Would you do a nanny share where the other child is the nanny's child? Since one of the children is the nanny's the hourly rate would only be half of what it would normally ($10-$15 per hour). Assume this nanny is otherwise fully qualified and someone you would choose as a nanny. |
Did the nanny agree to the half rate?
Is the nanny's child close in age to yours, or is there a big gap? I'd consider it, but lean towards no. Things I would want/need to discuss early on: -I'd want the kids to be of similar age. I wouldn't want either child to be stuck napping on the go/adjusting their schedule excessively for the other. -Illness. What happens when the nanny's child is sick? What happens when yours is sick? What qualifies as 'too sick' (cough, runny nose, fever - if so, how high of a fever? Teething tends to bring high fevers, ear ache, stomach bug, etc.)? -How will you handle activities? What happens if you want to enroll your child in a class and nanny doesn't want to/can't afford to pay to enroll her child? -Who supplies the extra things like pack n play, high chair, etc.? |
Is this your only child? Do you plan to have other children soon-ish? I had two kids and would not consider a nanny who wanted to bring their own because the challenges from 2-3 were more than 1-2 in terms of timing, naps, melt-downs, potty training .... Now, I have three and even though the oldest is in school and the middle does part time preschool, I know there will be days when all three (and with nanny child 4) would be home and that was not desirable for anyone.
I bring this up, even though it is not your situation right now, because I would imagine that you would like, if possible, to hire someone for the next few years. Even if nanny stays with only one kid in the share, would you want that if you had two or three? |
The pay of 10-15 per hour sounds ridiculous, OP. Nanny shares make between 35-45, so 17.50 would be a very minimum. I would not hire a nanny with their own child just because the child knows it is his own mother and would be naturally demanding all of her attention. |
This isn't a nanny share as a nanny share both families pay. The nanny is bringing her child to work, so yes, she should charge less. Not an idea situation. |
I am a nanny who brought two my own children to work. With the first child I charged nanny share rate ($10/h- over 10 years ago). With the second one I charged $20/h - 5 years ago. You are still my boss and I would never agree on paying nanny share rate. |
Absolutely not. If both are crying at the same time, the nanny will always go to her own first. |
As an experienced professional nanny, I did not offer a discount when I brought my child. It worked out wonderfully for two years, when they moved. |
Liar. |
A professional doesn't bring their child to work. |
No. Telling the truth. |
Speak for yourself. The two physicians who hired gave me one of the most fabulous reference letters. They were grateful that their child had a well-behaved playmate every day. |
Or, they were desperate. Professionals don't bring their kids to work. |
Physicians are usually the worst employers. They usually have so much debt in medical school loans and always low ball their nannies, trying to get the cheapest nannies out there, they are busy from like 7 am to 7 pm, their kids are most difficult since they practically do not spend any time with the parents. My worst offers were from physicians (like 2 families were offering $26 per hr for nanny share and still thought they were overpaying) Needless to say, I passed their offer though felt bad about it just out of compassion for what doctors did during pandemic. Still, I have my bills, so it was just too low. |
Who are the best nanny employers? |