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I know this definitely isn’t normal but I was a nanny for two preschool aged twins two years. They had ok move to uk for dads work. They paid me weekly for a whole year ! We are still in contact today. Again I know it’s not the norm but I was blessed. Can you afford you afford to psy her 7 months deference since she was with you so long and is wonderful ? Good luck to you sll snd wish her the bestv
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:MB here. I would go. My kid had these appointments and they are fine, you just play in the room while they get a small dose every 30 minutes. Your job is to engage. You are engaging with the baby, just not in the usual environment.
If I were the mom and you couldn’t come to be an extra set of hands I would start looking for a new nanny. If you refuse to go, don’t expect her to be nice and flexible when you need time off, since she’ll have to miss half a day of work for each appointment.
Environments like yours are what’s unhealthy for an in home employee. Asking a lot while paying very little. The Nannie’s that are calling OP lazy are classic “pick me” Nannie’s that do everything they’re told and still get fired. She did nothing wrong no means no especially if there are other children. OP stand firm on your choices but if I were you I’d stop doing tasks that aren’t in your contract even if you’re just trying to help because now the situation you’re stuck in is, it’s mandatory. Go into these nanny jobs with no feelings because these families have none. Someone actually said that the dad is working to pay the nanny true but it’s still his job to be a parent it’s not the Nanny’s job to manage an entire household on a nanny salary hire a governess or a household manager for that or pay her what one will make. The way some of you think is yuck.
The discussion is about taking a child under your care during the day to a doctors appointment as the parents work, which is why they hired a nanny. No one is asking them to take care of the family, they are being asked to take care of the kids they are in charge of. I would terminate the nanny too. I'd expect a nanny to help with medical appointments, as most cannot take that much time off work which is why you hire a nanny, do the kids laundry, keep the areas the kids are in during the day picked up, clean the kids rooms and do the laundry
she said it's not in her contract so big fat NO! The moms because no man will be cackling like this on the internet, the moms on this thread and every thread on this platform says things they normally wouldn't say to their nanny so they get on here to let it all out. A nanny's job is to care for children, tidy their play rooms, engage, feedetc. Medical runs aren't mandatory and when I was hired by a very popular agency I was told doctors appointments, distributing medicines are better left for the parents to do. If it's in the contract that they are responsible for drs appointments they can't fire her and if they do I hope she sues.
Employees are at will. You can be fired for any reason. If the parents cannot keep their jobs because of the child's needs and the nany will not help, they will lose their job so common sense is to fire the nanny and hire a more willing one.
What a silly thing to say, contracts are there for a reason. Attorney and a mom here, If it's not in the contract there's no such thing as "fire the nanny" she said they put in the contract they're responsible for Dr appointments so they're responsible that's it. Why is that so hard to understand? Our contract states all duties and responsibilities and if I need help with something outside of the contract I ask but I make sure our nanny knows it's ok to say no because it's not in the contract. Any corporation is like this, if it's not in the job description, contract, agreement etc, lawfully the employee can say no and if they get terminated, they can most definitely look into a breach of contract lawsuit. I've seen it happen many times especially with domestic workers. My advice to everyone on this post both parents and nannies is to make sure you know what you're signing and parents make sure you are clear with what you expect from your nanny because you can't come back later after a document is signed by both parties to change anything and or ask for additional duties. Nannies you have rights as well and if it's not in your contract if you don't agree and you get terminated seek legal counsel.
Anonymous wrote:Sounds like this isn’t a good fit for you. You should give notice so they can find someone who meets their needs.
OP here! I did, and I start in August. I already signed my contract. These comments are hilarious because I briefed you on the basics and every comment someone has some weird response. One thing that's certain, I have been in the buisness for a very long time and because of my references I can get work anywhere. I've only been working for them for one year and that's enough for me. I most certainly wish there was a way to upload pictures of her text so I can show how much she appreciated my help and did admit after I gave my notice that she understands that the work environment has been a bit tough because of their personal dynamic. IDC about the negative comments it's all just noise I'm thankful I have self awareness otherwise these hateful responses would've bothered me. BTW I'm their 4th nanny this was my bad I should've known.
Screens aren’t good for kids. Good Nannie’s are aware of that. Get the 3 y/o interested in Vox books, have a craft she can only do after lunch, yes you need a moment but the TV isn’t the only option.
Anonymous wrote:You need to charge about half the going rate. What you’re offering is akin to a nanny share.
If you watch another baby and the rate would be $25 you offer to do it for $12-15.
Most nanny-shares pay 2/3 going rate each, so she could ask for $18 IMO.
What’s going to matter is that it seems to the parents that they’re not just funding your SAH parenting. Have a plan in place for how you’re going to give appropriate attention to both kids, how you’re going to deal if your child is sick, doctors appointments, etc.
