Nanny should spend more time with us

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here.

I have addressed that I am not trolling. I am not asking her to do back breaking labor, I am simply asking that she be part of the household.

Again, she's your EMPLOYEE. Not a member of the family. Her living accommodations are part of her compensation package. The living arrangement does not entitle you to her services whenever the f*** you feel like it.

As long as she is cleaning up after herself on her days off and not disrupting the household she is doing what she is supposed to do...which is respecting healthy employee/employer boundaries. Maybe you should try it sometime.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
Op here.

I have addressed that I am not trolling. I am not asking her to do back breaking labor, I am simply asking that she be part of the household.


Again, she's your EMPLOYEE. Not a member of the family. Her living accommodations are part of her compensation package. The living arrangement does not entitle you to her services whenever the f*** you feel like it.

As long as she is cleaning up after herself on her days off and not disrupting the household she is doing what she is supposed to do...which is respecting healthy employee/employer boundaries. Maybe you should try it sometime.

This. She isn't your family and she's not a part of your household whenever you want her to be. She is your employee and more than entitled to her time off in peace.

That said, I still think you're a troll. I'm pretty sure you're a nanny and just stirring it up because you're bored and hate your job.

[Anonymous]

Yep, I can't believe an MB would post this - it's too absurd.

[Anonymous]

If you aren't a troll then you need to clue in that you hired a nanny not an Au Pair.

Nanny has no obligation to spend time "with the family" when she is finished her work day. Nor does she need to "help" with your kids. YOU are their mother.. figure it out. If you don't want her having sex in your house, say so.

I wouldn't want Nanny stepping in when I'm with my kids and she's on her time off. That's my time with my kids.. I don't get enough of it as it is. If she CHOSE to spend time with us great, but I don't expect her to help me with the kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She's can f out side the house,but not inside ,this is is orrrrbnlljgttujmhgi

No, I would prefer if she would hang out with the family more. I had to wrangle the kids by myself at the park yesterday. I had to feed them also... by myself. She and the BF just walked by and didn't offer to help me out at all. She said that her and him are going out to early dinner at 5 and would like to take the girls. HELL YES. I have been dealing with them alone for 2 days now.

Um, hello? She is off duty. Just because she lives with you does NOT mean that she needs to help you out when you are trying to "wrangle the kids at the park by yourself" or "feed them by yourself". You shouldn't be expecting her to do ANYTHING after her work hours, not spending time with the family hanging out and definitely helping you out (which is working). Hire a second weekend nanny if that is what you need. If you don't want her having sex for 2 days straight in your home, then set a no sleepover (or men allowed inside) rule and expect that she WILL be going out to her boyfriends place a lot instead. You seriously cannot expect her to spend her free time with you if she wants to do something else, or to not have sex. You sound crazy.

[Anonymous]

OP you sound like a former MB that I used to work for but she wasn't as bad...still bad enough though.

[Anonymous]

Your nanny does NOT have to spend time with you on her OFF hours.

You want to go hang out at work after hours?

She's a normal being and deserves to have a life OUTSIDE work.

God, you're insane.

[Anonymous]

They're your own kids.

Not hers.

Not her responsibility.

You can't handle this kids alone? Get their father involved. Sorry lady, shouldn't have had them if you can't handle them.

You're pathetic.

[Anonymous]

MB here - I agree with PPs, she is your employee, you cannot expect her to be one of the family or volunteer for anything when not on the clock. If she senses you expect this, she is even more unlikely to do you any favours and might even leave. What goes around comes around, treat her with respect and generosity and she may treat you the same. What she does with her free time is none of your business but if she is a live-in and you don't like how she dresses or acts in her time off then you need to find someone who does meet your standards.

[Anonymous]

OP- if you aren't a troll you are a disgrace. Why did you even bring children into this world? She's a live in nanny. She is not your family, nor is it her responsibility to want to "hang out" with your family when she's off duty. What she does during her free time is her business. Unless you want to pay her for extra work and she agrees, stop your whining. It's pathetic.

[Anonymous]

Assuming this isn't a troll (it has to be a troll, right?) then I just want to say that if you can fire someone, they are not family. Your nanny is your employee. You pay her, she does her job during the times she agreed to work. I don't do volunteer labor for my employer on my days off. If you want her to work on her days off, you have to pay her.

Yes, it's nice to have a friendly, cooperative relationship with your employees, but that shouldn't mean you expect free labor because you don't want to spend time with your own kids. Your friend was right.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She's can f out side the house,but not inside ,this is is orrrrbnlljgttujmhgi

No, I would prefer if she would hang out with the family more. I had to wrangle the kids by myself at the park yesterday. I had to feed them also... by myself. She and the BF just walked by and didn't offer to help me out at all. She said that her and him are going out to early dinner at 5 and would like to take the girls. HELL YES. I have been dealing with them alone for 2 days now.

She is off duty then. It isn't her obligation to help you while off duty. Sorry. She works when she is on the clock, period. Unless you want to pay her for the time, she is not obligated to "be with the family more". It is none of your business how often she has sex in 3 days. You employ her, you don't own her. This has got to be a joke. Really?

[Anonymous]

LOL are you for real??

I doubt it, but if you are then you have bigger problems than your nanny issue.

Theres nothing wrong with the nanny not hanging out when she's not 'on duty' .The only thing i would suggest you talk to her about is having sex in your house. that is, if it bothers you.

[Anonymous]

Which employer did YOU want to spend more time with, OP?