Things are awkward between me and DB/MB

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Omg. I wear leggings to work. Who cares?

Leggings are not pants and are not professional. If you're wearing a dress or tunic with them, that's one thing (your ass is covered), but if you're wearing them with a regular length shirt and your ass is not covered its inappropriate for work. I'm a nanny, and a young one at that (23), and I understand the need to be comfy but what's wrong with yoga pants or jeans?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I work for a family, I've been there for the past 6 months. Things have been awkward and are getting even more so. DB has been venting to me about his frustrations with MB going back to work. He's a high powered corporate lawyer and when he gets home he is irritated that MB is still at work. MB is just working because she wants to, not because they need the money. She is an administrative assistant and frequently works late. I've been staying extra late recently, making dinner and putting the kids to bed since MB's boss has been wanting her to stay overtime.

A few weeks ago MB walked in on me and the DB in the den chit-chatting and having a glass of wine. It was nothing major, he was just making small talk since he usually we don't say more than hi/goodbye. She was clearly unhappy and rushed me out of the house - "off you go, goodbye!" in a smarmy fakey-nice voice. There have also been other instances where DB and I are having a laugh and she gets shrill and abrupt about the situation.

DB has also started calling me from his work cell to check up on how things are going with the kids, say hello to the boys, ask if we need anything etc. Apparently MB found out and texted me one night, letting me know that I should only be communicating through his personal cell phone, not his work phone. Ummm.... he's calling me?

On Friday she came home earlier and started MAKING OUT with her husband right in front of me. It was totally inappropriate.

Anyway, I don't know what her deal is, but I feel like I'm being put in the middle of a situation that has nothing to do with me. Should I tell her to step off? I think she's getting the wrong idea here.

Yeah you sound like a peach and I have a feeling you know EXACTLY what you are doing. If I were you I would start looking for a new job ASAP. I have a feeling you won't be around much longer.

[Anonymous]

You know you want him OP! Don't play damsel in distress.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Omg. I wear leggings to work. Who cares?

Leggings are not pants and are not professional. If you're wearing a dress or tunic with them, that's one thing (your ass is covered), but if you're wearing them with a regular length shirt and your ass is not covered its inappropriate for work. I'm a nanny, and a young one at that (23), and I understand the need to be comfy but what's wrong with yoga pants or jeans?

OP here. And yoga pants don't show your ass? Yoga pants are body conscious, too. Anyway, he is a grown man, if he has sex on the brain then he could find something sexual in a garbage bag if he wanted too. I think she's insecure about her marriage and taking it out on me. I've worn leggings, high heels, tank tops, skirts to work before. I was never given a dress code in my contract, so I wear what I like and what I feel good in. Trust me, there are worse things I could do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You know you want him OP! Don't play damsel in distress.

I don't want him really, I have a boyfriend. If I'm being 100% honest, I could probably have him if I WANTED to, but I have more integrity than that. She just needs to divorce him because if it isn't with me, it'll be with someone else that he cheats.

Anyway, I am going to talk to her this week and see if we can get things back on track.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Omg. I wear leggings to work. Who cares?

Leggings are not pants and are not professional. If you're wearing a dress or tunic with them, that's one thing (your ass is covered), but if you're wearing them with a regular length shirt and your ass is not covered its inappropriate for work. I'm a nanny, and a young one at that (23), and I understand the need to be comfy but what's wrong with yoga pants or jeans?

I don't know what kind of yoga pants YOU'RE wearing but they are just as tight as leggings. And yoga pants are professional in your opinion? Lol your argument is invalid.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Omg. I wear leggings to work. Who cares?

Leggings are not pants and are not professional. If you're wearing a dress or tunic with them, that's one thing (your ass is covered), but if you're wearing them with a regular length shirt and your ass is not covered its inappropriate for work. I'm a nanny, and a young one at that (23), and I understand the need to be comfy but what's wrong with yoga pants or jeans?

OP here. And yoga pants don't show your ass? Yoga pants are body conscious, too. Anyway, he is a grown man, if he has sex on the brain then he could find something sexual in a garbage bag if he wanted too. I think she's insecure about her marriage and taking it out on me. I've worn leggings, high heels, tank tops, skirts to work before. I was never given a dress code in my contract, so I wear what I like and what I feel good in. Trust me, there are worse things I could do.

What nanny wears high heels to work? Even a skirt is iffy, unless you have those leggings underneath. I know that with the kids I am with (and other various ages over the years), high heels and a skirt would be a disaster!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Omg. I wear leggings to work. Who cares?

