flaky au pairs

[Anonymous]

dear flaky au pairs,

please note that when you decide to break your commitments, you end up driving nicer host families because we are done investing so much time, effort, and money into making this a good experience for you and to respect you like a niece.

Signed,
Spent Host Mom

[Anonymous]

**end up driving nicer host families out of the program

[Anonymous]

Must be something going on with OP, but I do see your point. The nicer host families do tend to get screwed the most.

[Anonymous]

I’ve seen a lot of rematches from families with medical exemptions recently. I can’t help but thinking that is some of the au pair companies encouraging au pairs to play those families for the visa. The incentives are screwy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’ve seen a lot of rematches from families with medical exemptions recently. I can’t help but thinking that is some of the au pair companies encouraging au pairs to play those families for the visa. The incentives are screwy.

Really? That is horrible. I've seen rematch profiles read to the effect of "au pair violated covid rules twice and stayed out all night. she is regretful and really loves kids". Send. them. home.

[Anonymous]

I'm sorry, OP, that you went through a bad experience with your Au Pair.

I was an Au Pair in NYC a few years ago. I am a very kind person. My host family was mean spirited, I wish I could have stayed with a kind host family. I did my best for the children, who were fantastic. But the parents really spoiled my experience and I still have nightmares about them, years after this experience.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm sorry, OP, that you went through a bad experience with your Au Pair.

I was an Au Pair in NYC a few years ago. I am a very kind person. My host family was mean spirited, I wish I could have stayed with a kind host family. I did my best for the children, who were fantastic. But the parents really spoiled my experience and I still have nightmares about them, years after this experience.

That is so awful. How do we make sure we root out the ones that should be rooted out?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm sorry, OP, that you went through a bad experience with your Au Pair.

I was an Au Pair in NYC a few years ago. I am a very kind person. My host family was mean spirited, I wish I could have stayed with a kind host family. I did my best for the children, who were fantastic. But the parents really spoiled my experience and I still have nightmares about them, years after this experience.

I’m an nyc host parent and sorry to hear about your bad experience. Can you elaborate on what they did that was so awful? Why didn’t you rematch or at least talk with the lcc to get help?

[Anonymous]

At the end of the day, AP agencies don't favor HFs or APs, they just favor agencies.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm sorry, OP, that you went through a bad experience with your Au Pair.

I was an Au Pair in NYC a few years ago. I am a very kind person. My host family was mean spirited, I wish I could have stayed with a kind host family. I did my best for the children, who were fantastic. But the parents really spoiled my experience and I still have nightmares about them, years after this experience.

I’m an nyc host parent and sorry to hear about your bad experience. Can you elaborate on what they did that was so awful? Why didn’t you rematch or at least talk with the lcc to get help?[/quote]

How do you know she didn't, unless this post is making you feel guilty?

[Anonymous]

hmm

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm sorry, OP, that you went through a bad experience with your Au Pair.

I was an Au Pair in NYC a few years ago. I am a very kind person. My host family was mean spirited, I wish I could have stayed with a kind host family. I did my best for the children, who were fantastic. But the parents really spoiled my experience and I still have nightmares about them, years after this experience.

I’m an nyc host parent and sorry to hear about your bad experience. Can you elaborate on what they did that was so awful? Why didn’t you rematch or at least talk with the lcc to get help?[/quote]

How do you know she didn't, unless this post is making you feel guilty?

The poster doesn’t say anything about asking for help.