Nanny transition question

[Anonymous]

Nanny is leaving us in June. We will be hiring a new nanny to start once current nanny leaves. Should we schedule a few days of overlap to transition and have new nanny learn routine? Should we leave a gap - old nanny leaves, day with no nanny, new nanny starts?

What makes the most sense to help kids. They are going to be devastated either way

[Anonymous]

Let the nannies overlap is great for the kids because the kids see your old nanny likes the new nanny. Also schedule a set time for the first nanny to visit before she leaves so she can tell the kids “see you on Wednesday!”

[Anonymous]

Yes to have the nannies work together with the old nanny “showing” the new nanny how your kids like certain things in front of the kids. And a big yes to specific plans to see the old nanny again and again and again. It can be paid babysitting or just having her over for dinner. Let your kids know that nanny #1 loves them. If they’re sad, let them be sad.

It was hard for my oldest who was three but his nanny came to see him all the time and that made it so much easier. They’re still close. When we watched Mary Poppins for the first time I said it was sad that Mary had to leave the Banks children at the end and DS said, “no. Mary will come back every Friday”.

[Anonymous]

Yes, it would be ideal if the new Nanny can overlap w/the new one.

Can you afford to pay both of their salaries for a few days?

If so - this will make the transition much smoother for ALL involved.

Win win.

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't let the nannies overlap, specially as you haven't explained why the old nanny is leaving. Unless the nanny is going off to school or some transition, otherwise you would want a fresh start with the new nanny.

[Anonymous]

It's not a good idea let the nannies overlap. Even though both nannies are good; every single nanny is totally different. And wouldn't like to spend a day or a couple of days together. The new experienced nanny would not need to follow instructions from the one who is leaving. With just a day or 2 of communication with the parents about kids routine, will be enough for her. I have heard some experiences in transition when both nannies don't like to each other. They just don't click and sometimes the jealousy issue come around during those days. Let the old nanny go happy and welcome the new one by herself. It doesn't matter if the current nanny is leaving for bad or good reasons.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's not a good idea let the nannies overlap. Even though both nannies are good; every single nanny is totally different. And wouldn't like to spend a day or a couple of days together. The new experienced nanny would not need to follow instructions from the one who is leaving. With just a day or 2 of communication with the parents about kids routine, will be enough for her. I have heard some experiences in transition when both nannies don't like to each other. They just don't click and sometimes the jealousy issue come around during those days. Let the old nanny go happy and welcome the new one by herself. It doesn't matter if the current nanny is leaving for bad or good reasons.

Maybe but it’s far better for the kids to see the nannies together and happy. No one is “replacing anyone”. A professional nanny can deal with the the possibility of not clicking with the other professional nanny and fake it for the kids sake.

I’m absolutely sure this is the better way to go for the children.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's not a good idea let the nannies overlap. Even though both nannies are good; every single nanny is totally different. And wouldn't like to spend a day or a couple of days together. The new experienced nanny would not need to follow instructions from the one who is leaving. With just a day or 2 of communication with the parents about kids routine, will be enough for her. I have heard some experiences in transition when both nannies don't like to each other. They just don't click and sometimes the jealousy issue come around during those days. Let the old nanny go happy and welcome the new one by herself. It doesn't matter if the current nanny is leaving for bad or good reasons.

Maybe but it’s far better for the kids to see the nannies together and happy. No one is “replacing anyone”. A professional nanny can deal with the the possibility of not clicking with the other professional nanny and fake it for the kids sake.

I’m absolutely sure this is the better way to go for the children.

Not if the children are sad about the old nanny leaving.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's not a good idea let the nannies overlap. Even though both nannies are good; every single nanny is totally different. And wouldn't like to spend a day or a couple of days together. The new experienced nanny would not need to follow instructions from the one who is leaving. With just a day or 2 of communication with the parents about kids routine, will be enough for her. I have heard some experiences in transition when both nannies don't like to each other. They just don't click and sometimes the jealousy issue come around during those days. Let the old nanny go happy and welcome the new one by herself. It doesn't matter if the current nanny is leaving for bad or good reasons.

Maybe but it’s far better for the kids to see the nannies together and happy. No one is “replacing anyone”. A professional nanny can deal with the the possibility of not clicking with the other professional nanny and fake it for the kids sake.

