Baby sleep
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Anonymous
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Hello all,
I just started a job with two children. One is 14 months a barely nap one hour a day and a new born one month. Parents WFH. The family wants the baby to nap on me all the time and manage the 14 months two. I'm so exhausted and suggested them to let the baby sleeps I His crib. I never worked with that kind of family. The pay is well in MD $28/h. I wanted some suggestions how to handle it or just quit. Does anyone experience that parents and nannies. I have more than 15 years of experiences.. Also, the family wants me to do the family laundry and light cooking for them and clean the dishes. I just feel taking advantage. We didn't have that on our contract. It started with one dishes out but now even Monday morning they left everything that they used over the weekend for me. I was doing it because she was tired and pregnant. |
Anonymous
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First, before you think about quitting, ask for a sit-down and talk to them about your issues. Stop the job creep first - no more parents dishes or parents laundry.
The baby sleeping on you is a philosophy called Fourth Trimester” and some parents are into it. May not be much you can do about that but ask for support from them. |
Anonymous
+1. Stop the job creep immediately and first. There is no way in hell I would ever do parents laundry or wash parents dishes much less light cooking! My job is the children and direct child-related chores only. But the holding-thing is a parents’ prerogative and philosophy so you’ll have to keep doing that. |
Anonymous
| Holding the baby for all naps only works if the toddler can be hands off during that time. Talk to the parents and explain the issues. See if they’re open to wearing the baby (for naps) while you take care of the toddler. |
Anonymous
| OP here Thank you all! I was wondering how long that would last because parents might ask that for more than the trimester. Babies sleep all the times do I have to hold him all his naps? Thank you again |
Anonymous
It’s only the first three months if the parents are following the Fourth Trimester but you don’t know if that’s why they want you to hold him. You have to talk to your employers, OP, and get this stuff straightened out. |
Anonymous
Again, ask your employers. Some may be fine with baby wearing, but haven’t thought of the nanny doing it. As an added plus, wearing the baby can let you take the toddler to the park while the baby sleeps. |
Anonymous
| A 14 month old napping an hour a day is bit a good thing either. |
Anonymous
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I agree that it would definitely be physically exhausting having to wear a one-month old while he/she naps.
Also having to do dishes + laundry for the family, etc. If you really need the $$, then try talking to the parents by going over your contract. If you can afford to find another position - then I personally would do so. Wishing you the best. |
Anonymous
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I would have sit down with the family. First, this is your job, you’re the professional and you know that a newborn should be sleeping in his or her crib/bassinet not on the nanny all day long. The 14 month old only napping an hour is ok but 2 would be ideal. Unless you’re ok with parents laundry/dishes then tell them no and that you’d like to stick to baby related responsibilities. If you are ok with participating in these task, I would ask for additional compensation for me $35 (at minimum) would be somewhat fair- this would mean baby definitely needs to sleep in the crib to allow you to handle other stuff.
$28/hr is fair and I’d expect the parents to want you to handle the children’s laundry but their stuff is another a job and you should be paid accordingly. |