Sounds like this isn’t a good fit for you. You should give notice so they can find someone who meets their needs.
Anonymous wrote:If the appointment falls within your work hours then you should be going with her to the appointment.
This.
I'm shocked this is even a question.
Any updates?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:MB here. I would go. My kid had these appointments and they are fine, you just play in the room while they get a small dose every 30 minutes. Your job is to engage. You are engaging with the baby, just not in the usual environment.
If I were the mom and you couldn’t come to be an extra set of hands I would start looking for a new nanny. If you refuse to go, don’t expect her to be nice and flexible when you need time off, since she’ll have to miss half a day of work for each appointment.
Environments like yours are what’s unhealthy for an in home employee. Asking a lot while paying very little. The Nannie’s that are calling OP lazy are classic “pick me” Nannie’s that do everything they’re told and still get fired. She did nothing wrong no means no especially if there are other children. OP stand firm on your choices but if I were you I’d stop doing tasks that aren’t in your contract even if you’re just trying to help because now the situation you’re stuck in is, it’s mandatory. Go into these nanny jobs with no feelings because these families have none. Someone actually said that the dad is working to pay the nanny true but it’s still his job to be a parent it’s not the Nanny’s job to manage an entire household on a nanny salary hire a governess or a household manager for that or pay her what one will make. The way some of you think is yuck.
The discussion is about taking a child under your care during the day to a doctors appointment as the parents work, which is why they hired a nanny. No one is asking them to take care of the family, they are being asked to take care of the kids they are in charge of. I would terminate the nanny too. I'd expect a nanny to help with medical appointments, as most cannot take that much time off work which is why you hire a nanny, do the kids laundry, keep the areas the kids are in during the day picked up, clean the kids rooms and do the laundry
she said it's not in her contract so big fat NO! The moms because no man will be cackling like this on the internet, the moms on this thread and every thread on this platform says things they normally wouldn't say to their nanny so they get on here to let it all out. A nanny's job is to care for children, tidy their play rooms, engage, feedetc. Medical runs aren't mandatory and when I was hired by a very popular agency I was told doctors appointments, distributing medicines are better left for the parents to do. If it's in the contract that they are responsible for drs appointments they can't fire her and if they do I hope she sues.
Employees are at will. You can be fired for any reason. If the parents cannot keep their jobs because of the child's needs and the nany will not help, they will lose their job so common sense is to fire the nanny and hire a more willing one.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Nanny here. I would have said yes to a one time thing but every week ? That's a nightmare.
Your main problem is that you never learned to say no, even after 25 years of nannying. Cooking for the whole family is not ok and doing their laundry either, unless you get extra cash for it and are happy to do it.
Give your hand, they'll eat your arm.
They never asked her to!! Nanny did extra tasks of her own choosing.
The parents complain they don't have the "time" to do it and we - nannies - end up doing the task to ease their burden.
That's how it's always been unless you learn to not offer your help or say no when asked. And some parents are very manipulative into getting you to do it.
These parents are working 8-10+ hours a day on top of being parents, caring for the house and other needs. YOUR job is to care for the kids and the kids needs. If its taking kids to medical appointments, that's your job. Your job is also to cook, clean and do laundry for the kids. I'm assuming you don't have kids of your own if you think all of this is so easy as a parent when you are working. Whats the point of a nanny if they aren't going to do these things.
lol no it is YOUR job to take your own child to the Dr, It is YOUR job to clean your home, it is YOUR job to cook. The mom I work for meal preps her baby's food for the week, she washes all her baby's laundry from the weekend so there's no laundry pile up at the beginning of the week, when the baby is done playing at night she cleans up just the way I left it for the next day, and shes a single mom. There are parents that actually work and still perform minor duties for their kids it's called BALANCE. A nanny is there to make sure your kids are happy, safe, active and fed when you're not around. WE ARE NOT YOUR PERSONAL SLAVES. The nannies that agree to jump at your beck and call are at the park or library speaking poorly about your family and soon the entire neighborhood knows who you are and not for good reason.
You are incredibly lazy. You should be doing the baby's laundry and food. That's YOUR job. Its not being a slave. Its about caring for a child. You are a glorified babysitter keepign the kid alive. So, you just sit on the sofa all day on your phone keeping the kid alive? How will you manage if you have your own kids?
yep she hates it there
Yikes!!! What an exhausting thread. Opinions are like buttholes everybody has one.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Nanny here. I would have said yes to a one time thing but every week ? That's a nightmare.
Your main problem is that you never learned to say no, even after 25 years of nannying. Cooking for the whole family is not ok and doing their laundry either, unless you get extra cash for it and are happy to do it.
