely reasonable that you reduce the rate for the hours that the nanny brings another child (however, I'd say that what the other family pays her is really none of your business and should be left out of the equation all together). Something along the lines of:

"Nanny, I'm very concerned over the increased number of days you're bringing little Jimmy over her during our regularly scheduled hours. It's fine if you continue doing so, but I think it's only fair that we treat those hours as a nanny share and pay $X rate. You will of course still continue to earn your regular rate any time you're just watching my children"

OR if you're not comfortable with letting the child come over frequently even at a reduced rate:

"Nanny, I know there are occasions of unexpected emergencies but I've noticed you're bringing little Jimmy over here more and more frequently without any extenuating circumstances. It's fine if you need to bring him over here every once in a blue moon, but I'm really not comfortable having it happen on a regular basis. Having a third child here limits your interactions with my children and splits your focus and I'm not comfortable with the dynamic it creates."

FWIW I'm a Nanny, and I would never think to try and double up like this without discussing it with both sets of parents ahead of time.


OP here.. thank you. I was hoping to really hear a nanny's response. This is my concern, time with my children is split, not to mention there are not enough car seats to accommodate outings, etc.. thanks for your input.
[Post New]02/04/2013 15:57
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Anonymous
Have you discussed your concern with the other family?
[Post New]02/04/2013 16:06
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Anonymous
Wow, don't how some of the posters don't see this as an issue. You just don't work two schedules for two familes by goingtoone family's home with a charge from another family. Neither family is getting what they are paying for - someone available to their family only. The nannyis totally taking advantage.

OP, I would have stopped her the first day she started bringing the other kid. She seems really greedy.
[Post New]02/04/2013 16:16
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Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:Have you discussed your concern with the other family?

Please let us know how it goes, OP. Good luck.
[Post New]02/04/2013 16:20
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nannydebsays

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OP, this nanny is definitely double dipping, and it's not ok for her to do that! In addition to the scripts a PP offered you above, I would say something about the car seat issue.

Now, one thing that might happen is this nanny might choose to leave you to go FT with the other family. In that case, IMO, you'll be better off finding a new nanny who won't try to take advantage of you.

I would approach this as a situation you are not comfortable with continuing, and tell nanny that from now on she'll get X/hour share rate if she brings along the other child. If you want to talk to the other family, you should, but my impression is that they don't care, or that they have already adjusted her rate and assumed you would do the same.
[Post New]02/04/2013 17:07
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Anonymous
Yes, you should be paying a shared rate for any times she's not working for juat you.
[Post New]02/04/2013 17:14
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Anonymous
OP I'm not sure I completely understand the situation, and my perspective will be very different depending on how this is all playing out.

If she is scheduled to work for you and needs to bring another family's child for that day, and you agree to that, you should pay her less that day (let the other family pay her whatever they've worked out with her - no need to complicate things by coordinating that with them).

If she is scheduled to work for the other family and you need her to come in that day, you should pay her whatever her regular rate is (and let the other family pay her whatever they've worked out).

If she has a regular schedule in which she's bringing the other child every Monday and Tuesday, or something like that, you might talk to the other parents about calling it a nanny-share (but be aware of the complications arising from it). Otherwise it's just the same as my first answer - pay her less on days she is scheduled with you and brings another child along with her.
[Post New]02/04/2013 21:02
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Anonymous
Sounds like a FT job managing the nanny. I am amazed that some of you are able to hold down a FT office job, on top of managing the nanny. How do you do it?
[Post New]02/05/2013 00:49
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Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:OP here.. she is doing this on my regular scheduled days. the other family needs the help on their off days. again, I'm fine with this but its becoming somewhat regular.


This is the exact opposite of what you said in the OP.
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