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Anonymous wrote:My goodfriend hired a "friend" to be her nanny. I use quotations because they were friendly but def not kind of friends to hang out ever. I think they went out once with husbands. And they went to the nanny's wedding. Everyone is way too friendly for my taste. But whatever.
Thing is the husband has free range to go over to work with the nanny anytime. Like a random Tuesday he is there allllll day just working from there or going with nanny and kids places. And then my friend and her husband come home and everyone has a good chat.
They think its normal and fine. I think its weird. And I hate sending my kid over for a PD not knowing if he will be there. I'm about to stop going over all togethe .
Not your business, get a life and stay out of theirs. If this works for them who are you to judge?! Grow up!
Anonymous wrote:We are first time parents and hired a nanny for 25 hours a week a few weeks ago. We met her desired hourly wage and provide pretty decent benefits (PTO, sick leave, holiday pay). Our son seems to like her, and she is kind and enthusiastic, but not what I would consider a very seasoned nanny.
That would all be fine, but since she started with us she has been constantly pushing for more hours, and asking about our finances (ie, how much does our housing cost). I work part time in order to spend more time with my kid, which I have tried to explain to her, but she keeps asking why I can't work more hours so we can employ her more often and pay for her transportation like her previous family did.
we are not in a financial position to be the employer she wants us to be, and to be honest, the constant questions are intrusive and annoying. But DS likes her and I hate to make a woman in a bad financial situation even worse off.
Any advice?
I'm a nanny! If I accept a position with a certain understanding about my pay rate etc. there is absolutely no need to discuss anything further. She is VERY intrusive and there are boundaries. Bottom line is if the hours discussed written or verbal, weren't to her liking or it was unacceptable to her she should not have accepted the position. To be honest a lot of nannies have this fantasy in their heads that all families are loaded like the Kardashians or something and they are entitled because it's a private position, to be paid six figures yearly. Nannies GET REAL! Not every family is out to take advantage if us, NOT every family is rolling in money and last I checked if a family can afford it a nanny is paid based on experience, so be good and fair to the ones that respect us and be thankful for a job.. Op if you are unhappy by your nanny's questions address it professionally and move on, if you are uncomfortable start looking else where for care..
Anonymous wrote:OP here, Nanny has been with since I returned from my maternity leave. My twins were two month old at the time and are now about to turn 2. So it's been quite a time.But I'm worried she might not be able to care for them as she has always been with her pregnancy. though she says she will be fine.
As for her plans to come back , nanny says, she would rather not have us expecting her to come back after giving birth, and disappoint us if for any reason she can't come back then. Should we let her go now and find another replacement ? As she is not coming back anyway?
Nanny here! Please ignore the negative comments. You are clearly trying to work with your nanny. However to be quite honest dealing with multiples require quite a bit of energy and being pregnant even though it's still early just might be a bit tough for her. In any event you should sit and think about it, chat with your husband. Please start searching for a backup plan. It will suck to be stuck without care should your nanny decide that she can't do it anymore..
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