What’s the best way to handle this situation?

[Anonymous]

I’m currently pregnant and expecting in February. I have a 5 year old who is on the autism spectrum (level 1) and is in K. My DS is very sweet and intelligent and is social with adults but I cannot imagine he isn’t more work than NT kids his age. He is very docile and quiet in school settings but very energetic at home. And because of his social limitations he isn’t able to do playdates. He also has therapies (mostly in home) and activities after school almost every day. I would like to hire a nanny for the baby full time and for my older son for an hour or two after school and on random school holidays. What is the best way to handle this? I would like to hire the nanny before the baby comes so she can get to know DS but because he is in school all day I don’t really want to pay someone for full-time hours for hanging with DS for an hour a day and I don’t know if someone looking for full-time work would be open to working part-time until the baby comes. I’m also concerned that it is going to be harder to find someone decent because of the time of year.

[Anonymous]

I’d suggest contacting nanny agencies(we had a great experience with Nanny Poppinz)and they’d match your needs in timeframe. Also, a lot of nannies i came across have had background in Special Ed. Rates around $30-$35.
Good luck.

[Anonymous]

You need to advertise as needing a Nanny for a newborn and a 5yo. The Nanny wil assume the 5yo is in school and she will be responsible for him when he’s not. Will you be managing the mornings entirely alone on school days or will she will be there with both of them in the morning? After school, sick days, snow days, Jewish holidays etc…. Moco is off tomorrow for example….. you need to pay for both. Unless you don’t want her available in those situations.
My kid has friends on the spectrum and has had play dates with them. Not sure why you limit your son on that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m currently pregnant and expecting in February. I have a 5 year old who is on the autism spectrum (level 1) and is in K. My DS is very sweet and intelligent and is social with adults but I cannot imagine he isn’t more work than NT kids his age. He is very docile and quiet in school settings but very energetic at home. And because of his social limitations he isn’t able to do playdates. He also has therapies (mostly in home) and activities after school almost every day. I would like to hire a nanny for the baby full time and for my older son for an hour or two after school and on random school holidays. What is the best way to handle this? I would like to hire the nanny before the baby comes so she can get to know DS but because he is in school all day I don’t really want to pay someone for full-time hours for hanging with DS for an hour a day and I don’t know if someone looking for full-time work would be open to working part-time until the baby comes. I’m also concerned that it is going to be harder to find someone decent because of the time of year.

Probably not. I mean, what do you think the chances are of the nanny's landlord being ok with just receiving part of the rent until you need her full time? Or the grocery store only wanting part of the total bill of the food she wants to buy?

[Anonymous]

You might be able to do this for a few days. Call them trial days while you are both seeing if the fit is correct for you and the nanny. I would suggest about a month or two before the baby is born, you start looking for someone. You want time to interview, trial day, and check references on your nanny, so having time to do those things will be important.
There will for sure be days (early release, bad weather that is not really bad weather, third day being sick and can't go back to school but is feeling better, teacher work day....) that having another adult will be helpful, even if you are still on leave with the baby. You can also use the nanny's time to have her wash bottles, clean pump parts, do baby laundry, help make baby food (once baby is older -- not sure how long you plan to take leave). It would probably also be nice to have someone take care of the baby while you are present for the therapies and other appointments for your older DS. All this to say, I am sure you can find a way to have the nanny be full time once you hire them, even while you are on leave and DS is in school.

You might even be able to find someone who plans to give their family 30 days notice once they find a job who might be interested in shortening their hours with the old family as they ramp up with you. You could also find someone and as they are giving notice to the other family, have the nanny do a few weekend times with your DS to get to know him (and give you time to rest / get ready for new baby).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m currently pregnant and expecting in February. I have a 5 year old who is on the autism spectrum (level 1) and is in K. My DS is very sweet and intelligent and is social with adults but I cannot imagine he isn’t more work than NT kids his age. He is very docile and quiet in school settings but very energetic at home. And because of his social limitations he isn’t able to do playdates. He also has therapies (mostly in home) and activities after school almost every day. I would like to hire a nanny for the baby full time and for my older son for an hour or two after school and on random school holidays. What is the best way to handle this? I would like to hire the nanny before the baby comes so she can get to know DS but because he is in school all day I don’t really want to pay someone for full-time hours for hanging with DS for an hour a day and I don’t know if someone looking for full-time work would be open to working part-time until the baby comes. I’m also concerned that it is going to be harder to find someone decent because of the time of year.

If you don't want to pay her then he is in his own! You are an idiot

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m currently pregnant and expecting in February. I have a 5 year old who is on the autism spectrum (level 1) and is in K. My DS is very sweet and intelligent and is social with adults but I cannot imagine he isn’t more work than NT kids his age. He is very docile and quiet in school settings but very energetic at home. And because of his social limitations he isn’t able to do playdates. He also has therapies (mostly in home) and activities after school almost every day. I would like to hire a nanny for the baby full time and for my older son for an hour or two after school and on random school holidays. What is the best way to handle this? I would like to hire the nanny before the baby comes so she can get to know DS but because he is in school all day I don’t really want to pay someone for full-time hours for hanging with DS for an hour a day and I don’t know if someone looking for full-time work would be open to working part-time until the baby comes. I’m also concerned that it is going to be harder to find someone decent because of the time of year.

Probably not. I mean, what do you think the chances are of the nanny's landlord being ok with just receiving part of the rent until you need her full time? Or the grocery store only wanting part of the total bill of the food she wants to buy?

Idk. Probably the same odds of someone taking full-time pay for part-time work and then deciding to quit when the full-time pay matches the full-time workload?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m currently pregnant and expecting in February. I have a 5 year old who is on the autism spectrum (level 1) and is in K. My DS is very sweet and intelligent and is social with adults but I cannot imagine he isn’t more work than NT kids his age. He is very docile and quiet in school settings but very energetic at home. And because of his social limitations he isn’t able to do playdates. He also has therapies (mostly in home) and activities after school almost every day. I would like to hire a nanny for the baby full time and for my older son for an hour or two after school and on random school holidays. What is the best way to handle this? I would like to hire the nanny before the baby comes so she can get to know DS but because he is in school all day I don’t really want to pay someone for full-time hours for hanging with DS for an hour a day and I don’t know if someone looking for full-time work would be open to working part-time until the baby comes. I’m also concerned that it is going to be harder to find someone decent because of the time of year.

If you don't want to pay her then he is in his own! You are an idiot

Huh? Why would he be on his own? He’s in school and I’m here after school as well.