Live in nanny at home

[Anonymous]

Hello parents and nannies!

Do you still pay your live in nanny when you go out for dinner? My nanny asked me to pay her but she is home. We argued that I do still need to pay her or to hire a babysitter at night. If I need to pay how much do you think? She is paid $30/h and we provide foods for her and rent free. We went for a live in nanny because she is home and we can go out as we pleased at night. What do you think?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hello parents and nannies!

Do you still pay your live in nanny when you go out for dinner? My nanny asked me to pay her but she is home. We argued that I do still need to pay her or to hire a babysitter at night. If I need to pay how much do you think? She is paid $30/h and we provide foods for her and rent free. We went for a live in nanny because she is home and we can go out as we pleased at night. What do you think?

This should have all been covered in the contract.

[Anonymous]

Live-in Nannies have a set schedule. If she works out of her set schedule she has to be paid extra. The fact that she is living there doesn't mean she would be available for you 24/7; anytime when you pleased take some date night.

To avoid these things; just look for another babysitter for those days when you need to go out and have your dates. And pay her.

[Anonymous]

Of course you pay her regular rate. If you are not home, she is responsible for the children and unable to leave. Therefore, she is working. Hiring a live in nanny does not give you a pass to come and go as you please. She needs to be compensated for all hours worked.

[Anonymous]

The fact you argued with her over this says a lot. If your kids are in bed and you asked her if she minded if you ran to the store real quick and we’re gone 20 mins I think this would be one thing. But what you are asking is totally different. She can’t go out and is responsible for your kids while you are out for the evening, you need to pay her or hire someone else.

[Anonymous]

I'm hoping OP is kidding ...

[Anonymous]

Are your kids awake or asleep? If you kids are awake, of course you need to schedule her to work those hours and pay her!

If your kids are asleep, I do understand where you are coming from, but you still need to pay her. She can’t leave the house and if anyone wakes up, she’ll be taking care of them. Maybe you could negotiate a lesser rate, but at the end of the day, you need to pay her.

Some live in Nannies may offer to watch sleeping kids for free. My friend’s Au pair would do this. It was a really kind gesture but it’s up to the sitter.

OP, was your understanding when she moved in that she’d watch sleeping kids for free in exchange for room and board? Unless she explicitly agreed to that, I think you gotta pay her.

[Anonymous]

For 30$ an hour you can find a highly qualified live out nanny! You’re definitely overpaying

[Anonymous]

OP here,

I just think that I’m overpaying her. My concern is that Nannies don’t want to work 12 hours daily, go on vacation for several months and live in. It took me 6 months to find a live nanny who is willing to work 60 hours a week, who don’t drink or party each night. She is descend with appropriate clothing in the house. I don’t want to hire 2 Nannies for my child which I believe would be disturbing to him but I also have a social life. We haven’t agree for her to work overnight and she could go out if she likes. We sometimes travel for a week or two without her and she is compensated. I think it’s fair to ask her to work one or two weekend here and there without compensation. She just refused and ask us to find a weekend nanny. Money is not an issue but it’s unfair to us. She argued that nannies are like school. Even though the child is not going the school needs to be paid but in this case, I think it’s totally different.

[Anonymous]

It's illegal and immoral to expect anyone to work without pay. Do you expect a plumber to come to your house and fix your pipes without pay? Get a haircut and highlights for free? Does your boss pick and choose what work you get paid for? Let me guess, you can't find someone to travel with your family for extended periods because you don't want to pay them according to industry standards to do so.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here,

I just think that I’m overpaying her. My concern is that Nannies don’t want to work 12 hours daily, go on vacation for several months and live in. It took me 6 months to find a live nanny who is willing to work 60 hours a week, who don’t drink or party each night. She is descend with appropriate clothing in the house. I don’t want to hire 2 Nannies for my child which I believe would be disturbing to him but I also have a social life. We haven’t agree for her to work overnight and she could go out if she likes. We sometimes travel for a week or two without her and she is compensated. I think it’s fair to ask her to work one or two weekend here and there without compensation. She just refused and ask us to find a weekend nanny. Money is not an issue but it’s unfair to us. She argued that nannies are like school. Even though the child is not going the school needs to be paid but in this case, I think it’s totally different.

So, you expect her to stay home at night and watch your kids for free so you can party and drink?

She is absolutely right. You either pay her when she agrees to work the extra hours or find a babysitter. Or, spend the time with her kids. If you travel and take the kids, yes, you pay her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hello parents and nannies!

Do you still pay your live in nanny when you go out for dinner? My nanny asked me to pay her but she is home. We argued that I do still need to pay her or to hire a babysitter at night. If I need to pay how much do you think? She is paid $30/h and we provide foods for her and rent free. We went for a live in nanny because she is home and we can go out as we pleased at night. What do you think?

You can’t be serious.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hello parents and nannies!

Do you still pay your live in nanny when you go out for dinner? My nanny asked me to pay her but she is home. We argued that I do still need to pay her or to hire a babysitter at night. If I need to pay how much do you think? She is paid $30/h and we provide foods for her and rent free. We went for a live in nanny because she is home and we can go out as we pleased at night. What do you think?

I think you should not think when you're not used to thinking. A live in nanny has set hours just as a live out nanny. Why would you think that you can call on her to babysit on her off hours? Mind boghling!

Think again and you either pay her straight time or overtime, depending on where you live.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The fact you argued with her over this says a lot. If your kids are in bed and you asked her if she minded if you ran to the store real quick and we’re gone 20 mins I think this would be one thing. But what you are asking is totally different. She can’t go out and is responsible for your kids while you are out for the evening, you need to pay her or hire someone else.

Nope. If you want her to work beyond her scheduled hours, you pay, even for 5 minutes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here,

I just think that I’m overpaying her. My concern is that Nannies don’t want to work 12 hours daily, go on vacation for several months and live in. It took me 6 months to find a live nanny who is willing to work 60 hours a week, who don’t drink or party each night. She is descend with appropriate clothing in the house. I don’t want to hire 2 Nannies for my child which I believe would be disturbing to him but I also have a social life. We haven’t agree for her to work overnight and she could go out if she likes. We sometimes travel for a week or two without her and she is compensated. I think it’s fair to ask her to work one or two weekend here and there without compensation. She just refused and ask us to find a weekend nanny. Money is not an issue but it’s unfair to us. She argued that nannies are like school. Even though the child is not going the school needs to be paid but in this case, I think it’s totally different.

OP, you are crazy! Are you paying her for those extra 20 hours? Nannies are hourly employees and no exception.