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Hello! We are looking for a great nanny to take care of our six month old baby.
We have interviewed many nannies from facebook groups, referred by other families, nextdoor, here, etc, and we keep being disappointed. We seem to be not getting a good group of candidates, even though we have a pretty decent compensation package (vacation, holidays, guaranteed hours, $30/hr for one baby and no housekeeping, etc).
Where do high quality nannies look for jobs? How can we connect with them? Agencies seem ridiculously expensive so we'd rather not go that route.
Thanks!
We have interviewed many nannies from facebook groups, referred by other families, nextdoor, here, etc, and we keep being disappointed. We seem to be not getting a good group of candidates, even though we have a pretty decent compensation package (vacation, holidays, guaranteed hours, $30/hr for one baby and no housekeeping, etc).
Where do high quality nannies look for jobs? How can we connect with them? Agencies seem ridiculously expensive so we'd rather not go that route.
Thanks!
Studies around children and screen time:
https://health.choc.org/the-effects-of-screen-time-on-children-the-latest-research-parents-should-know/
https://www.unicef.org/parenting/child-development/babies-screen-time
https://www.hackensackmeridianhealth.org/en/healthu/2023/09/11/screen-time-and-developmental-delays
The argument of "my kids watched TV and they're fine" is idiotic at best. A few decades ago, cars didn't have seat belts. Since people survived without seat belts, will you stop using them?
https://health.choc.org/the-effects-of-screen-time-on-children-the-latest-research-parents-should-know/
https://www.unicef.org/parenting/child-development/babies-screen-time
https://www.hackensackmeridianhealth.org/en/healthu/2023/09/11/screen-time-and-developmental-delays
The argument of "my kids watched TV and they're fine" is idiotic at best. A few decades ago, cars didn't have seat belts. Since people survived without seat belts, will you stop using them?
Hopefully four mos later you have found a new family to work for. One who shows you respect op!
I think an eight to nine hour day with two kids 3 and under is a long long day.
If the three year old does not want to take a nap (naps are usually hit or miss at this stage) then I would set up a definite “quiet time” mid-day.
Still the parents should not micromanage your screen time while you are working.
They need to give you your autonomy and let you be in charge since that is what they are paying you to do, right?
Being micromanaged is one of my top pet peeves working as a nanny.
And unfortunately for you one parent telecommutes which usually means you WILL be micromanaged in some way, shape or form.
If the three year old does not want to take a nap (naps are usually hit or miss at this stage) then I would set up a definite “quiet time” mid-day.
Still the parents should not micromanage your screen time while you are working.
They need to give you your autonomy and let you be in charge since that is what they are paying you to do, right?
Being micromanaged is one of my top pet peeves working as a nanny.
And unfortunately for you one parent telecommutes which usually means you WILL be micromanaged in some way, shape or form.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I know this definitely isn’t normal but I was a nanny for two preschool aged twins two years. They had ok move to uk for dads work. They paid me weekly for a whole year ! We are still in contact today. Again I know it’s not the norm but I was blessed. Can you afford you afford to psy her 7 months deference since she was with you so long and is wonderful ? Good luck to you sll snd wish her the bestv
7 months to a year of pay is absurd. Nanny has to know her time is coming to an end with older kids. You give her 2-4 weeks notice, help her find another job then a few weeks bonus.
You are absurd to be so critical of parents who can so generously express their appreciation.
Many parents who hire subpar care, get to pay up down the road to their child’s therapist. Beware.
As a private employer, you are not legally required to observe federal holidays and provide paid time off (only federal employees are guaranteed paid time on federal holidays). However, many private employers observe certain federal holidays, and as noted above, generally, the practice is to negotiate certain holidays in writing with your nanny. We have a written policy with our nanny regarding which federal holidays she has off. Fair Labor Standards Act does not require employers to pay time and a half or any other premium rate for working on a federal holiday (although a few states do but DC does not), but if working on a federal holiday means she is working more than 40/hours a week, than she would be owed overtime pay.
