Does your nanny's sense of well-being matter to you?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She is in charge of her own well being. Just like every other adult.

I can understand this attitude only to an extent. Nannies are so often expected to consider the well being of their charge and their charge's family when they make personal decisions, and I think that consideration should be a 2-way street. MBs often frame decisions and expectations their nannies have within what they can or cannot reasonably afford. If you expect your nanny to give a crap about your finances, you might want to try giving one about hers. I'm not saying taking actual responsibility for them, but we all need to be realistic. It isn't realistic to expect your 30-40 year old nanny with lots of experience and skills to live with a bunch of roommates in a shady area, collecting government assistance, so that she can afford to spend her days caring about the well-being of your child and your family. Its wrong.

Why on earth would I need her to give a crap about my finances?
I have no control where she chooses to live, with whom or how. These are personal choices the nanny fully controls.

Don't you know... if you aren't paying your nanny enough to afford the house next door to yours then you are a terrible MB and promoting slavery. I mean she takes your kids to the pool for Pete's sake! She deserves $100 an hour.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She is in charge of her own well being. Just like every other adult.

I can understand this attitude only to an extent. Nannies are so often expected to consider the well being of their charge and their charge's family when they make personal decisions, and I think that consideration should be a 2-way street. MBs often frame decisions and expectations their nannies have within what they can or cannot reasonably afford. If you expect your nanny to give a crap about your finances, you might want to try giving one about hers. I'm not saying taking actual responsibility for them, but we all need to be realistic. It isn't realistic to expect your 30-40 year old nanny with lots of experience and skills to live with a bunch of roommates in a shady area, collecting government assistance, so that she can afford to spend her days caring about the well-being of your child and your family. Its wrong.

Why on earth would I need her to give a crap about my finances?
I have no control where she chooses to live, with whom or how. These are personal choices the nanny fully controls.

Please check your reading skills. We're talking about "concern," not control, Einstein.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She is in charge of her own well being. Just like every other adult.

I can understand this attitude only to an extent. Nannies are so often expected to consider the well being of their charge and their charge's family when they make personal decisions, and I think that consideration should be a 2-way street. MBs often frame decisions and expectations their nannies have within what they can or cannot reasonably afford. If you expect your nanny to give a crap about your finances, you might want to try giving one about hers. I'm not saying taking actual responsibility for them, but we all need to be realistic. It isn't realistic to expect your 30-40 year old nanny with lots of experience and skills to live with a bunch of roommates in a shady area, collecting government assistance, so that she can afford to spend her days caring about the well-being of your child and your family. Its wrong.

Why on earth would I need her to give a crap about my finances?
I have no control where she chooses to live, with whom or how. These are personal choices the nanny fully controls.

Don't you know... if you aren't paying your nanny enough to afford the house next door to yours then you are a terrible MB and promoting slavery. I mean she takes your kids to the pool for Pete's sake! She deserves $100 an hour.

You are a really boring poster.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She is in charge of her own well being. Just like every other adult.

I can understand this attitude only to an extent. Nannies are so often expected to consider the well being of their charge and their charge's family when they make personal decisions, and I think that consideration should be a 2-way street. MBs often frame decisions and expectations their nannies have within what they can or cannot reasonably afford. If you expect your nanny to give a crap about your finances, you might want to try giving one about hers. I'm not saying taking actual responsibility for them, but we all need to be realistic. It isn't realistic to expect your 30-40 year old nanny with lots of experience and skills to live with a bunch of roommates in a shady area, collecting government assistance, so that she can afford to spend her days caring about the well-being of your child and your family. Its wrong.

Why on earth would I need her to give a crap about my finances?
I have no control where she chooses to live, with whom or how. These are personal choices the nanny fully controls.

Don't you know... if you aren't paying your nanny enough to afford the house next door to yours then you are a terrible MB and promoting slavery. I mean she takes your kids to the pool for Pete's sake! She deserves $100 an hour.

You are a really boring poster.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She is in charge of her own well being. Just like every other adult.

I can understand this attitude only to an extent. Nannies are so often expected to consider the well being of their charge and their charge's family when they make personal decisions, and I think that consideration should be a 2-way street. MBs often frame decisions and expectations their nannies have within what they can or cannot reasonably afford. If you expect your nanny to give a crap about your finances, you might want to try giving one about hers. I'm not saying taking actual responsibility for them, but we all need to be realistic. It isn't realistic to expect your 30-40 year old nanny with lots of experience and skills to live with a bunch of roommates in a shady area, collecting government assistance, so that she can afford to spend her days caring about the well-being of your child and your family. Its wrong.

