What's typical for leaving under these circumstances?

[Anonymous]

Nanny is leaving in June. She has been with us almost 2 years. We LOVE her and think the world of her. She wants to go back to school to become an elementary teacher. So, the parting is mutual and on good terms, but is initiated 100% by her. We would still employ her if she wanted.

So, what is customary here? Do we pay severance, even though we are not ending the contract? A nice gift? An extra week pay?

We are at the top of our budget just paying for a nanny. If funds were unlimited, of course I would shower her with all the things. But that is not our reality. We can't pay her two months salary or pay out all her unused sick time (those aren't things in the contract just using them as an example)

Would love to hear from nannies who have been in this situation and what you got. Would love to hear from employers and what you offered.

My hope / guess is she will still be our first call / date night sitter so will hopefully be in our lives still. So I would like to do something nice.

[Anonymous]

I finished two jobs in this way and didn’t receive nor expect severance pay. I was given beautiful gifts from my employers and still see my former changes regularly. Having my relationships continue with the families was most important to me.

[shinu]

Nanny is the wonderful gift of god. Nanny teaches us those lessons that mom can't.

[Anonymous]

I am a professional career nanny of over 13years. All long term 1-5 years each position. Two jobs I didn’t even receive a card. One I got one weeks pay and the other a gift card to a spa for a massage and facial. I never expect anything but it is very much appreciated especially working in someone’s home which is more of an intimate setting. I honestly think even if it’s cards and flowers she will be grateful

[Anonymous]

shinu wrote:Nanny is the wonderful gift of god. Nanny teaches us those lessons that mom can't.

F off.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I finished two jobs in this way and didn’t receive nor expect severance pay. I was given beautiful gifts from my employers and still see my former changes regularly. Having my relationships continue with the families was most important to me.

+1. Same. Severance is for if you’re fired.

My former employers were wonderful about giving me time off for new job interviews which was really helpful. I’d recommend you do the same, OP.

Then a thoughtful gift and a set time for when the nanny will be back (this is easiest on the children). “Nanny isn’t going to be coming every day but she’s going to come on Friday to give you cuddles and play!” Keep it upbeat.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I finished two jobs in this way and didn’t receive nor expect severance pay. I was given beautiful gifts from my employers and still see my former changes regularly. Having my relationships continue with the families was most important to me.

+1. Same. Severance is for if you’re fired.

My former employers were wonderful about giving me time off for new job interviews which was really helpful. I’d recommend you do the same, OP.

Then a thoughtful gift and a set time for when the nanny will be back (this is easiest on the children). “Nanny isn’t going to be coming every day but she’s going to come on Friday to give you cuddles and play!” Keep it upbeat.

My apologies! I just reread your post OP and your nanny is going to school so no interviews necessary.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Nanny is leaving in June. She has been with us almost 2 years. We LOVE her and think the world of her. She wants to go back to school to become an elementary teacher. So, the parting is mutual and on good terms, but is initiated 100% by her. We would still employ her if she wanted.

So, what is customary here? Do we pay severance, even though we are not ending the contract? A nice gift? An extra week pay?

We are at the top of our budget just paying for a nanny. If funds were unlimited, of course I would shower her with all the things. But that is not our reality. We can't pay her two months salary or pay out all her unused sick time (those aren't things in the contract just using them as an example)

Would love to hear from nannies who have been in this situation and what you got. Would love to hear from employers and what you offered.

My hope / guess is she will still be our first call / date night sitter so will hopefully be in our lives still. So I would like to do something nice.

Severance isn’t necessary or expected.

A monetary gift would be spores but certainly not necessary. A nice gift and card is enough.

The best gift to her and your kids is that she remain in their lives. Invite her over for meals and birthdays and holidays. Let your kids know that she still loves them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I finished two jobs in this way and didn’t receive nor expect severance pay. I was given beautiful gifts from my employers and still see my former changes regularly. Having my relationships continue with the families was most important to me.

+1. Same. Severance is for if you’re fired.

My former employers were wonderful about giving me time off for new job interviews which was really helpful. I’d recommend you do the same, OP.

Then a thoughtful gift and a set time for when the nanny will be back (this is easiest on the children). “Nanny isn’t going to be coming every day but she’s going to come on Friday to give you cuddles and play!” Keep it upbeat.

Love your quote PP.

You are a poet but didn’t know it!