Grandma home all day

[Anonymous]

Baby is sleeping. I've been with this family for 8 months and Grandma never ever leaves the house. Unfortunately, I was not told she was going to be home all day with the baby and I for 8 to 10 hours a day for 5 days. The mom told me at the beginning grandma was leaving in 6 weeks. Big fat lies after lies, I finally had enough. I'm just writing my notice to the parents that the working condition of this house is unbearable and I'm giving my two weeks notice. My question is how do people work with others in the same household wow taking care of the babies. Don't forget Grandma knows best, always interfering with the baby schedule, what I'm feeding the baby, I should hold the baby for nap, never ending unsolicited advice.

[Anonymous]

Honestly I’d quit today. After 8 months I doubt they’ll give you a glowing reference considering you don’t want to be bothered with grandma too. They’re not in a bind for childcare as they have grandma. No point in giving notice unless you want to use them as a reference-which they probably won’t give

[Anonymous]

You can easily work with others depending on the others! I’ve been in the same house with a two parents who work from home and a frequently visiting grandmother. All take a step back and follow my lead regarding the kids (it’s what they hired me for) and when grandma is here she actually helps me (doing kids dishes, joining us for walks, Occupying the toddler so I can use the bathroom alone, etc).

I’ve known horrid grandmothers however and they make the work untenable. Give your notice.

[Anonymous]

There are wonderful grandmothers out there. Our just got a bad one. Out of four nanny jobs, I only had one really horrible grandmother (luckily she only came by occasionally when I was there). She was rude as hell. The other three sets of grandmothers could have lived in my charges homes and I’d be fine.

[Anonymous]

Did you give your notice, OP?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Did you give your notice, OP?

OP here,

I gave the mom my notice today and I didn't see grandma since 8 am. Mom has a interview set up already for Wednesday. She wants me to train the new Nanny.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Did you give your notice, OP?

OP here,

I gave the mom my notice today and I didn't see grandma since 8 am. Mom has a interview set up already for Wednesday. She wants me to train the new Nanny.

That’s okay, OP. Now you set up interviews!

[Anonymous]

Good for you. You did the right thing. It's always better work in a great environment for your well being; when the family let you do your job.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Did you give your notice, OP?

OP here,

I gave the mom my notice today and I didn't see grandma since 8 am. Mom has a interview set up already for Wednesday. She wants me to train the new Nanny.

Make sure the new nanny knows that grandma will be there all day.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Did you give your notice, OP?

OP here,

I gave the mom my notice today and I didn't see grandma since 8 am. Mom has a interview set up already for Wednesday. She wants me to train the new Nanny.

Make sure the new nanny knows that grandma will be there all day.[/quote

OP here,

New Nanny didn't show up for work today. Also, she's not answering her email or phone since this morning. I'm assuming this is what the young people nowadays call it ghosting. I am speechless at the moment because we are back to square one. This time they're going with a nanny agency. I have one week until my contract with this family is over.]

[Anonymous]

Please keep us posted, OP! It’s hysterical the new nanny never showed up!

[Anonymous]

They'll just have to pay Grandma to do it. Not your problem, OP.

[Anonymous]

I really wish there was a way for nannies to know the “grandmother’s situation” in the interview process. Local or visiting, they’re generally always a problem.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Please keep us posted, OP! It’s hysterical the new nanny never showed up!

OP here,

Friday was my last day. Family has decided to place baby in daycare because no luck with nannies at the moment. The mom was very unprofessional and short temper because she was unable to hire someone quickly. I learned a big lesson from this family. Always ask if other members of the family will be at home while I am at work and how much are they involved with the kids? I work better by myself without a shadow following me around all day.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I really wish there was a way for nannies to know the “grandmother’s situation” in the interview process. Local or visiting, they’re generally always a problem.

OP here,

I was talking to my nanny friends how to avoid working in this condition again and we came up with a list.

Unfortunately, we have decided to avoid working with most foreign parents because the problem usually is with this group. I know it’s racist but it’s also very true. I am also a foreigner mysel, I have to agree to only work for American family only. A lot of non Americans are used to having nannies. Housekeepers and etc. They are used to treating domestic workers terrible and without care at all. Most nannies are professionals with college degrees and they will not stay long with this family.