Nanny bringing along baby from another family she nannies..

[Anonymous]

I cannot believe the nannies trying to pass this off as normal.

It's not. If it were NOT your scheduled day but you asked her to come in, then you should expect to pay your full rate and other family should get a discount and vice versa. If it benefits both families then both should pay less. I wouldn't try to go from $35 to $20, but at 12.50/hr each that is $25 for her which is more than adequate. I would bring this up and come to a solution you can all agree on before resentment grows between everyone!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. She's earning $35/hr when she is watching both families' children. Is this normal? I'm not trying to nickel and dime anyone, it just seems this is why people have nanny share arrangements. Looking for advice here.

How much do you make per hour? She's doing you a favor by being flexible and you ate just being cbeap.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. She's earning $35/hr when she is watching both families' children. Is this normal? I'm not trying to nickel and dime anyone, it just seems this is why people have nanny share arrangements. Looking for advice here.

How much do you make per hour? She's doing you a favor by being flexible and you ate just being cbeap.

Read before you post. The nanny brings the other family's baby the hours she is scheduled to work for OP. Only person getting the favor is the nanny for double dipping...gee, wish we all could do that, right???

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. She's earning $35/hr when she is watching both families' children. Is this normal? I'm not trying to nickel and dime anyone, it just seems this is why people have nanny share arrangements. Looking for advice here.

How much do you make per hour? She's doing you a favor by being flexible and you ate just being cbeap.

Read before you post. The nanny brings the other family's baby the hours she is scheduled to work for OP. Only person getting the favor is the nanny for double dipping...gee, wish we all could do that, right???

This is not what she said in her original post. The troll is back

[Anonymous]

OP, this nanny is definitely double dipping, and it's not ok for her to do that! In addition to the scripts a PP offered you above, I would say something about the car seat issue.

Now, one thing that might happen is this nanny might choose to leave you to go FT with the other family. In that case, IMO, you'll be better off finding a new nanny who won't try to take advantage of you.

I would approach this as a situation you are not comfortable with continuing, and tell nanny that from now on she'll get X/hour share rate if she brings along the other child. If you want to talk to the other family, you should, but my impression is that they don't care, or that they have already adjusted her rate and assumed you would do the same.

This exactly.

It is a very bad idea to allow a nanny to bring any other children, hers or anyone else's, unless you have agreed to a nanny share rate with the other family, or the nanny (if it's her child). Even then, consider carefully the liabilities involved.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. She's earning $35/hr when she is watching both families' children. Is this normal? I'm not trying to nickel and dime anyone, it just seems this is why people have nanny share arrangements. Looking for advice here.

That sounds about right. Each family is paying $17 per hour rather than $20 or 25 per hour. So you're each getting a discount.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. She's earning $35/hr when she is watching both families' children. Is this normal? I'm not trying to nickel and dime anyone, it just seems this is why people have nanny share arrangements. Looking for advice here.

That sounds about right. Each family is paying $17 per hour rather than $20 or 25 per hour. So you're each getting a discount.

No way is that market for a nanny share.

[Anonymous]

Yes OP, I could speak with the other family about doing a share. Your child(ren) is sharing their time with another child. Theres no way your nanny can be as attentive with your child when she has the responsibility of another child. $35/hour is ridiculous and she's milking it by doing this. Also, you're feeding an extra mouth, so tech, you're losing out.

People can call it nickel and diming but I wouldn't care, I'd definitely lower her pay when theres another kid involved.

[Anonymous]

Would*

[Anonymous]

It's a little strange that everyone is focused on the nanny's flexibility. If my nanny was regularly taking my child to a stranger's home or regularly bringing a stranger's child to mine, I would like to speak with the other parents immediately. There are safety and liability issues to consider and in a nanny share you would have a conversation with the other parents about all of those things and presumably even see their home and have them see yours. Nanny is not only double dipping but turning this into a defacto nanny share without express approval by both families seems pretty sneaky and dishonest. I could see doing it once in an emergency but regularly? No freaking way.

[Anonymous]

OP Here. This is all new to me. Could someone please share what sort of liability is involved when she has the other child at our home? that never even occurred to me.

[Anonymous]

You need to ask your home owner's insurance agent, OP.

[Anonymous]

...but you already knew that, no?

[Anonymous]

Nope.. Had no idea. Never thought of liabilities, to be quite honest. She is also driving the other baby in my car..

[Anonymous]

Please let us know what insurance agent recommends...