Question about my MB

[Anonymous]

My MB is really starting to annoy me, I’ve been with them for a couple years and she’s very nice. However, here’s my problem with her. Every time I ask her do do something for her child, she just won’t do it. Simply things like her music app just stopped working because she needs to log in again, and her child loves to listen to the music , I’ve been asking for almost 3 weeks for her to log in, and even offering logging in myself, it just won’t happen. Another example is at the beginning of the summer we went to her friends house and the children there had scooters. I asked her if she would mind buying one for her child because he loves it, and since the summer is here, it gives us something to do. Each time I ask her to buy something for her child, she keeps telling me that the child needs to wait to Christmas?!?!?! It’s June! I understand sometimes some people buy bikes as gifts for Christmas. Any other things she just won’t buy, like a swim vest, crafts or whatever it is. I’m only asking for things that I know her child will enjoy. She also doesn’t do certain things for me, that benefit the safety of her child as well. Sometimes she says I will buy it I will get it I will do it… for weeks… and NEVER follows through!
I’m really starting to get annoyed, and don’t know how to handle this situation. I’ve never seen something like this. In my mind, any mother that cares about her child and is happy that her nanny wants to provide things for her child to benefit them, I would think most mothers would just take the iPad and just log into that app…. It takes 5 seconds…. There are many other small things like that….
How should I proceed with this? Just stop asking for things? Does she not care? Am I annoying her? Is she lying? Or does she just not give a ….?????
Again, I’m asking for small things for her child, like a craft for Halloween, to log into an app, buy a swim vest for the pool, change a couple things to make the home safer for the child…. And I’m only asking for. Few things, not constantly and nothing that’s super expensive….

[Anonymous]

I’d look for a new family. If you can’t even buy crafts for your child then you don’t need a nanny

[Anonymous]

The swim vest is concerning. Waiting until Xmas defeats the purpose.

[Anonymous]

While I can see how annoying it would be that your MomBoss has not logged in for the music app, I think asking her to purchase a scooter for her child is a little much.

Because buying a scooter is not a small purchase.

[Anonymous]

she does not want him to fall off the scooter

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My MB is really starting to annoy me, I’ve been with them for a couple years and she’s very nice. However, here’s my problem with her. Every time I ask her do do something for her child, she just won’t do it. Simply things like her music app just stopped working because she needs to log in again, and her child loves to listen to the music , I’ve been asking for almost 3 weeks for her to log in, and even offering logging in myself, it just won’t happen. Another example is at the beginning of the summer we went to her friends house and the children there had scooters. I asked her if she would mind buying one for her child because he loves it, and since the summer is here, it gives us something to do. Each time I ask her to buy something for her child, she keeps telling me that the child needs to wait to Christmas?!?!?! It’s June! I understand sometimes some people buy bikes as gifts for Christmas. Any other things she just won’t buy, like a swim vest, crafts or whatever it is. I’m only asking for things that I know her child will enjoy. She also doesn’t do certain things for me, that benefit the safety of her child as well. Sometimes she says I will buy it I will get it I will do it… for weeks… and NEVER follows through!
I’m really starting to get annoyed, and don’t know how to handle this situation. I’ve never seen something like this. In my mind, any mother that cares about her child and is happy that her nanny wants to provide things for her child to benefit them, I would think most mothers would just take the iPad and just log into that app…. It takes 5 seconds…. There are many other small things like that….
How should I proceed with this? Just stop asking for things? Does she not care? Am I annoying her? Is she lying? Or does she just not give a ….?????
Again, I’m asking for small things for her child, like a craft for Halloween, to log into an app, buy a swim vest for the pool, change a couple things to make the home safer for the child…. And I’m only asking for. Few things, not constantly and nothing that’s super expensive….

I'm in the camp of kids not needing things constantly. However, I would have been proactive and asked my boss to add a scooter, balance bike and helmet to birthday or Christmas presents before the child was ready. A swim vest is not only not necessary (unless you are boating and using a life preserver that fits USCG standards), it provides supervising adults with a false sense of confidence, so I'm on board with with your employer not purchasing; swim lessons and supervision are much more worthwhile. As for craft supplies, it would depend on how old the child is, what the requested supplies were (and whether your employer thought that you'd leave a mess), and how much you requested, especially if the financial or storage amount seemed unreasonable. What happens if you request a class, like one of the $5 Nature Center one-off classes?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:she does not want him to fall off the scooter

A child can fall off pretty much anything and enjoys the scooters at a friend's house. Scooters are goid exercise. Should the child be kept away from playgrounds because he could fall?