Leggings are not pants and are not professional. If you're wearing a dress or tunic with them, that's one thing (your ass is covered), but if you're wearing them with a regular length shirt and your ass is not covered its inappropriate for work. I'm a nanny, and a young one at that (23), and I understand the need to be comfy but what's wrong with yoga pants or jeans?

I don't know what kind of yoga pants YOU'RE wearing but they are just as tight as leggings. And yoga pants are professional in your opinion? Lol your argument is invalid.

Yoga pants aren't particularly professional either, but at least no one can argue that they aren't pants. I wear jeans and sweaters to work. I look put together, but its casual enough to run around with kids in. It's really not that hard. My MBs have never had to talk to me about my outfit, nor have they ever been concerned that I'm after their husband.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Omg. I wear leggings to work. Who cares?

Leggings are not pants and are not professional. If you're wearing a dress or tunic with them, that's one thing (your ass is covered), but if you're wearing them with a regular length shirt and your ass is not covered its inappropriate for work. I'm a nanny, and a young one at that (23), and I understand the need to be comfy but what's wrong with yoga pants or jeans?

OP here. And yoga pants don't show your ass? Yoga pants are body conscious, too. Anyway, he is a grown man, if he has sex on the brain then he could find something sexual in a garbage bag if he wanted too. I think she's insecure about her marriage and taking it out on me. I've worn leggings, high heels, tank tops, skirts to work before. I was never given a dress code in my contract, so I wear what I like and what I feel good in. Trust me, there are worse things I could do.

What nanny wears high heels to work? Even a skirt is iffy, unless you have those leggings underneath. I know that with the kids I am with (and other various ages over the years), high heels and a skirt would be a disaster!

+1

I am running around with my charge all day, on the ground, rolling around, etc. This nanny obviously doesn't go to work dressed to work with children.

[Anonymous]

OP fine we get it you don't have a crush on your sleaze ball DB BUT you blame him for giving you a glass of wine. Your passive ass should have said no! Also, unless you have some other rob lined up telling your MB to back off is not a good idea. Also, why the hell do youngest skirt and heels to work? Sexual!!!

[Anonymous]

Agree with PP's - not to blame you, but if something looks inappropriate, than you should stop it, whether you intend that or not. Yes, MB may be insecure and yes she might be getting the wrong impression, but if you were having problems with your significant other and walked in on him/her chatting happily with a member of the opposite sex, wouldn't you feel threatened? As for her placing blame where it lies - with him, that's unlikely given how much she has invested in their relationship. What's easier, admitting that your hubby is an inappropriate sleaze or firing your nanny whom you barely know? I am very friendly with my bosses/co-workers but there's a line and I think here you're crossing it.

[Anonymous]

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What nanny wears high heels to work? Even a skirt is iffy, unless you have those leggings underneath. I know that with the kids I am with (and other various ages over the years), high heels and a skirt would be a disaster!

OP here. I don't watch babies. I don't have to chase them around the house, or roll around on the floor with them. Wearing nice attire doesn't affect my job performance in any way. Do I ALWAYS wear heels? No, if we're going to play tennis or going to the park, I'll dress accordingly. But the type of people this family has me around, and the types of places I have to go with the boys I am not supposed to be wearing tennis shoes and t-shirts all the time. If dressing frumpy works for your job, great, but in my situation that does not always work.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Agree with PP's - not to blame you, but if something looks inappropriate, than you should stop it, whether you intend that or not. Yes, MB may be insecure and yes she might be getting the wrong impression, but if you were having problems with your significant other and walked in on him/her chatting happily with a member of the opposite sex, wouldn't you feel threatened? As for her placing blame where it lies - with him, that's unlikely given how much she has invested in their relationship. What's easier, admitting that your hubby is an inappropriate sleaze or firing your nanny whom you barely know? I am very friendly with my bosses/co-workers but there's a line and I think here you're crossing it.

Yea, I get where you're coming from and I understand why she's upset, it's just not fun to be on the receiving end of the anger. I like wine, DB is a good conversationalist. Sue me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You know you want him OP! Don't play damsel in distress.

I don't want him really, I have a boyfriend. If I'm being 100% honest, I could probably have him if I WANTED to, but I have more integrity than that. She just needs to divorce him because if it isn't with me, it'll be with someone else that he cheats.

Anyway, I am going to talk to her this week and see if we can get things back on track.

lmao omg I hope your MB reads this site and fires your ass. You are disgusting.

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