Onboarding a nanny in a nanny share when you're not the host

[Anonymous]

We're starting off a new nanny share. The other family seems great, the nanny is fabulous (many great references, excellent interview). The other family is hosting. What's the best way to onboard the nanny in this kind of situation? What did you do? What worked and didn't work? What do you wish you'd done differently?

Nannies - what do you like in this situation?

The children are older (almost two).

[Anonymous]

I would write down as much as you can about your child's day/routines. also, be available on the phone/messages if nanny has a question. Send lots of favorite foods. do not do full day for a few days.

[Anonymous]

I dislike shares but will add…

Make sure you’re on the same page with the other family regarding guaranteed hours, when kids are sick, be respectful of her time- ie…being on time for end of day pick up (plan to get home a few mins early to get a recap so that she’s out the door on time), paying on time, discuss expectations of her when kids are napping. Assuming you’ll have a double stroller- have it set up for her especially if you have stairs, leaving petty cash in case if she wants to buy them a treat while out, respect her working space and don’t hover if you’re a WFH (no intrusive grandparents hanging around either), having a clear plan in case one or both of the families gets pregnant again or backs out of the share (Nannies depend on their money).