Allowance

[Anonymous]

I nanny a 10 year old every day after school each afternoon/Evening. I have 2 children of my own. I started offering an allowance to my kids each week for choirs. The girl I sit for wants an allowance as well. I think it would be good for her to learn responsibility as well. She is not home enough to do choirs at her apartment. So I’m more than happy to have her participate as well. Should I pay her the allowance or would it be fair to ask her father to do that.

[Anonymous]

So you babysit her at your house? If she’s at your house doing chores then you pay her. I can’t see how she’s not home enough to do chores at her own apt though. Weekends?

[Anonymous]

It's "chores", not "choirs".

She's not your child, you're just the nanny, therefore you shouldn't interfere with allowance.
Mention it to the father if you want and he'll decide what he can do.

Nanny.

[Anonymous]

It's spelled "chores." You do not give her allowance. That is inappropriate. "That's something for you to talk to your parents about."

[Anonymous]

Exactly. Another nanny here. You are the Nanny but you are not the mom/dad. This is something that Parents have to talk and do with their own child. You can not offer and allowance and act like it was your own child.

Remember; we have to respect "Parenting styles" and the way they decide/want to raise their kids. The right thing is respecting boundaries and crossing lines. If you decide that for your kids, that's great. But remember we are the nannies and no the Parents.

Good luck.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Exactly. Another nanny here. You are the Nanny but you are not the mom/dad. This is something that Parents have to talk and do with their own child. You can not offer and allowance and act like it was your own child.

Remember; we have to respect "Parenting styles" and the way they decide/want to raise their kids. The right thing is respecting boundaries and crossing lines. If you decide that for your kids, that's great. But remember we are the nannies and no the Parents.

Good luck.

Same pp. I mean *No crossing lines"

[Anonymous]

Sounds like you're an unlicensed daycare in your home? And the child wants the same allowance that your children get? I'd suggest that both you and she talk to her parent. He may want you to track chores at your house, but it's highly unlikely. Why in the world would a child be expected to do chores anywhere other than her own home? Cleaning up toys and after eating aren't "chores", it's just cleaning up after herself.