Nannies. Would you nanny while having your own children?

[Anonymous]

I’m having a hard time or being comfortable with the idea of nannying another persons child while sending my own off to daycare. Yes. I know finding a family who is willing to let you bring you bring your child is a possibility but they usually pay lower and are hard to come by.

I had a pretty lucrative career as a travel nanny till I had my son a year ago. My spouse is pushing me to go back to work but I’m really struggling the the idea of spending so much time with another persons child while my son is away from me.

I loved nannying and really enjoyed being a travel nanny but having my own put a lot into perspective. I’d love my own income again but I already have so much guilt with the thought.

[Anonymous]

Nanny here. I felt the same way, luckily I was able to stay with him the first year of life. Now, I’m ready to send him off to daycare lol. It will be good for him and me— and he needs the interaction with other children his age and to build some independence— it’s just us and with this pandemic he really doesn’t spend time with other children.

Look at it this way. You are working to provide for him. You’ll be away from him for what 10-12hrs? Maybe find a job that starts at 9am or later— you’ll have time with him in the mornings and then when you get home. There’s always the weekends, holidays and vacations to make up for it but he will be fine.

[Anonymous]

I’m a nanny and mother of 2. I had my daughter at work with me till she was 1.5 - then I sent her to day care. I’ve been bringing my son to work since he turned 6months (he is 3 now) but I do have to admit that pandemic made it super easy to find family with child in his age and I actually make slightly more then pre-covid !

[Anonymous]

No, I couldn’t do it. I truly believe in one-on-one care whether it’s my child or a charge in the first three years.

I’d try creating a nanny share, OP, as it’s the best option.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No, I couldn’t do it. I truly believe in one-on-one care whether it’s my child or a charge in the first three years.

I’d try creating a nanny share, OP, as it’s the best option.

+100. I would never want to put mine in daycare.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No, I couldn’t do it. I truly believe in one-on-one care whether it’s my child or a charge in the first three years.

I’d try creating a nanny share, OP, as it’s the best option.

+100. I would never want to put mine in daycare.

+200. I bring my baby to work. I worked with my child and my beloved charges, lowered my hourly rate, and everyone has benefitted.

[Anonymous]

No, I didn’t leave my own kids to nanny other kids. I also believe strongly in the importance of the First Five so when my oldest was born, I started a nanny share. With my second, I still had my sweet charge with us and coordinated with my employers to have both older kids at the same half day preschool. The older kids are still like brothers!

A share is the best solution for everyone, OP.

[Anonymous]

Don't do that, it's terrible for you and for your child who will understand at some point that you're spending your day with other children. It's a terrible feeling ...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Don't do that, it's terrible for you and for your child who will understand at some point that you're spending your day with other children. It's a terrible feeling ...

Agreed.

I stayed home with my baby the first year and then started watching two siblings in my own home a couple days a week to supplement income. Look up the laws in your state, here it was not considered a home daycare since both children were from one family.

It didn’t pay as well as when I nannies but worked well for us.

I have a friend who is a high profile travel nanny and ended up hiring a college nanny for her two boys. I won’t lie. I judge her. She underpays her nanny (she’s NEVER accept the rate she pays her nanny) and is gone for weeks at a time to jet set to private islands with her wealthy clients and their kids.

I could never be comfortable having all these amazing experiences traveling with random rich children while I left my kid alone with someone else. I do think it’s different from the lives of non-nanny working mothers. So, not shaming women who work outside the house at all. If I had a lucrative job in business or finance or was a doctor I’d be much more willing to work away from my child. But as a nanny, no? Cannot imagine anyone being at peace with themselves spending so much time with another persons child as their child is with someone else.

[Anonymous]

Being a travel nanny has to be off the table, OP. Far too much time away from your own baby. Lots of non-nannies changed their careers due to travel obligations and now I doubt anyone is traveling anyway and won’t be in 2021.

I echo the others in starting a share - less money than you were making but no childcare cost for you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m having a hard time or being comfortable with the idea of nannying another persons child while sending my own off to daycare. Yes. I know finding a family who is willing to let you bring you bring your child is a possibility but they usually pay lower and are hard to come by.

I had a pretty lucrative career as a travel nanny till I had my son a year ago. My spouse is pushing me to go back to work but I’m really struggling the the idea of spending so much time with another persons child while my son is away from me.

I loved nannying and really enjoyed being a travel nanny but having my own put a lot into perspective. I’d love my own income again but I already have so much guilt with the thought.

I have been a nanny for 15 years and I got pregnant and had my daughter six years ago I also took cover her work with me for a year and a half because that’s how long I breast-fed and then after that I thought she was old enough to go to daycare so I found a small in-home daycare where she grew up with the same five kids for the next three years and after that she went right into school and now she’s in the first grade. However all of my families have been open to me bringing her if her school was close and I had to work or during summer break and things like that thankfully everyone that I have encountered has welcomed my daughter and the kids love her. I plan on getting pregnant again and my nanny family is super Duper supportive once I decide to start trying

[Anonymous]

I brought my daughter for 2 years and still made $25/hr. Now I have my own part time sitter and I run a nanny agency.

[Anonymous]

My sister is an elem. school teacher and works as a nanny during summers and holidays. She has always brought her own child with her. Parents are thrilled to have a real teacher as the nanny. And yes still gets paid well (25 last she told me; would be 28 if no kid.)