I’m absolutely sure this is the better way to go for the children.

There's no need to have 2 nannies together. The current nanny could perfectly say Bye to the kids and have her special last days with them. So kids can say bye to her pretty well and make this good bye very nice and sweet to remember without any shadow on her back. Leave a little gap between nanny is always healthy for everyone; mainly for the kids. They can start a new adventure knowing the old nanny always were visiting them and be ready to welcome new nanny. Bcs having 2 nannies together sometime make the days uncomfortable for each other; even for the most professional nanny.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's not a good idea let the nannies overlap. Even though both nannies are good; every single nanny is totally different. And wouldn't like to spend a day or a couple of days together. The new experienced nanny would not need to follow instructions from the one who is leaving. With just a day or 2 of communication with the parents about kids routine, will be enough for her. I have heard some experiences in transition when both nannies don't like to each other. They just don't click and sometimes the jealousy issue come around during those days. Let the old nanny go happy and welcome the new one by herself. It doesn't matter if the current nanny is leaving for bad or good reasons.

Maybe but it’s far better for the kids to see the nannies together and happy. No one is “replacing anyone”. A professional nanny can deal with the the possibility of not clicking with the other professional nanny and fake it for the kids sake.

I’m absolutely sure this is the better way to go for the children.

Not if the children are sad about the old nanny leaving.

Actually it’s better when the kids are sad the nanny is leaving. It’s okay to be sad. And the children seeing the new nanny compassionate about their sadness is key.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's not a good idea let the nannies overlap. Even though both nannies are good; every single nanny is totally different. And wouldn't like to spend a day or a couple of days together. The new experienced nanny would not need to follow instructions from the one who is leaving. With just a day or 2 of communication with the parents about kids routine, will be enough for her. I have heard some experiences in transition when both nannies don't like to each other. They just don't click and sometimes the jealousy issue come around during those days. Let the old nanny go happy and welcome the new one by herself. It doesn't matter if the current nanny is leaving for bad or good reasons.

Maybe but it’s far better for the kids to see the nannies together and happy. No one is “replacing anyone”. A professional nanny can deal with the the possibility of not clicking with the other professional nanny and fake it for the kids sake.

I’m absolutely sure this is the better way to go for the children.

There's no need to have 2 nannies together. The current nanny could perfectly say Bye to the kids and have her special last days with them. So kids can say bye to her pretty well and make this good bye very nice and sweet to remember without any shadow on her back. Leave a little gap between nanny is always healthy for everyone; mainly for the kids. They can start a new adventure knowing the old nanny always were visiting them and be ready to welcome new nanny. Bcs having 2 nannies together sometime make the days uncomfortable for each other; even for the most professional nanny.

Again, I disagree. I understand that it could be hard for the nannies but it’s better for the child.

[Anonymous]

Overlapping them would make the child feel like the arrival of the new nanny is "causing" the old nanny to leave, and will effect the initial bond the make the new nanny. I think you shouldn't overlap.

[Anonymous]

A week or two of overlap will make the transition much smoother. Nanny B can watch nanny A for a few days and gets to play with the kids so they think she’s fun-very important, then nannies work together, then nanny B takes over for a few days and nanny A is there just as backup and gets to play with the kids more before she leaves them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Overlapping them would make the child feel like the arrival of the new nanny is "causing" the old nanny to leave, and will effect the initial bond the make the new nanny. I think you shouldn't overlap.

That’s all determined by how the adults in the situation approach it. If it’s presented as I’m very sad I’m going to have to leave you guys but I arranged for my friend x to come play with you guys instead. I’ll be here when she comes over to meet you tomorrow and you can let me know after what you think. She’s going to be different than me but she’s really great and fun and I know you’ll grow to love her just like you love me. On the other hand If you go I need to leave but my replacement will be here next week I’ve never met her I hope she’s good then that’s what the kids will think to. Parents and nannies all have to be aware of how they approach the situation and talk about everyone involved.

[Anonymous]

Op, why is nanny leaving? Will nanny still be able to visit ect? Basically I am asking if things are on good terms.
Also, have you talked to current nanny about their thoughts?