Nannya husband always around.
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My goodfriend hired a "friend" to be her nanny. I use quotations because they were friendly but def not kind of friends to hang out ever. I think they went out once with husbands. And they went to the nanny's wedding. Everyone is way too friendly for my taste. But whatever.
Thing is the husband has free range to go over to work with the nanny anytime. Like a random Tuesday he is there allllll day just working from there or going with nanny and kids places. And then my friend and her husband come home and everyone has a good chat. They think its normal and fine. I think its weird. And I hate sending my kid over for a PD not knowing if he will be there. I'm about to stop going over all togethe . |
Anonymous
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So don't send your kid over.
Otherwise none of this is any of your business. If they have no problem with it, and all the adults know each other and get along, why on earth do you care? |
Anonymous
| I am a nanny who's husband will come over sometimes as well. He comes to the kids bday parties and we occasionally do dinner with my bosses. I honestly don't see the issue. The kids love when he's over, and it's nice to be able to spend some extra time with him. I work in a higher end home with my current job, but most of my jobs he has been allowed over. Especially when I watch the kids for a date night. What don't you like about it? |
Anonymous
| Well don't send your child there! End of story. |
Anonymous
| Why are you so pissed? You sound insecure, petty and unhappy. Is it that you don't like to share your friends with this new girl and her husband. Personally I like that the husband goes there…it creates a family bond rather than a servant-Boss relationship and that's good for the kids to see that. They respect the nanny more when it's that way. |
Anonymous
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I don't understand how people are OK having some guy they don't really know around their kids!! They still run around naked! And he's seen them at bath time and even changing diapers. I just don't get it.
Also what kind of job let's you bring your SIG other all the time? |
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Anonymous
| Nanny here. While I would never do this, I have interviewed with two single moms who were specifically looking for a nanny with a husband or long-term boyfriend who would be willing to come over occasionally. They both wanted to show the kids that there are healthy relationships and provide an adult male role model for their boys. No, one wasn't willing to pay the husband or boyfriend, because she didn't want to do payroll for a second person, but she was willing to do an additional week's pay for the nanny any week that the guy would spend at least 6 hours with the kids and nanny. The other was planning on adding the guy to payroll. In both cases, they required the same background check for him that they were going to do for the nanny. |
Anonymous
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I think it's nice for children to be around both sexes. The only concern is wether they are safe adults. In this situation it seems like both are trusted and well liked by the family. It's also nice for men to get experience being around children. My DH was so uncomfortable around other children. He always felt that people would look at him funny if he took any interactive role. I find this so sad and I think it's great that he can interact with my nanny families.
On a side note depending on the nannies ethnicity. If she is Hispanic I have noticed that the men are very comfortable around kids. I am sure it has a lot to do with close family ties, and I find it refreshing and sweet. If you have a problem with the husband don't send your kid otherwise embrace it. |
Anonymous
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"Everyone is way to friendly for my taste", "I think its weird", "I hate sending my kids there" "random guy", "I just don't get it". You choice of words show your disapproval of this relationship as if you are personally affected by it….if you ask me, it shouldn't have anything to do with you at all, simply don't send your kids there. And please don't insinuate creepy things because not everyone is a sexual predator.
My boyfriend used to come pick me up every friday….he would meet us at the park at 4pm run around with my charge;something I couldn't do because I was too tired to keep up with him. The boy loved him so much because they would just go bananas at the playground. We would come home do bath (and yes he saw him naked many times and even changed his diapers too), dinner until parents get there…some days we ate dinner there with them as well. It was great! I suggest you move on, the end. |
Anonymous
| If your kid is still in diapers you have no business sending them over without you. Their nanny is not your babysitter. |
Anonymous
Quite agreed. And if you are worried about your friend's child being changed by the nanny's husband, myob. |
Anonymous
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Eek no offense, but your posting was a little tough to understand.
Or maybe I have just had a long day today. |
Nikki1982
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Not your business, get a life and stay out of theirs. If this works for them who are you to judge?! Grow up! |
Anonymous
| I think it's none of your business what happens in someone else's household. Just don't send your kid there, period. |