Don’t know what to do
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Anonymous
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My girlfriend recommended me to work for her for a few months (we are nannies )
While working Both kids and parents love me it sounds and looks like they want to offer me the job I want to accept if asked I was not working for a few years (my choice)and the money I’m making on my friend job is great My friend is coming back for her job Do you think my friend will dislike me if I stay on her joy? |
Anonymous
| Get some glass of wine, girl! |
Anonymous
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So if I understand correctly, you are filling in for a friend and the family likes you and you think they might ask you to stay long-term (which would mean your friend gets fired)?
If that is the case then there is no way you will still be friends if you steal her job (because that is 100% how she will feel). So decide first which matters more: the friend or the job. |
Anonymous
+1. Your friend will hate you and rightfully so. Further, I would never - ever - trust employers who would drop a long term nanny like that. Great nanny positions are not hard to come by. This temp nanny job will give you a good and recent reference. Go find a new job. |
Anonymous
| Friends don’t screw friends out of their job. |
Anonymous
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Why did she leave? Wae on vacation for three months or she had surgery or she was helping a relative who had COVId complications? Recovery or helping others - you will lose a friend over taking the job. Vacation? She would have to understand that risk when she left for three weeks or three months.
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Anonymous
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Op here
She did surgery which had some complications But is healing nicely now However it’s over a month now and the kids are getting so attached to me My friend started with kids when they were three weeks old they’re almost two now Parents are pregnant again and worry my friend will not be able to lift kids I told then it’s their choice |
Anonymous
You suck, OP. |
Anonymous
Ok, so they need to provide a great reference to your friend, but they also have a reasonable fear. Remind your friend that you will send any information you find on other positions, and make sure you’re looking! |
Anonymous
Still not cool. Is the family really that worth it for you? They will drop you like a hot potato too. You are angelina, your friend is jen, and the family is brad |
Anonymous
+1. What they do to her - they will do to you. Don’t be a fool! And if you are going to be stupid and take your friend’s job make sure you NEVER get sick or injured as they’ll replace you in a heartbeat. |
Anonymous
+1. And OP is stupid. |
Anonymous
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You're not a nice friend at all. Your friend had surgery and recommended you because she thought her job would be safe. Instead you are planning to take it from her while she is recovering and likely racking up bills.
Are you familiar with Karma at all? |
Anonymous
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I agree that if this family is so comfortable dropping their current Nanny in a heartbeat - they clearly would do the same thing to you if given the chance.
Also, if you took over her job >>> then it is 1000% that your friend will never ever speak to you again. These are excellent reasons not to accept this position if it is offered to you. Good luck. |
Anonymous
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Op here
My other friend who recommended me is angry She told me I’m stealing our friend job I told her it is not my fault friend employers love me and want me to work for them Honestly I told her I don’t care what people say They don’t want my friend back so should I say no to the job? |