Anonymous wrote:I know this definitely isn’t normal but I was a nanny for two preschool aged twins two years. They had ok move to uk for dads work. They paid me weekly for a whole year ! We are still in contact today. Again I know it’s not the norm but I was blessed. Can you afford you afford to psy her 7 months deference since she was with you so long and is wonderful ? Good luck to you sll snd wish her the bestv
7 months to a year of pay is absurd. Nanny has to know her time is coming to an end with older kids. You give her 2-4 weeks notice, help her find another job then a few weeks bonus.
This is an old thread. But it’s most important for parents to give your child’s beloved nanny a beautiful, heartfelt reference letter. An excellent, dedicated nanny deserves that.
Every so often, I open my file of reference letters. I remember so many tiny details about each child, and dearly loved every one of them.
I will always feel humbled to have been entrusted with the essential work of providing the highest level of care that I could.
The mother that I remember most fondly, was the one who at the end of every day greeted me with enthusiasm and curiosity. She attentively listened the highlights of our adventures. She was exceptionally appreciative of my dedication to her child’s wellbeing, and never missed a day expressing it.
Every so often, I open my file of reference letters. I remember so many tiny details about each child, and dearly loved every one of them.
I will always feel humbled to have been entrusted with the essential work of providing the highest level of care that I could.
The mother that I remember most fondly, was the one who at the end of every day greeted me with enthusiasm and curiosity. She attentively listened the highlights of our adventures. She was exceptionally appreciative of my dedication to her child’s wellbeing, and never missed a day expressing it.
jhonsmith wrote:You make a strong point—trust is such a huge part of the nanny-parent relationship. If a nanny is doing a great job caring for the kids, restricting something as simple as turning on the TV (especially in moderation) can definitely feel like unnecessary micromanaging. Mutual respect should be at the core of any working relationship, especially one as personal as this.
This.
So many Nannies object strongly to being micromanaged since they crave complete autonomy.
The nanny profession is unique in that being 100 percent responsible for another person can get murky if there are numerous barriers to prevent a nanny to perform her job duties in an effective manner.
Tv is not harmful for a child’s development.
This is a complete fallacy.
I have never seen scientific results from a child being harmed developmentally from early childhood television exposure.
This is a complete fallacy.
I have never seen scientific results from a child being harmed developmentally from early childhood television exposure.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:MB here. I would go. My kid had these appointments and they are fine, you just play in the room while they get a small dose every 30 minutes. Your job is to engage. You are engaging with the baby, just not in the usual environment.
If I were the mom and you couldn’t come to be an extra set of hands I would start looking for a new nanny. If you refuse to go, don’t expect her to be nice and flexible when you need time off, since she’ll have to miss half a day of work for each appointment.
Environments like yours are what’s unhealthy for an in home employee. Asking a lot while paying very little. The Nannie’s that are calling OP lazy are classic “pick me” Nannie’s that do everything they’re told and still get fired. She did nothing wrong no means no especially if there are other children. OP stand firm on your choices but if I were you I’d stop doing tasks that aren’t in your contract even if you’re just trying to help because now the situation you’re stuck in is, it’s mandatory. Go into these nanny jobs with no feelings because these families have none. Someone actually said that the dad is working to pay the nanny true but it’s still his job to be a parent it’s not the Nanny’s job to manage an entire household on a nanny salary hire a governess or a household manager for that or pay her what one will make. The way some of you think is yuck.
The discussion is about taking a child under your care during the day to a doctors appointment as the parents work, which is why they hired a nanny. No one is asking them to take care of the family, they are being asked to take care of the kids they are in charge of. I would terminate the nanny too. I'd expect a nanny to help with medical appointments, as most cannot take that much time off work which is why you hire a nanny, do the kids laundry, keep the areas the kids are in during the day picked up, clean the kids rooms and do the laundry
she said it's not in her contract so big fat NO! The moms because no man will be cackling like this on the internet, the moms on this thread and every thread on this platform says things they normally wouldn't say to their nanny so they get on here to let it all out. A nanny's job is to care for children, tidy their play rooms, engage, feedetc. Medical runs aren't mandatory and when I was hired by a very popular agency I was told doctors appointments, distributing medicines are better left for the parents to do. If it's in the contract that they are responsible for drs appointments they can't fire her and if they do I hope she sues.
