nanny wants to workout in our gym

[Anonymous]

Don't forget to consider the liability you assume by letting a person use your gym equipment. There's a reason you sign a waiver everytime you join a professional gym -- becasue lifting even moderately heavy weights over your body and getting your heart rate up has inherent risks and there are real consequences if she drops a barbell on her neck and becomes a parapalegic.

[Anonymous]

Most of my employers have a gym in their office for their use.

It’s one of the perks. I don’t see the issue as long as she’s not neglecting the child to use the gym and uses all equipment properly.

It’s really sounding like you don’t want “the help” touching your fancy equipment.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:1. A gym membership is expensive, and probably out of reach for her financially based on average nanny take-home pay. This is likely the only gym equipment she has access to.

2. I see variations on this comment ("Their home is your office") frequently on DCUM. Someone working in your home doesn't mean you don't have the right to set reasonable boundaries (of course you do! And OP, you're perfectly within your right to tell her that you wouldn't feel comfortable with her using your workout machines!)...but the fact is that your nanny is being paid to wipe your child's butt, and comfort your child when he or she cries. Ask yourself if you honestly want your nanny to think of your home as her "office"-- with all of the emotional distance that such a title dictates. Your home is not an office environment, but it is where she works. Farmers work in fields; nannies work in family homes. Most people work in offices. There are different standards of professional etiquette in each. It is uncomfortable at times. Many people have difficulty holding these two facts in mind at once, and revert to their own lived experiences. Your home is not her home, but "office" conduct is often not professionally appropriate for a home setting and vice versa.


To OP, I personally wouldn't want someone messing with my home gym equipment, either. Maybe tell her that you don't feel comfortable with her using the equipment (what if she gets injured using something she's not familiar with while on her break, for instance?). She's likely bored and wants to make more use of her break, so maybe offer her a place to do yoga/meditate, or suggest a green space or coffee shop in your area she might like instead.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I can’t with some parents these days. We work in an intimate setting. Being inside someone’s home. Not an office. Hmmm let me think about it haha what a weirdo she is. Wipe my child’s ass but how dare you ask to use my elliptical.

Trashy and entitled response. You work in an intimate setting so it’s even more important to establish strong boundaries. Their home is your office. Why can’t nanny get a gym membership and exercise on her own time? And what’s next? Asking if she can borrow her boss’s handbag for a night out?

But I mean...she can't leave the baby alone in the house to go to this "green space" or coffee shop, right? That's the point, she has some down time from watching the child, and would like to use it productively.

Is she on the clock? Because if I work out at my work gym I am not getting paid for that time. It's either my lunch break, which does not count toward my 8 hr workday, or it's after work.

[Anonymous]

As a nanny, I wouldn’t want to impose on my employers personal workout space, but that’s just me. You know what is awkward, though? Working sweaty afterwards. Just no.
Plus, you need to be in tune with what’s happening with the child you are taking care off. Working out and watching the monitor at the same time? Lol

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Is this Covid-related OP?

Or are we past that by now??

Anyway, it is likely very convenient for your Nanny to use your gym plus she may not be able to afford her own membership at a fitness center.
If she wants to use it - I would likely let her.
Especially if she was an outstanding Nanny.

I mean > if she makes your life easier perhaps you could make hers as well??
As a Nanny I wouldn’t want to just because I would need a cool shower afterward & would feel uncomfortable also asking permission to use their shower.

OP. Not Covid related but want to keep things professional. Nanny is fairly new and good, not outstanding. I thought about the shower thing too, which is another reason I said no. I’m sure she would have no qualms asking after her workout. If her clothes got dirty and she needed to take a shower doing something job related, i’m fine with it though.

Nanny is very well paid (especially compared to what I’ve seen on here) and has an easy schedule. If she can’t afford a gym membership as a single person on this salary, sorry but I don’t have sympathy because she’s overspending or in the wrong field.

OP, I'm with you. The fact that she's new and very well paid is giving me flashbacks to our own over-entitled nannies' requests, which started well before they 'proved' themselves, so to speak. The more you blur the lines of what is work-appropriate, the worse at the job they get, it seems.

"Giving you flashbacks to your over-entitled nannies" this make me think and feel sorry for all of them. Just wondering, how many nannies you had; it's clear nobody last and ended up quitting.

Nope, we had 2, terminated both because they were making our lives more annoying rather than easier. Daycare works for us much better.

Second this. I don't know if this Is a dmv thing. Ours was the same and we paid way above market rate with extra perks. But my god was it a pain

[Anonymous]

Hmmm, I offered our nanny to use our gym and shower when the baby is nappy and then when my kids were at their part time preschool. I didn’t find it weird at all. She worked king hours. Not sure how she would have fit it in. So many meatballs health benefits to exercise. Her working out is in my best interest.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:1. A gym membership is expensive, and probably out of reach for her financially based on average nanny take-home pay. This is likely the only gym equipment she has access to.