Give your hand, they'll eat your arm.
They never asked her to!! Nanny did extra tasks of her own choosing.
The parents complain they don't have the "time" to do it and we - nannies - end up doing the task to ease their burden.
That's how it's always been unless you learn to not offer your help or say no when asked. And some parents are very manipulative into getting you to do it.
These parents are working 8-10+ hours a day on top of being parents, caring for the house and other needs. YOUR job is to care for the kids and the kids needs. If its taking kids to medical appointments, that's your job. Your job is also to cook, clean and do laundry for the kids. I'm assuming you don't have kids of your own if you think all of this is so easy as a parent when you are working. Whats the point of a nanny if they aren't going to do these things.
lol no it is YOUR job to take your own child to the Dr, It is YOUR job to clean your home, it is YOUR job to cook. The mom I work for meal preps her baby's food for the week, she washes all her baby's laundry from the weekend so there's no laundry pile up at the beginning of the week, when the baby is done playing at night she cleans up just the way I left it for the next day, and shes a single mom. There are parents that actually work and still perform minor duties for their kids it's called BALANCE. A nanny is there to make sure your kids are happy, safe, active and fed when you're not around. WE ARE NOT YOUR PERSONAL SLAVES. The nannies that agree to jump at your beck and call are at the park or library speaking poorly about your family and soon the entire neighborhood knows who you are and not for good reason.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:MB here. I would go. My kid had these appointments and they are fine, you just play in the room while they get a small dose every 30 minutes. Your job is to engage. You are engaging with the baby, just not in the usual environment.
If I were the mom and you couldn’t come to be an extra set of hands I would start looking for a new nanny. If you refuse to go, don’t expect her to be nice and flexible when you need time off, since she’ll have to miss half a day of work for each appointment.
Environments like yours are what’s unhealthy for an in home employee. Asking a lot while paying very little. The Nannie’s that are calling OP lazy are classic “pick me” Nannie’s that do everything they’re told and still get fired. She did nothing wrong no means no especially if there are other children. OP stand firm on your choices but if I were you I’d stop doing tasks that aren’t in your contract even if you’re just trying to help because now the situation you’re stuck in is, it’s mandatory. Go into these nanny jobs with no feelings because these families have none. Someone actually said that the dad is working to pay the nanny true but it’s still his job to be a parent it’s not the Nanny’s job to manage an entire household on a nanny salary hire a governess or a household manager for that or pay her what one will make. The way some of you think is yuck.
The discussion is about taking a child under your care during the day to a doctors appointment as the parents work, which is why they hired a nanny. No one is asking them to take care of the family, they are being asked to take care of the kids they are in charge of. I would terminate the nanny too. I'd expect a nanny to help with medical appointments, as most cannot take that much time off work which is why you hire a nanny, do the kids laundry, keep the areas the kids are in during the day picked up, clean the kids rooms and do the laundry
she said it's not in her contract so big fat NO! The moms because no man will be cackling like this on the internet, the moms on this thread and every thread on this platform says things they normally wouldn't say to their nanny so they get on here to let it all out. A nanny's job is to care for children, tidy their play rooms, engage, feedetc. Medical runs aren't mandatory and when I was hired by a very popular agency I was told doctors appointments, distributing medicines are better left for the parents to do. If it's in the contract that they are responsible for drs appointments they can't fire her and if they do I hope she sues.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Nanny here. I would have said yes to a one time thing but every week ? That's a nightmare.
Your main problem is that you never learned to say no, even after 25 years of nannying. Cooking for the whole family is not ok and doing their laundry either, unless you get extra cash for it and are happy to do it.
Give your hand, they'll eat your arm.
They never asked her to!! Nanny did extra tasks of her own choosing.
The parents complain they don't have the "time" to do it and we - nannies - end up doing the task to ease their burden.
That's how it's always been unless you learn to not offer your help or say no when asked. And some parents are very manipulative into getting you to do it.
These parents are working 8-10+ hours a day on top of being parents, caring for the house and other needs. YOUR job is to care for the kids and the kids needs. If its taking kids to medical appointments, that's your job. Your job is also to cook, clean and do laundry for the kids. I'm assuming you don't have kids of your own if you think all of this is so easy as a parent when you are working. Whats the point of a nanny if they aren't going to do these things.
Hi I'm a nanny and the family I work for are very strict about sticking to the contract. Medical appointments are the responsibility of parents and they gladly do it. if it is in the contract about such things OP is right to not do it. She said their are other kids this appointment is 3 hours and she has to sit there that long I wouldn't want to do it either and if that get me fired so be it. I read so many complaint on here and some parents want their nanny to perform miracles. If you can hardly manage what makes you think the nanny can.
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