Employees are at will. You can be fired for any reason. If the parents cannot keep their jobs because of the child's needs and the nany will not help, they will lose their job so common sense is to fire the nanny and hire a more willing one.
What a silly thing to say, contracts are there for a reason. Attorney and a mom here, If it's not in the contract there's no such thing as "fire the nanny" she said they put in the contract they're responsible for Dr appointments so they're responsible that's it. Why is that so hard to understand? Our contract states all duties and responsibilities and if I need help with something outside of the contract I ask but I make sure our nanny knows it's ok to say no because it's not in the contract. Any corporation is like this, if it's not in the job description, contract, agreement etc, lawfully the employee can say no and if they get terminated, they can most definitely look into a breach of contract lawsuit. I've seen it happen many times especially with domestic workers. My advice to everyone on this post both parents and nannies is to make sure you know what you're signing and parents make sure you are clear with what you expect from your nanny because you can't come back later after a document is signed by both parties to change anything and or ask for additional duties. Nannies you have rights as well and if it's not in your contract if you don't agree and you get terminated seek legal counsel.
The responsibility is child care and it’s not an unreasonable ask
It's unreasonable if it's not in the contract.
Anonymous wrote:What’s the big deal ? I did it as a nanny. You’re getting paid ! Why you complaining ? If it bothers you such much go wiejbarvacdayyvcaee
That’s why you go to the park to complain to your nanny friends about the parents. Problem is there are Nannie’s like you that accept anything and do anything because you’re getting “paid.” Gtfoh value yourself. A contact is a legal document and if it’s not in there they can’t ask the nanny to do it.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:MB here. I would go. My kid had these appointments and they are fine, you just play in the room while they get a small dose every 30 minutes. Your job is to engage. You are engaging with the baby, just not in the usual environment.
If I were the mom and you couldn’t come to be an extra set of hands I would start looking for a new nanny. If you refuse to go, don’t expect her to be nice and flexible when you need time off, since she’ll have to miss half a day of work for each appointment.
Environments like yours are what’s unhealthy for an in home employee. Asking a lot while paying very little. The Nannie’s that are calling OP lazy are classic “pick me” Nannie’s that do everything they’re told and still get fired. She did nothing wrong no means no especially if there are other children. OP stand firm on your choices but if I were you I’d stop doing tasks that aren’t in your contract even if you’re just trying to help because now the situation you’re stuck in is, it’s mandatory. Go into these nanny jobs with no feelings because these families have none. Someone actually said that the dad is working to pay the nanny true but it’s still his job to be a parent it’s not the Nanny’s job to manage an entire household on a nanny salary hire a governess or a household manager for that or pay her what one will make. The way some of you think is yuck.
The discussion is about taking a child under your care during the day to a doctors appointment as the parents work, which is why they hired a nanny. No one is asking them to take care of the family, they are being asked to take care of the kids they are in charge of. I would terminate the nanny too. I'd expect a nanny to help with medical appointments, as most cannot take that much time off work which is why you hire a nanny, do the kids laundry, keep the areas the kids are in during the day picked up, clean the kids rooms and do the laundry
she said it's not in her contract so big fat NO! The moms because no man will be cackling like this on the internet, the moms on this thread and every thread on this platform says things they normally wouldn't say to their nanny so they get on here to let it all out. A nanny's job is to care for children, tidy their play rooms, engage, feedetc. Medical runs aren't mandatory and when I was hired by a very popular agency I was told doctors appointments, distributing medicines are better left for the parents to do. If it's in the contract that they are responsible for drs appointments they can't fire her and if they do I hope she sues.
Employees are at will. You can be fired for any reason. If the parents cannot keep their jobs because of the child's needs and the nany will not help, they will lose their job so common sense is to fire the nanny and hire a more willing one.