2. I see variations on this comment ("Their home is your office") frequently on DCUM. Someone working in your home doesn't mean you don't have the right to set reasonable boundaries (of course you do! And OP, you're perfectly within your right to tell her that you wouldn't feel comfortable with her using your workout machines!)...but the fact is that your nanny is being paid to wipe your child's butt, and comfort your child when he or she cries. Ask yourself if you honestly want your nanny to think of your home as her "office"-- with all of the emotional distance that such a title dictates. Your home is not an office environment, but it is where she works. Farmers work in fields; nannies work in family homes. Most people work in offices. There are different standards of professional etiquette in each. It is uncomfortable at times. Many people have difficulty holding these two facts in mind at once, and revert to their own lived experiences. Your home is not her home, but "office" conduct is often not professionally appropriate for a home setting and vice versa.


To OP, I personally wouldn't want someone messing with my home gym equipment, either. Maybe tell her that you don't feel comfortable with her using the equipment (what if she gets injured using something she's not familiar with while on her break, for instance?). She's likely bored and wants to make more use of her break, so maybe offer her a place to do yoga/meditate, or suggest a green space or coffee shop in your area she might like instead.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I can’t with some parents these days. We work in an intimate setting. Being inside someone’s home. Not an office. Hmmm let me think about it haha what a weirdo she is. Wipe my child’s ass but how dare you ask to use my elliptical.

Planet Fitness is like $30-$40
Crunch $40-$50??
Gold's $50-$60?? (maybe less. a new one is opening in Farragut North)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:1. A gym membership is expensive, and probably out of reach for her financially based on average nanny take-home pay. This is likely the only gym equipment she has access to.

2. I see variations on this comment ("Their home is your office") frequently on DCUM. Someone working in your home doesn't mean you don't have the right to set reasonable boundaries (of course you do! And OP, you're perfectly within your right to tell her that you wouldn't feel comfortable with her using your workout machines!)...but the fact is that your nanny is being paid to wipe your child's butt, and comfort your child when he or she cries. Ask yourself if you honestly want your nanny to think of your home as her "office"-- with all of the emotional distance that such a title dictates. Your home is not an office environment, but it is where she works. Farmers work in fields; nannies work in family homes. Most people work in offices. There are different standards of professional etiquette in each. It is uncomfortable at times. Many people have difficulty holding these two facts in mind at once, and revert to their own lived experiences. Your home is not her home, but "office" conduct is often not professionally appropriate for a home setting and vice versa.


To OP, I personally wouldn't want someone messing with my home gym equipment, either. Maybe tell her that you don't feel comfortable with her using the equipment (what if she gets injured using something she's not familiar with while on her break, for instance?). She's likely bored and wants to make more use of her break, so maybe offer her a place to do yoga/meditate, or suggest a green space or coffee shop in your area she might like instead.

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Anonymous wrote:I can’t with some parents these days. We work in an intimate setting. Being inside someone’s home. Not an office. Hmmm let me think about it haha what a weirdo she is. Wipe my child’s ass but how dare you ask to use my elliptical.

Planet Fitness is like $30-$40
Crunch $40-$50??
Gold's $50-$60?? (maybe less. a new one is opening in Farragut North)

Using your employer’s home gym: free

[Anonymous]

most nannies get a workout while walking with kids for couple of hours. Much healthier and does not interfere with job duties.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:most nannies get a workout while walking with kids for couple of hours. Much healthier and does not interfere with job duties.

Lifting weights is much better than slowly pushing a stroller or walking with a toddler. I never go very fast with a stroller.

[Anonymous]

These agreements should be made ahead of time.
If she is a 'lve-in' nanny and does not have a car and it is on her time off.it could be part if the convinience of having her nearby, which is a reason people opt for a live-in nanny
It could be reasonable, gym equipment is pretty hardy.
Some parents do not know what time off is and think she works 24/7.
It is not a horrible thing to ask and a person who owns the home can always say no.
Why start shaming anyone here

[Anonymous]

Ma'am you are the weird one and everyone that agrees with you. Life is short it's not that deep not to mention this woman is caring for your kids and when the kids nap and there's nothing to do why not. I worked for several families who offered me to use their workout equipment while their children sleep because they know I like being active and I'm not a TV watcher. You guys need to lighten up!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why is that weird? What’s the issue with not letting her?!

OP's attitude is weird. Our nannies always used our gym

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ma'am you are the weird one and everyone that agrees with you. Life is short it's not that deep not to mention this woman is caring for your kids and when the kids nap and there's nothing to do why not. I worked for several families who offered me to use their workout equipment while their children sleep because they know I like being active and I'm not a TV watcher. You guys need to lighten up!

What’s weird is that the only things you can think of doing while the kids sleep is watch TV or workout. How lazy do you have to be that you wouldn’t work on other kid stuff like laundry, meal and activity plan, organizing/tidying up, etc. with all the time you have? You’re literally wasting your employer’s money.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ma'am you are the weird one and everyone that agrees with you. Life is short it's not that deep not to mention this woman is caring for your kids and when the kids nap and there's nothing to do why not. I worked for several families who offered me to use their workout equipment while their children sleep because they know I like being active and I'm not a TV watcher. You guys need to lighten up!

What’s weird is that the only things you can think of doing while the kids sleep is watch TV or workout. How lazy do you have to be that you wouldn’t work on other kid stuff like laundry, meal and activity plan, organizing/tidying up, etc. with all the time you have? You’re literally wasting your employer’s money.

Well, I am not a housekeeper I AM A NANNY the end!!!! YOU just wasted your time typing that nonsense ..