Things are awkward between me and DB/MB
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Anonymous
OP here. I don't watch babies. I don't have to chase them around the house, or roll around on the floor with them. Wearing nice attire doesn't affect my job performance in any way. Do I ALWAYS wear heels? No, if we're going to play tennis or going to the park, I'll dress accordingly. But the type of people this family has me around, and the types of places I have to go with the boys I am not supposed to be wearing tennis shoes and t-shirts all the time. If dressing frumpy works for your job, great, but in my situation that does not always work. I don't work with babies either, I work with toddlers age 2 up to children age 9. None of the positions that I have would be appropriate to wear high heels for. You must work for a hideously formal family. Try to find a wealthy yet more laid back family, they generally treat you better and don't require you to wear clothing and shoes that is not geared towards having fun with the kids. You shouldn't have to change clothing when deciding to go play tennis or go to the park, or head out to the beach or anything else. You should be dressed to do anything, be able to go running around with them at a moments notice. |
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I think some of the pps are presuming too much - OP is not looking to start something with db.
OP, I would be strictly professional with them, especially db from here on out. Don't have wine with him, don't stay after if you don't need to to chat over no over nothing, reply to texts briefly. Be prepared to be let go and look out for other positions. |
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OP here
So, as of last night, I've been let go, lol. Well, in 3 weeks I'll be done. It was weird how it happened, but I ended up getting a great deal out of it, so I'm not too broken up about it. I've been making sure to keep my distance from DB as suggested, and give off hints that I am not open for "extra" communication. I think he noticed that I was being more brief with him and it irritated him (this man has a HUGE ego). Last week, he met up with me in the kitchen and asked if I'd like to sign on for a live-in position since it would supposedly be more convenient for me. I told him I wasn't sure, and that I'd talk to MB about it and see what she thinks. He rudely said, "Well if you want to do it, you let ME know. I write the checks." So then I told him that I think our current arrangement works fine for right now. I also told him that MB was clearly not happy about me speaking with him and that I think she's getting the wrong idea. So I don't know what happened between them between then and this weekend, but she called me and said that she's appreciated my hard work with the boys, but that it was time to move on. She didn't go into details but she hinted at a lot of stuff. When I asked her what in particular I did wrong, she said I didn't do anything wrong, but that I'm a huge part of "the problem". She was so vague and didn't say anything outright, but I'm pretty sure she was trying to say that her husband has major infidelity issues and she doesn't trust him around anyone remotely attractive. I'll spend the next few weeks training/shadowing a male nanny for them, and then she will give me 6 months severance pay. Which I have no complaints about! I'm going on vacation, lol. Hopefully she realizes that this won't stop her husband's wayward eye - he'll just look elsewhere (and she probably won't have the luxury of monitoring it). |
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Six months severance? Are you sure? Something doesn't measure up here, guys.... |
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| 6 months severance. I'm quite sure. |
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Wow - sounds pretty terribly sad for the MB, and like you got an amazing deal.
You don't sound especially sympathetic to/about her. She's well rid of you regardless of whatever is happening w/ her husband. |
Anonymous
Maybe it doesn't come across in an online post, but I'm sympathetic. At the same time, I've been pretty fed up with her passive aggressive behavior towards me, so my sympathy has begun to run thin at this point. I think DB is a total slimeball but she knows what he is about at this point. Men like him, especially when they have money and power, don't change without a miracle. If you stick around with someone like that, you kinda get what you're asking for. |
Anonymous
I know it's more than standard, but is it that hard to believe? These people basically crap money. I get paid summers off, a car that I can also use personally even though they already have a driver, I got plenty of paid vacation time. 6 months severance to her is a drop in their bucket. Plus, I'm training the new guy and in her mind she probably wants me to be satisfied and cooperative while doing so. |
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So in 4 days your soon-to-be-ex MB managed to decide to fire you, find and hire a "manny", had a final confrontation with her DH about you, and let you go with 6 months severance?
Amazing. |
Anonymous
| So about how much is that severance check going to be, OP? |
Anonymous
| Is part of the severance agreement that you must sign a confidentiality agreement? I agree with PPs that 6 months is an unusually large severance. I feel sad for the MB and kids to have such a egotistical, unfaithful DH. |
Anonymous
Why is that amazing? Not OP but all that could be decided in one night. |