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Thanks for all the advice! I would definitely pay her regular salary and it would be half the hours, no other family members with kids there. Just trying to figure out what a nightly rate on top of that would be to make it worth it for her.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Regular pay plus an overnight fee is how I’ve always handled it. Fee is $50-$75/night.
That fee isn't worth it.
I used to be a Nanny, depending on the location it is.
Key West or New Orleans for example. I’d have never gone by myself. But to go with a family and work less hours, and be able to go explore when off duty. Would totally have loved that in my 20s.
I've done it and most families promise less hours and its more. You are rarely off duty. Not worth it.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Regular pay plus an overnight fee is how I’ve always handled it. Fee is $50-$75/night.
That fee isn't worth it.
I used to be a Nanny, depending on the location it is.
Key West or New Orleans for example. I’d have never gone by myself. But to go with a family and work less hours, and be able to go explore when off duty. Would totally have loved that in my 20s.
Anonymous wrote:Regular pay plus an overnight fee is how I’ve always handled it. Fee is $50-$75/night.
That fee isn't worth it.
Anonymous wrote:Some of this depends on if you’re in a fun walkable area where she can go explore in her own time vs a beach house in the middle of nowhere with not much to do.
You at least pay the regular salary but I would do a “ travel stipend” too on top of that.
Don’t make her watch other relatives kids either or friends kids, without offering money. That breeds resentment.
Remember what you consider fun or a nice area, she may not. And, she needs access to a car if she drives.
Some of this depends on if you’re in a fun walkable area where she can go explore in her own time vs a beach house in the middle of nowhere with not much to do.
You at least pay the regular salary but I would do a “ travel stipend” too on top of that.
Don’t make her watch other relatives kids either or friends kids, without offering money. That breeds resentment.
You at least pay the regular salary but I would do a “ travel stipend” too on top of that.
Don’t make her watch other relatives kids either or friends kids, without offering money. That breeds resentment.
Regular pay plus an overnight fee is how I’ve always handled it. Fee is $50-$75/night.
Most NFs want the person they are paying to actively ENGAGE with their charge or charges.
Watching a Tv program defeats this purpose.
I pay my nanny to do the three E’s: Educate, Engage and Entertain.
I do not want to spend any of my hard earned money on a nanny who thinks she needs the Tv on just so she can clean up the highchair or load the dishwasher. All of that can and should be done when my children are napping.
Watching a Tv program defeats this purpose.
I pay my nanny to do the three E’s: Educate, Engage and Entertain.
I do not want to spend any of my hard earned money on a nanny who thinks she needs the Tv on just so she can clean up the highchair or load the dishwasher. All of that can and should be done when my children are napping.
I'd say it depends on what she's leaving home to be with you full time for a week. Is she leaving her husband, kids, a boyfriend, nothing?
Even being single she won't be able to enjoy her time off just like she would at home and a domestic vacation is fun for you and maybe not for her.
Families don't realize how working and traveling with them can really be stressful and not fun at all for us nannies.
I'd ask her what she's expecting ?
As a nanny myself I'd be happy with lighter hours, extra cash on top of my regular pay and some little perks here and there - doesn't have to be fancy or expensive.
Even being single she won't be able to enjoy her time off just like she would at home and a domestic vacation is fun for you and maybe not for her.
Families don't realize how working and traveling with them can really be stressful and not fun at all for us nannies.
I'd ask her what she's expecting ?
As a nanny myself I'd be happy with lighter hours, extra cash on top of my regular pay and some little perks here and there - doesn't have to be fancy or expensive.
Hello, I am a former AP and current professional nanny.
I'd personally pick someone that has some kind of education in special needs rather than someone who has an experience with it at home.
It can be tough everyday to deal with it and maybe that AP will be looking for less challenge for her gap year.
As far as the adjustement goes, do you have specific questions ?
I'd personally pick someone that has some kind of education in special needs rather than someone who has an experience with it at home.
It can be tough everyday to deal with it and maybe that AP will be looking for less challenge for her gap year.
As far as the adjustement goes, do you have specific questions ?
Anonymous wrote:I would give her a month notice at least if she’s been with you for years.
And yes a bonus would be nice, not required but nice.
This sounds perfect.
By the way OP, you seem like an excellent employer…..your nanny is also lucky to have worked for a family as generous + loyal such as yours.
Anonymous wrote:These responses are kind of wild to me. I don’t allow my kids TV when the nanny is watching them because I expect her to interact with them. My kids are older and they need a screen time break. I’m out of the house 12 hours a day (nanny works between 9 and 3 hours depending on school time), when I get home I need to relax myself in peace and the kids have tablet time. A nanny is totally welcome not to work for me over this, but I don’t know what I am paying her for if the kid is parked in front of the TV all day. My husband works from home, he could probably just park the kids in front of the TV himself and ignore them all day and we could save a ton of money.
That said, my kids are not 3 or 4. They will leave a nanny alone to do whatever she needs to do, like go to the bathroom or eat or mental health break. She can give my kids an activity and they can do it. Still we had nannies who watched the kids at 3-4 and they didn’t park them in front of TVs.
I find your answer problematic due to the fact that you stated that you expect your nanny to engage with your children.
That is a part of a nanny’s job - just not the only part.
Even at 3 and 4, it is unwise to expect your nanny will consistently play with your children the entire six hours (or 12?)
Even Nannie’s need a brief break during their shift.
Other jobs (yours included) mandate 15 min. work breaks in each employee shift so why can’t the nanny have something similar??
Note: When I say similar I fully acknowledge that an actual employee break is a true break….a nanny whose charges are watching tv is not even the same thing.
Or close to it.
I am sorry if your previous Nannie’s put your children in front of the tv all day.
That is not what the op is about.
The op is simply saying that some tv time should be warranted here, especially since the parents are using it when they are home.
I don’t think the reason that parents do not want their kids watching screens when the kids are in the care of their Nannie’s is due to any damage that excessive TV watching can cause to the child.
The reason is that parents who are paying a person to care for their kids want that person to be actively engaged with their kids the entire time that they are “on the clock” for lack of a better term.
If the nanny is passively sitting on the sofa watching TV even for only twenty minutes, than that is twenty minutes that she could be emptying the dishwasher, wiping off the counters or sweeping the kitchen floor.
Parents do not want to pay someone for simply watching television while they are supposed to be working.
The reason is that parents who are paying a person to care for their kids want that person to be actively engaged with their kids the entire time that they are “on the clock” for lack of a better term.
If the nanny is passively sitting on the sofa watching TV even for only twenty minutes, than that is twenty minutes that she could be emptying the dishwasher, wiping off the counters or sweeping the kitchen floor.
Parents do not want to pay someone for simply watching television while they are supposed to be working.
Remember this is your vacation not hers. You may have her working far more and if she's in the house she's still a responsible adult. You absolutely pay her more as she's away from home and its not a vacation for her, its work. And, let her know its ok to say no (I did that once and it was miserable - working 10-12 hours a day as even if parents were there they were relaxing and not caring for the kids, they also didn't clean up so I was the housekeeper too).
When I travel with families I’m automatically paid at least what I normally earn, even with fewer hours. Plus I was given extra cash for my meals out on my own, as I don’t have access to my kitchen.
Private room is a basic. I understand how this arrangement seems like a fun thing for the nanny, but many of her nanny friends usually get fully paid time off when the families travel. My employer always wanted me to have a very nice time so I’d be agreeable to travel with them again.
Private room is a basic. I understand how this arrangement seems like a fun thing for the nanny, but many of her nanny friends usually get fully paid time off when the families travel. My employer always wanted me to have a very nice time so I’d be agreeable to travel with them again.
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