Rematch question

[Anonymous]

Hi there - We’re almost 3 weeks in with a new au pair. The same night that we were going to sit down with her and discuss our quite serious concerns about her actions/behavior, she suddenly announced that she’d like to rematch because she doesn’t want to live in our area.

The LCC asked the AP, my husband and I if we all agreed to the rematch (yes) and suggested that we skip the “let’s try to work on these problems” period because wanting to live somewhere else isn’t something we can “work through.” That’s true - and we’re ready to get this AP out of the house.

I mentioned that we have concerns about AP to the LCC, but she hasn’t followed up and asked us anything about them. I assume this is so she has plausible the liability when talking to new interviewing host families.

Does anyone have thoughts about this? Should we proactively tell the LCC about our experiences with AP? Maybe it’s not worth because she isn’t motivated to share such info with any other host families? Will interviewing families want to contact us? Maybe it’s better off not to say anything so that we can get this done with?

[Anonymous]

Sorry: “plausible deniability”

[Anonymous]

If I had concerns about an au pair’s ability to do the job and an unresponsive LCC I would put them in email to the LCC.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hi there - We’re almost 3 weeks in with a new au pair. The same night that we were going to sit down with her and discuss our quite serious concerns about her actions/behavior, she suddenly announced that she’d like to rematch because she doesn’t want to live in our area.

The LCC asked the AP, my husband and I if we all agreed to the rematch (yes) and suggested that we skip the “let’s try to work on these problems” period because wanting to live somewhere else isn’t something we can “work through.” That’s true - and we’re ready to get this AP out of the house.

I mentioned that we have concerns about AP to the LCC, but she hasn’t followed up and asked us anything about them. I assume this is so she has plausible the liability when talking to new interviewing host families.

Does anyone have thoughts about this? Should we proactively tell the LCC about our experiences with AP? Maybe it’s not worth because she isn’t motivated to share such info with any other host families? Will interviewing families want to contact us? Maybe it’s better off not to say anything so that we can get this done with?

Is this your first AP? The aupair company and LCC do not care about your experiences with the aupair. They will rematch her without even telling the new families that she likely used your family for a visa knowing that she was going to show up and "not adapt well to the suburbs" or whatever line she gave you.

They will contact you so that you know how much money you just lost on this whole thing and to give you info about finding another aupair who you will not get accurate information about because the company won't ask the host family for info in that situation either.

I'm sorry you are in the rematch loop. You can sometimes find a gem. The only way to get your LCCs attention is to threaten to drop the aupair off at their house for the 2 week rematch timeframe. That's literally the only way she's contacting you about this.

[Anonymous]

I'm with Au Pair Care and I've had experience with 2 rematches. Our first one requested rematch about half way into her year. Her eventual new host family contacted me and I gave fair feedback (good with the kids but bad fit for family lifestyle). You may very well get phone calls from prospective host families.

Our next au pair had requested rematch from her first host family. Her working conditions were bad and she was staying with her LCC during her last 2 weeks. I talked with her LCC instead of her old HM. The LCC's account matched her story and I was comfortable with moving forward with her. She finished her year with us and extended for one more.

I think most host families out there will do their homework. If I see a rematch au pair who broke the match 3 weeks in and want a different location, I'd have lots of questions. Definitely email your LCC your concerns. Beyond that, it's up to other host families to do the research.

[Anonymous]

OP here — Thanks very much for your replies. She’s our second AP. Our first was with us for 2.5 years, so we haven’t experienced this before. We’re curious to see how the company handles this. And I like the idea of emailing the LCC with our concerns (AFTER we get confirmation that we’re officially in the 2-week rematch period, as I don’t want that email to somehow slow things down). That way I’ll have done what I can to provide the information and will hope it gets to the right people.