Why on earth would I need her to give a crap about my finances?
I have no control where she chooses to live, with whom or how. These are personal choices the nanny fully controls.

Just remember saying this next time you try to justify any legitimate request with "we just can't afford it". Maybe you've never used that line, but I'm sure not one nanny on here hasn't heard it.

The terms of employment are in the mutually agreed upon contract. If one day I can't afford to pay her, I am sure she won't work for free or for reduced compensation, it wouldn't even occur to me to ask for that on the premise that she cares for my well being.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She is in charge of her own well being. Just like every other adult.

I can understand this attitude only to an extent. Nannies are so often expected to consider the well being of their charge and their charge's family when they make personal decisions, and I think that consideration should be a 2-way street. MBs often frame decisions and expectations their nannies have within what they can or cannot reasonably afford. If you expect your nanny to give a crap about your finances, you might want to try giving one about hers. I'm not saying taking actual responsibility for them, but we all need to be realistic. It isn't realistic to expect your 30-40 year old nanny with lots of experience and skills to live with a bunch of roommates in a shady area, collecting government assistance, so that she can afford to spend her days caring about the well-being of your child and your family. Its wrong.

Why on earth would I need her to give a crap about my finances?
I have no control where she chooses to live, with whom or how. These are personal choices the nanny fully controls.

Just remember saying this next time you try to justify any legitimate request with "we just can't afford it". Maybe you've never used that line, but I'm sure not one nanny on here hasn't heard it.

The terms of employment are in the mutually agreed upon contract. If one day I can't afford to pay her, I am sure she won't work for free or for reduced compensation, it wouldn't even occur to me to ask for that on the premise that she cares for my well being.

Huh?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She is in charge of her own well being. Just like every other adult.

I can understand this attitude only to an extent. Nannies are so often expected to consider the well being of their charge and their charge's family when they make personal decisions, and I think that consideration should be a 2-way street. MBs often frame decisions and expectations their nannies have within what they can or cannot reasonably afford. If you expect your nanny to give a crap about your finances, you might want to try giving one about hers. I'm not saying taking actual responsibility for them, but we all need to be realistic. It isn't realistic to expect your 30-40 year old nanny with lots of experience and skills to live with a bunch of roommates in a shady area, collecting government assistance, so that she can afford to spend her days caring about the well-being of your child and your family. Its wrong.

Why on earth would I need her to give a crap about my finances?
I have no control where she chooses to live, with whom or how. These are personal choices the nanny fully controls.

Typically, your income does in fact dictate where and how, you live. That's why poor people don't usually live next door to doctors and lawyers, or go to Cape Cod with you.

[Anonymous]

If she wants to live in a high income area then she should probably think about a different line of work.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If she wants to live in a high income area then she should probably think about a different line of work.

Then by your logic, who would watch your brats?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If she wants to live in a high income area then she should probably think about a different line of work.

Then by your logic, who would watch your brats?

Whoever got off the boat yesterday and is more than happy to share a bedroom with three others, and take three buses to work every day. Oh yeah, a few bucks to send home, would be nice too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If she wants to live in a high income area then she should probably think about a different line of work.

Then by your logic, who would watch your brats?

Whoever got off the boat yesterday and is more than happy to share a bedroom with three others, and take three buses to work every day. Oh yeah, a few bucks to send home, would be nice too.

If that's the bar you set for the person who will care for and help mold your child, please have at it. In my opinion, even people "just off the boat" deserve a decent standard of living for working.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If she wants to live in a high income area then she should probably think about a different line of work.

Then by your logic, who would watch your brats?

Whoever got off the boat yesterday and is more than happy to share a bedroom with three others, and take three buses to work every day. Oh yeah, a few bucks to send home, would be nice too.

If that's the bar you set for the person who will care for and help mold your child, please have at it. In my opinion, even people "just off the boat" deserve a decent standard of living for working.

You missed the sarcasm. Of course you have to pay people appropriately, but that like pulling teeth for some of you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If she wants to live in a high income area then she should probably think about a different line of work.

Then by your logic, who would watch your brats?

Whoever got off the boat yesterday and is more than happy to share a bedroom with three others, and take three buses to work every day. Oh yeah, a few bucks to send home, would be nice too.

If that's the bar you set for the person who will care for and help mold your child, please have at it. In my opinion, even people "just off the boat" deserve a decent standard of living for working.

You missed the sarcasm. Of course you have to pay people appropriately, but that like pulling teeth for some of you.

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[Anonymous]

Of course it does.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Of course it does.

In what way do you walk the talk?