Breakfast dishes

[Anonymous]

Having a "debate" with someone. Here is the situation

Nanny arrives at 8:15am. Sometimes kids are still sitting at table eating breakfast. Sometimes, kids get up earlier and breakfast is over and kids are playing when nanny arrives. Parent has to leave at 8:15, so if kids are still eating nanny has to clean up breakfast dishes. But, if kids finish early parent could put dishes in dishwasher. Person A says that breakfast dishes are part of nanny work time since many times she arrives and kids are eating. Person B says if kids finish before nanny arrives those dishes are not part of the "clean up after kid messes" part of nanny job. Just like anything done at night after nanny leaves.

Who do you think is right. Both people employ nannies. But different ones.

[Anonymous]

Person B is right.

[Anonymous]

You job.

[Anonymous]

A
seems very petty to not put dishes in dishwasher

[Anonymous]

Oh good lord assuming we are talking about a couple of dishes your nanny is petty AF if she would refuse to tidy that up. I think it would personally just annoy me to look at all day if I were a nanny. If you are talking about cleaning up a bunch of pots abs pans from cooking breakfast then yes that it out of bounds

[Anonymous]

if they're a couple dishes that the kids left, id do them. in addition, in my past nanny jobs I would occasionally wash all dishes.this was very rare bc one charge was an infant and I would do for example if he took a long nap. but I'm not a petty nanny. and don't be a petty employer. do them if you have time.

[Anonymous]

I have absolutely no problem doing the kids dishes whether I’m there when they finish eating or not.

However parents’ dishes or dishes from the night before? Big problem

[Anonymous]

Nanny does kid dishes from breakfast and lunch.

[Anonymous]

In theory, I would have to say that I agree w/Person B the most, but as a Nanny I wouldn’t mind doing the breakfast dishes.
Sans any pots + pans of course.

[Anonymous]

OP here - this is so fascinating. I was telling a friend that one of the things I was worried about with my maternity leave ending was how stressful the morning would be because it is driven for me by the baby. If she is asleep or up, I can get ready, make breakfast, and put dishes away. If she is hungry and nursing, that changes my timeline. I was stressed about not being able to put dishes from kids in the dishwasher before she came. But did not want to be the jerk who left the dishes for nanny even though kids are without nanny. Friend said that nanny should put dishes in dishwasher (not talking about parent food or any pots / pan's. Talking cereal or oatmeal bowls).

I totally expected to get 100% consensus that nanny should not have to touch the breakfast dishes if kids finish early. But if nanny would not be offended by breakfast dishes some days, that alleviates some of my stress about going back to work.

[Anonymous]

* kids are eating without nanny

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here - this is so fascinating. I was telling a friend that one of the things I was worried about with my maternity leave ending was how stressful the morning would be because it is driven for me by the baby. If she is asleep or up, I can get ready, make breakfast, and put dishes away. If she is hungry and nursing, that changes my timeline. I was stressed about not being able to put dishes from kids in the dishwasher before she came. But did not want to be the jerk who left the dishes for nanny even though kids are without nanny. Friend said that nanny should put dishes in dishwasher (not talking about parent food or any pots / pan's. Talking cereal or oatmeal bowls).

I totally expected to get 100% consensus that nanny should not have to touch the breakfast dishes if kids finish early. But if nanny would not be offended by breakfast dishes some days, that alleviates some of my stress about going back to work.

You sound like you’re going to be a considerate employer. Don’t sweat the kids breakfast dishes.

- signed, a nanny

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here - this is so fascinating. I was telling a friend that one of the things I was worried about with my maternity leave ending was how stressful the morning would be because it is driven for me by the baby. If she is asleep or up, I can get ready, make breakfast, and put dishes away. If she is hungry and nursing, that changes my timeline. I was stressed about not being able to put dishes from kids in the dishwasher before she came. But did not want to be the jerk who left the dishes for nanny even though kids are without nanny. Friend said that nanny should put dishes in dishwasher (not talking about parent food or any pots / pan's. Talking cereal or oatmeal bowls).

I totally expected to get 100% consensus that nanny should not have to touch the breakfast dishes if kids finish early. But if nanny would not be offended by breakfast dishes some days, that alleviates some of my stress about going back to work.

You sound like you’re going to be a considerate employer. Don’t sweat the kids breakfast dishes.

- signed, a nanny

I’m a MB, and I think OP is at risk for turning into a doormat. OP is getting stressed out that she won’t have time to clean up breakfast dishes before her nanny arrives. Just describe your day - in the morning, you’ll need to help the kids out the breakfast dishes in the dishwasher...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here - this is so fascinating. I was telling a friend that one of the things I was worried about with my maternity leave ending was how stressful the morning would be because it is driven for me by the baby. If she is asleep or up, I can get ready, make breakfast, and put dishes away. If she is hungry and nursing, that changes my timeline. I was stressed about not being able to put dishes from kids in the dishwasher before she came. But did not want to be the jerk who left the dishes for nanny even though kids are without nanny. Friend said that nanny should put dishes in dishwasher (not talking about parent food or any pots / pan's. Talking cereal or oatmeal bowls).

I totally expected to get 100% consensus that nanny should not have to touch the breakfast dishes if kids finish early. But if nanny would not be offended by breakfast dishes some days, that alleviates some of my stress about going back to work.

One thing regarding dishes - especially oatmeal - I'd make sure she knows that she needs to rinse out the bowl first. I remember a MB on here years ago very upset because her nanny wasn't properly rinsing the dishes before putting them in the dishwasher. Blame it on the dishwasher "once food dries on a bowl/plate, our dishwasher has a really difficult time cleaning it. If you could rinse them first I'd really appreciate it!"

[Anonymous]

I consider part of my job to be making parent's lives a little easier. I don't put a lot of thought into loading a few dishes into the dishwasher or even unloading it no matter who used the dishes or when they used them. That being said there are a lot of nannies who have experienced job creep and a small vocal contingent who feel that it is beneath them to even have to look at the dishwasher. Obviously if I came to work everyday and the place was trashed I'd be pissed.

FWIW, for various families I have done dishes, cooked, used my own car for kids and errands, prepared special pet food, taken care of pets and house while family is on vacation, facilitated grand parent visits when parents are working, shopped, etc. I am no doormat and have done all these things at my own pleasure. The people I have done these things for have treated me the same.