[Anonymous]

fall from a scooter is different from other falls. Plus, it is not a good exercise at all. You just basically stand on the scooter. A lot of parents are careful with scooters and I personally want to be there when my kid rides one since she is too young and sometimes does not stop quite on time, and nannies are often clueless of what kid can/cannot do at certain age where scooters are concerned.

[Anonymous]

OP here. Thank you for the responses! I see what some of you are saying, that she might be too scared of certain things, but then she absolutely needs to tell me that because I’ve been a nanny for almost 20 years and am very hands on and constantly watch them so that they don’t get hurt, but accidents happen…. She is the kind of parent who wants to keep the child in a bubble, I guess. The point is, the 4 year old cousin has it, his friend have scooters, and I think it’s appropriate for a 4 year old, especially since I taught him how to ride a bike and he had 0 falls in the past 2 years of riding bikes me with me. But the scooter is just one thing of many, so maybe she’s just weird. Worrying about crafts making a mess????? (I use plastic tarps/ blankets for play dough, painting, only painting on a tile floor with paint that’s washable.) How about oh thank you for exposing my child to different, age appropriate things and making his brain learn and work so it doesn’t just sit in a bubble and rot… oh well thank you again!!!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My MB is really starting to annoy me, I’ve been with them for a couple years and she’s very nice. However, here’s my problem with her. Every time I ask her do do something for her child, she just won’t do it. Simply things like her music app just stopped working because she needs to log in again, and her child loves to listen to the music , I’ve been asking for almost 3 weeks for her to log in, and even offering logging in myself, it just won’t happen. Another example is at the beginning of the summer we went to her friends house and the children there had scooters. I asked her if she would mind buying one for her child because he loves it, and since the summer is here, it gives us something to do. Each time I ask her to buy something for her child, she keeps telling me that the child needs to wait to Christmas?!?!?! It’s June! I understand sometimes some people buy bikes as gifts for Christmas. Any other things she just won’t buy, like a swim vest, crafts or whatever it is. I’m only asking for things that I know her child will enjoy. She also doesn’t do certain things for me, that benefit the safety of her child as well. Sometimes she says I will buy it I will get it I will do it… for weeks… and NEVER follows through!
I’m really starting to get annoyed, and don’t know how to handle this situation. I’ve never seen something like this. In my mind, any mother that cares about her child and is happy that her nanny wants to provide things for her child to benefit them, I would think most mothers would just take the iPad and just log into that app…. It takes 5 seconds…. There are many other small things like that….
How should I proceed with this? Just stop asking for things? Does she not care? Am I annoying her? Is she lying? Or does she just not give a ….?????
Again, I’m asking for small things for her child, like a craft for Halloween, to log into an app, buy a swim vest for the pool, change a couple things to make the home safer for the child…. And I’m only asking for. Few things, not constantly and nothing that’s super expensive….

It's not unreasonable to wait till Christmas. Use what you have. A scooter is a big gift in some families. Why do they need a swim vest? The music stuff is petty. Turn on the radio.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Thank you for the responses! I see what some of you are saying, that she might be too scared of certain things, but then she absolutely needs to tell me that because I’ve been a nanny for almost 20 years and am very hands on and constantly watch them so that they don’t get hurt, but accidents happen…. She is the kind of parent who wants to keep the child in a bubble, I guess. The point is, the 4 year old cousin has it, his friend have scooters, and I think it’s appropriate for a 4 year old, especially since I taught him how to ride a bike and he had 0 falls in the past 2 years of riding bikes me with me. But the scooter is just one thing of many, so maybe she’s just weird. Worrying about crafts making a mess????? (I use plastic tarps/ blankets for play dough, painting, only painting on a tile floor with paint that’s washable.) How about oh thank you for exposing my child to different, age appropriate things and making his brain learn and work so it doesn’t just sit in a bubble and rot… oh well thank you again!!!!

Who cares if the 4 year old cousin has it? That's not relevant. Go on your buy nothing group and get this stuff for free.

[Anonymous]

I don't think I've ever requested that a family buy a specific item or pay for a service. Make do with what you have or get creative.