What a silly thing to say, contracts are there for a reason. Attorney and a mom here, If it's not in the contract there's no such thing as "fire the nanny" she said they put in the contract they're responsible for Dr appointments so they're responsible that's it. Why is that so hard to understand? Our contract states all duties and responsibilities and if I need help with something outside of the contract I ask but I make sure our nanny knows it's ok to say no because it's not in the contract. Any corporation is like this, if it's not in the job description, contract, agreement etc, lawfully the employee can say no and if they get terminated, they can most definitely look into a breach of contract lawsuit. I've seen it happen many times especially with domestic workers. My advice to everyone on this post both parents and nannies is to make sure you know what you're signing and parents make sure you are clear with what you expect from your nanny because you can't come back later after a document is signed by both parties to change anything and or ask for additional duties. Nannies you have rights as well and if it's not in your contract if you don't agree and you get terminated seek legal counsel.
The responsibility is child care and it’s not an unreasonable ask
Oh but it is stuck to the contract period!
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:MB here. I would go. My kid had these appointments and they are fine, you just play in the room while they get a small dose every 30 minutes. Your job is to engage. You are engaging with the baby, just not in the usual environment.
If I were the mom and you couldn’t come to be an extra set of hands I would start looking for a new nanny. If you refuse to go, don’t expect her to be nice and flexible when you need time off, since she’ll have to miss half a day of work for each appointment.
Environments like yours are what’s unhealthy for an in home employee. Asking a lot while paying very little. The Nannie’s that are calling OP lazy are classic “pick me” Nannie’s that do everything they’re told and still get fired. She did nothing wrong no means no especially if there are other children. OP stand firm on your choices but if I were you I’d stop doing tasks that aren’t in your contract even if you’re just trying to help because now the situation you’re stuck in is, it’s mandatory. Go into these nanny jobs with no feelings because these families have none. Someone actually said that the dad is working to pay the nanny true but it’s still his job to be a parent it’s not the Nanny’s job to manage an entire household on a nanny salary hire a governess or a household manager for that or pay her what one will make. The way some of you think is yuck.
The discussion is about taking a child under your care during the day to a doctors appointment as the parents work, which is why they hired a nanny. No one is asking them to take care of the family, they are being asked to take care of the kids they are in charge of. I would terminate the nanny too. I'd expect a nanny to help with medical appointments, as most cannot take that much time off work which is why you hire a nanny, do the kids laundry, keep the areas the kids are in during the day picked up, clean the kids rooms and do the laundry
she said it's not in her contract so big fat NO! The moms because no man will be cackling like this on the internet, the moms on this thread and every thread on this platform says things they normally wouldn't say to their nanny so they get on here to let it all out. A nanny's job is to care for children, tidy their play rooms, engage, feedetc. Medical runs aren't mandatory and when I was hired by a very popular agency I was told doctors appointments, distributing medicines are better left for the parents to do. If it's in the contract that they are responsible for drs appointments they can't fire her and if they do I hope she sues.
Employees are at will. You can be fired for any reason. If the parents cannot keep their jobs because of the child's needs and the nany will not help, they will lose their job so common sense is to fire the nanny and hire a more willing one.
What a silly thing to say, contracts are there for a reason. Attorney and a mom here, If it's not in the contract there's no such thing as "fire the nanny" she said they put in the contract they're responsible for Dr appointments so they're responsible that's it. Why is that so hard to understand? Our contract states all duties and responsibilities and if I need help with something outside of the contract I ask but I make sure our nanny knows it's ok to say no because it's not in the contract. Any corporation is like this, if it's not in the job description, contract, agreement etc, lawfully the employee can say no and if they get terminated, they can most definitely look into a breach of contract lawsuit. I've seen it happen many times especially with domestic workers. My advice to everyone on this post both parents and nannies is to make sure you know what you're signing and parents make sure you are clear with what you expect from your nanny because you can't come back later after a document is signed by both parties to change anything and or ask for additional duties. Nannies you have rights as well and if it's not in your contract if you don't agree and you get terminated seek legal counsel.
The responsibility is child care and it’s not an unreasonable ask
What’s the big deal ? I did it as a nanny. You’re getting paid ! Why you complaining ? If it bothers you such much go wiejbarvacdayyvcaee
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