Should old nanny train new one?

[Anonymous]

Hi all, we hired a sitter in December to work about 30 hours a week. We needed FT but she already had a PT gig she didn't to give up, also she has her own kids so she doesn't have a lot of flexibility. In December she told us if it was a good fit she'd drop the other role. She also told us she had more flexibility to work extra hours which has not been the case. Overall we like her but she's a bit flaky and can't cover the schedule we need help with. We let her know that we started a search for a FT nanny, going into the summer we always need more coverage and she's not going to be the right fit. Now she's upset and offered to drop her other job so she can do FT, she also claims her husband hasn't been working so they're short on cash. I told her this was confusing to me as we've asked her so many times to work more hours and she's never available. Anyway, we have been doing a few trials and we have a new lady starting on Monday. Should we just give the old one some severance and let her go, or have her do some training of the new one? The training would make my life easier as I work FT, but I dont want any drama.

[Anonymous]

OP - we didn't want the nanny who's leaving to be here when we were interviewing and doing trials with the candidates so we've been paying her not to work for the last few weeks.

[Anonymous]

You're essentially firing her. No, you should not have her train your new nanny. Severance and let her go.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You're essentially firing her. No, you should not have her train your new nanny. Severance and let her go.

Thank you, I'm hoping she'll continue to work as a sitter for us, but her mood recently is making me nervous that she'll sabotage this new one

[Anonymous]

No, severance and let her go. You should train the nanny.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No, severance and let her go. You should train the nanny.

ok thank you. how much severance for six months?

[Anonymous]

some statements OP makes seem unreal. Does any nanny tell their employer they are short on cash? No, they do not. It is not that kind of relationship. Also, no one needs to "train" new nanny. At least, not by the fired nanny, that much is obvious. My conclusion is that this is another made up post!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You're essentially firing her. No, you should not have her train your new nanny. Severance and let her go.

Thank you, I'm hoping she'll continue to work as a sitter for us, but her mood recently is making me nervous that she'll sabotage this new one

You screwed her so why would she want to work for you?

[Anonymous]

We give a week's pay for a years work in terms of severance. So she'd get half a week's pay for six months. I would NOT have her babysit. Clean break.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:some statements OP makes seem unreal. Does any nanny tell their employer they are short on cash? No, they do not. It is not that kind of relationship. Also, no one needs to "train" new nanny. At least, not by the fired nanny, that much is obvious. My conclusion is that this is another made up post!

OP - to train new nanny I need to take days off work. Yes current nanny is trying to squeeze us, having been unreliable for six months now she’s nervous about losing the income

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We give a week's pay for a years work in terms of severance. So she'd get half a week's pay for six months. I would NOT have her babysit. Clean break.

Ok thank you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:some statements OP makes seem unreal. Does any nanny tell their employer they are short on cash? No, they do not. It is not that kind of relationship. Also, no one needs to "train" new nanny. At least, not by the fired nanny, that much is obvious. My conclusion is that this is another made up post!

OP - to train new nanny I need to take days off work. Yes current nanny is trying to squeeze us, having been unreliable for six months now she’s nervous about losing the income

She will sabotage your relationship with the new nanny, so you can't have her do the training. Maybe you or your spouse will have to take some time off, WFH, or just leave instructions and check in during the day.

[Anonymous]

OP, nannies are trained to work with kids, and many have years of experience, more than you do. You sound very condescending toward nannies. Unless by some reason you hired someone with zero experience., any nanny will be able to start working with brief 15 min orientation and schedule written down.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:some statements OP makes seem unreal. Does any nanny tell their employer they are short on cash? No, they do not. It is not that kind of relationship. Also, no one needs to "train" new nanny. At least, not by the fired nanny, that much is obvious. My conclusion is that this is another made up post!

OP - to train new nanny I need to take days off work. Yes current nanny is trying to squeeze us, having been unreliable for six months now she’s nervous about losing the income

She will sabotage your relationship with the new nanny, so you can't have her do the training. Maybe you or your spouse will have to take some time off, WFH, or just leave instructions and check in during the day.

Thank you. The lady who’s leaving has been unreliable so I’m struggling at work but I agree and it’s better for my kids if I’m home too. Thanks

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, nannies are trained to work with kids, and many have years of experience, more than you do. You sound very condescending toward nannies. Unless by some reason you hired someone with zero experience., any nanny will be able to start working with brief 15 min orientation and schedule written down.

What a stupid response. Maybe OP caress about her kids getting familiar with a stranger