$36,000 Nanny for two kids!

[Anonymous]

Background story: English is my second language, please be gentle.
My younger sister refused to care for my kids because she doesn't like my wife. Younger sister used to live with us while in college. She just completed her early Childhood Education and received her associate degree. She lived with us rent free in exchange for child care for my newborn son.

Two years forward, my wife and I had another baby. We asked my sister to watch both kids full time. We agree to pay her plus rent free. She said absolutely NO! She is moving out next Friday and staying with her new employer until she save cash for a new place. $36,000 new Nanny salary plus sick pay and holiday. Her new boss is a college professor and husband is in sales. My wife and I were can pay her $15 per hour plus free rent. Let me know if I was too cheap? I am sure I was. I feel so sad for my kids. We don't have that kind of cash for a Nanny.

[Anonymous]

Seriously, $15 per hour for two kids is low end. She has a 2-year associate degree for early childhood education. Why will she wants to watch your kids all day for 8 hours and also live in the same household. Ask yourself will I be able to pay my bills with $15 times 40 hours a week. Even if she gets rent free. I'm sure she has student loans plus other expense. Also I am sure your wife or you or not super nice to her while while living there for 2 years. The going rate for nannies for two kids under the age of five currently in this area is 25 and and above. I hate cheap parents who thinks they can afford the college educated nanny to educate their kids 8 to 10 hours per day and not willing to compensate correctly.

[Anonymous]

I think $15 an hour for a live in gig is s good deal personally. Bit if she doesn’t want to do it you need to be ok with her. She’s an adult and she said no, Respect that. Let her be an Aunt and find alternative childcare.

[Anonymous]

Are you sure there aren’t other issues at play, OP? $15 an hour for a live in is in the low end but not ridiculous. My guess is that something else is going on.

[Anonymous]

Does she have her own separate area of the house?

[Anonymous]

I would never work as a nanny for a family member. You will never be respected like you would working for someone else. My mother did this for my sister’s kids and they made her feel like they were doing her a big favor by paying her anything. You should have thought about alternative childcare before having another child.

[Anonymous]

I had to double check the date of this post.

$15hr for live in is EXTREMELY low. There's no difference in the wages of live-in vs live-out

[Anonymous]

I pay a lot more than $15 an hour for two kids.

[Anonymous]

$15 an hour is fine but most people don't want to work for $15 an hour if they can make more elsewhere nor do they want live in- live with family.

Are you providing a car? Health insurance?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I had to double check the date of this post.

$15hr for live in is EXTREMELY low. There's no difference in the wages of live-in vs live-out

There definitely is a difference in live in/out rates. Maybe you wouldn’t take less but many nannies happily do.

[Anonymous]

OP here,
My sister has her own bedroom and she shares the bathroom with my son. We eat together as a family, take turn cooking, and cleaning. My wife and I are willing to pay $15 per hour for eights hours. We cannot offer health insurance or other benefits because we cannot at this moment. My sisters relationship with my wife is not the best, because my son is very close to my sister and it's creating issues. My sister is a good person, she's educated, and my son has benefited from her a lot. When baby number two was born, we asked my sister to watch both of them. She didn't feel that the money we will offering was adequate compare to what other people will pay. I explained to her, my wife and I just don't have enough to pay her $25 per hour right now. The compensate for the lack of money, we offered rent free, still she is determined to leave. She is willing to wait until we find a new sitter or nanny. Her new job is basically better for her and it's one child compared to two.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Background story: English is my second language, please be gentle.
My younger sister refused to care for my kids because she doesn't like my wife. Younger sister used to live with us while in college. She just completed her early Childhood Education and received her associate degree. She lived with us rent free in exchange for child care for my newborn son.

Two years forward, my wife and I had another baby. We asked my sister to watch both kids full time. We agree to pay her plus rent free. She said absolutely NO! She is moving out next Friday and staying with her new employer until she save cash for a new place. $36,000 new Nanny salary plus sick pay and holiday. Her new boss is a college professor and husband is in sales. My wife and I were can pay her $15 per hour plus free rent. Let me know if I was too cheap? I am sure I was. I feel so sad for my kids. We don't have that kind of cash for a Nanny.

That is $3,000/month and after taxes, FICA, etc around $2,000/ month. Yes, you are cheap. Two kids is a minimum o $25/$30 an hour. Also, hiring relatives is also not a good idea.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here,
My sister has her own bedroom and she shares the bathroom with my son. We eat together as a family, take turn cooking, and cleaning. My wife and I are willing to pay $15 per hour for eights hours. We cannot offer health insurance or other benefits because we cannot at this moment. My sisters relationship with my wife is not the best, because my son is very close to my sister and it's creating issues. My sister is a good person, she's educated, and my son has benefited from her a lot. When baby number two was born, we asked my sister to watch both of them. She didn't feel that the money we will offering was adequate compare to what other people will pay. I explained to her, my wife and I just don't have enough to pay her $25 per hour right now. The compensate for the lack of money, we offered rent free, still she is determined to leave. She is willing to wait until we find a new sitter or nanny. Her new job is basically better for her and it's one child compared to two.

You sound very selfish. Why wouldn't you want her to take the job that is better for her? Your children are not her obligation, and I cannot imagine living with a woman who rather than being thrilled and grateful that her son is close to his aunt, is instead jealous. I'm so happy for your sister for getting out of what I am sure is a very toxic environment for her, and I hope that you encourage the relationship between your son and your sister on whatever her terms are going forward.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here,
My sister has her own bedroom and she shares the bathroom with my son. We eat together as a family, take turn cooking, and cleaning. My wife and I are willing to pay $15 per hour for eights hours. We cannot offer health insurance or other benefits because we cannot at this moment. My sisters relationship with my wife is not the best, because my son is very close to my sister and it's creating issues. My sister is a good person, she's educated, and my son has benefited from her a lot. When baby number two was born, we asked my sister to watch both of them. She didn't feel that the money we will offering was adequate compare to what other people will pay. I explained to her, my wife and I just don't have enough to pay her $25 per hour right now. The compensate for the lack of money, we offered rent free, still she is determined to leave. She is willing to wait until we find a new sitter or nanny. Her new job is basically better for her and it's one child compared to two.

You sound very selfish. Why wouldn't you want her to take the job that is better for her? Your children are not her obligation, and I cannot imagine living with a woman who rather than being thrilled and grateful that her son is close to his aunt, is instead jealous. I'm so happy for your sister for getting out of what I am sure is a very toxic environment for her, and I hope that you encourage the relationship between your son and your sister on whatever her terms are going forward.

I do think the relationship with your wife is key here. Why would anyone with options choose to not only work for someone who is irrational and jealous, but also have to take all meals and live with them? That is a mental health nightmare. Please support your sister and apologize if you said anything less than supportive about her new opportunity. Your wife needs an attitude check. I feel bad for your kid.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think $15 an hour for a live in gig is s good deal personally. Bit if she doesn’t want to do it you need to be ok with her. She’s an adult and she said no, Respect that. Let her be an Aunt and find alternative childcare.

No, that's not a good deal. A live-in nanny doesn't earn less than a live out nanny. Live-in is for the convenience of the family, not for the nanny. Like there is a minor pro as to not paying rent, but if you lower the rate due to being a live-in, they are technically paying towards rent. I don't know anyone that would choose to rent a room in a house with kids/a family that they will see every day for work when they could live literally anywhere else.