Nanny quit because my kids don’t take naps
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Anonymous
| Twin boys 20 months old. Nanny has been with us since my boys were nine months old and she said, she’s unable to care for them without a break. Is this normal? |
Anonymous
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Every single Nanny needs at least a little break to breath, go yo the bathroom or take a little bite for lunch. And why in the earth your twins are not taking afternoon naps? And she doesn't have a routine and nap schedule for them? Guessing bcs you don't allow her to take the lead as a Nanny or because you think it's ok, if they don't want and refuse to take a nap; only bcs they "I don't want.
Poor lady, I'm wondering how she would be doing if she has kids on her own; and she needs to take a quick little call at least of 5 min; checking of them or has children at school; when she need to attend a little call or e-mail which is necessary when you are a parent. Good for her. A nanny is also a Human being. Not a robot. |
Anonymous
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It DOES make sense that someone caring all day for two 20 month olds would need a break. But it doesn't make sense that she or you didn't get them on a schedule that you both can work with that include an afternoon nap.
I mean, mine will be three in January and is happy with a solid three hour nap each afternoon. |
Anonymous
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Is this a real question coming from a parent with 20 months old, twin boy?
Obviously your twins at this age definitely should be taking a nap every afternoon from 2-3 hours straight. If sometimes they won't fall asleep during that time. There is something called "quite time". Nap or not; they should be having their quite time in their room; just relaxing in their cribs/beds. Your question it doesn't make sense. I clearly can understand her situacion. Wishing she can find a decent position and a great fit what she deserves. Even the wonder woman would a break. Ugh what a question. |
Anonymous
| What hours do they sleep? How is their behavior without the nap ? |
Anonymous
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As a nanny, I would absolutely be quitting too. And not because I can’t deal with not having a break. Because I refuse to deal with chronically overtired children. I can’t do my job if you sent me up to fail. Kids that age should absolutely be napping most days. So you either have dropped an app intentionally at some point (possibly in the misguided belief that it will force them to sleep longer at night when you are in charge of them), or you have a long pattern of not understanding or prioritizing their sleep and not following developmentally appropriate sleep routines.
Whatever the reason that got you here, an experienced nanny is going to know that toddlers that age should absolutely still be napping regularly and if they do not nap at all and they will be chronically under slept and it will affect behavior, development, social and emotional milestones, and just generally make life a nightmare for the nanny. |
Anonymous
| Not all 20 month olds nap. Yes it is uncommon but none of you are pediatricians, haven’t met these children and don’t know their sleep patterns. |
Anonymous
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Not necessarily the parent's fault if the toddlers won't nap. If the nanny is with them full time, then she should have tried putting them on a schedule. The parents cannot put the kids on a schedule if they are working during the weekdays.
Also, some kids do not need as much sleep as others. I agree with the quiet time though. Even if kids do not nap there should be a safe play area, when they can do quiet activities in the afternoon, so that the Nanny does not need to be on high alert. |
Anonymous
Then they can rest quietly in their rooms. Expecting her to deal with not even two year old twins nonstop all day every day is a joke — and the next nanny OP wants to hire won’t put up with it either. |
Anonymous
There's not need to be a Professional pediatrician; to think as a Professional Nanny with lots of experience. Nobody wants to deal with cranky, fussy, whining children all day long; bcs the lack of sleep. Please PP, use the common sense. Signed a nanny. |
Anonymous
Nanny for 20+ years and I've never heard of a 20 month old that doesn't nap |
Anonymous
+1 My only question is - she's been with them the whole time, how did she let the no-napping happen? Did you insist? Is the nanny asking for you to do things with regards to sleep that you're unwilling to do? Our nanny helps us keep on a schedule and our 3 year old still naps (even though there have been bumps along the way, we've worked together to push past). So be honest with yourself - who let the naps drop? You or the nanny? If it was the nanny, you need a better nanny. If it was you, that was a HUGE mistake. |
Anonymous
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Seasoned nanny here . That’s a lot of work with little ones not napping. At that age If they don’t nap they at least need a quiet time for a hr in their rooms.
But in my experience a lot of kids run the household these days. If they don’t want to they don’t have to. Good luck with meltdowns |
Anonymous
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I'd probably quit too, depending on how long the day is. Half days, no problem, full days, quit. Kids that age need naps or at least quiet time as others have stated. Nanny needs an hour to decompress and collect her marbles in peace.
Why isn't the nanny putting them down for naps? |
Anonymous
| We need more info OP? Why are they not napping? Do you watch them both alone on the weekends with no break? |