I'm facing a tough nanny day...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I do hate it when MB decides to stay home. I'm on camera all day long so it isn't a matter of her checking up on me - it's the constant interruptions and intrusions into our usual happy routine. The baby cries and she comes in (it is so much worse when the baby wants me to console him and not his mother). The baby laughs and she comes in. The baby is FINALLY happily playing on the mat during tummy-time and she picks him up.

I know I would never accept any position where the mother even occasionally worked from home.

You all flatter yourselves. I have had the same nanny since my child was under 2. Son loves her dearly (as do I) but if there is a problem and both of us are there my kid always always always wants mom over anyone else. I suspect that is true in most every other situation as well.

Seriously, +1000

Our nanny is wonderful and DC has no problem going to her during hand offs in the morning but he will always pick me if I work from home! These nannies on this thread really think they are replacement moms! HAH

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I do hate it when MB decides to stay home. I'm on camera all day long so it isn't a matter of her checking up on me - it's the constant interruptions and intrusions into our usual happy routine. The baby cries and she comes in (it is so much worse when the baby wants me to console him and not his mother). The baby laughs and she comes in. The baby is FINALLY happily playing on the mat during tummy-time and she picks him up.

I know I would never accept any position where the mother even occasionally worked from home.

You all flatter yourselves. I have had the same nanny since my child was under 2. Son loves her dearly (as do I) but if there is a problem and both of us are there my kid always always always wants mom over anyone else. I suspect that is true in most every other situation as well.

There are many, many times when my DS has reached for the nanny instead of me or wanted the nanny when he was crying. My DS is happy to see DH and I when he come home at night but clings to his nanny if I stop in for lunch. Of course my son loves me and our bond is strong and deep. But he has a routine with his nanny and something in his mind that he and nanny are going to do later that day -- and when I walk in he thinks that Nanny is going to leave and he will not get to go to the park or library or whatever they normally do or she has told him they were going to do.

I don't think the nannies are flattering themselves at all. There was an article in the NYT a few years ago about a mother who fired her nanny over her child wanting to be held by the nanny and not her. I'm sure most nannies hate it as it might mean they could lose their job.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I do hate it when MB decides to stay home. I'm on camera all day long so it isn't a matter of her checking up on me - it's the constant interruptions and intrusions into our usual happy routine. The baby cries and she comes in (it is so much worse when the baby wants me to console him and not his mother). The baby laughs and she comes in. The baby is FINALLY happily playing on the mat during tummy-time and she picks him up.

I know I would never accept any position where the mother even occasionally worked from home.

You all flatter yourselves. I have had the same nanny since my child was under 2. Son loves her dearly (as do I) but if there is a problem and both of us are there my kid always always always wants mom over anyone else. I suspect that is true in most every other situation as well.

Seriously, +1000

Our nanny is wonderful and DC has no problem going to her during hand offs in the morning but he will always pick me if I work from home! These nannies on this thread really think they are replacement moms! HAH

I have never thought of myself as a "replacement mom" - ever. I actually hate when people think that being a substitute mother is the nanny's job. I have my own children and my own family. I think a good nanny is a teacher above all else. Yes, we care and nurture your child more than we would in a classroom setting but the teaching element is the most pronounced.

But you have to realize that when your son does choose you over the nanny when you are working from home, this does cause more stress for the nanny and child when she has to remove him or take him out so you can work.

And please know that when your son does choose the nanny over you that it means nothing. Children just do that from time to time. There is a new thread on the General Discussion board about this topic right now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why? Because it's their home and their choice.

You sound like a self-absorbed tween. Now that you're a mommy, it's time to act grown-up and be concerned about what's best for your child.

Here's a hint: CONSISTANCY

I think you mean CONSISTENCY.
The red line under the word means it's spelled incorrectly.

[Anonymous]

I work from home all day, every day. My wonderful nanny does not CARE. And DC has no issues with nanny during working hours, mama outside of working hours.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why? Because it's their home and their choice.

You sound like a self-absorbed tween. Now that you're a mommy, it's time to act grown-up and be concerned about what's best for your child.

Here's a hint: CONSISTANCY

If you're going to use caps, check the spelling:

consistency

Reading the thread might be a good idea. Thanks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I work from home all day, every day. My wonderful nanny does not CARE. And DC has no issues with nanny during working hours, mama outside of working hours.

Count your blessings. I've found that some houses are more conducive to such arrangements. Also, a lot depends on the age and stage of each child.