When should I say something?

[Anonymous]

Nanny here. Very newly pregnant. Haven’t even been to doctor yet. Wondering how soon I should tell my employers? Would love to hear from nannies and employers both.

I know you’re “not supposed” to tell anyone until the 12 week mark but here are my thoughts so far:

—hard to hide being completely exhausted or (hopefully not) super sick while everyone is working from home
—won’t have to “make excuses” for doc appts (I’m older, so might be more often than usual)
—Covid concerns and need to discuss expectations/what I’m comfortable or not comfortable with
—enough heads up to make plans for when baby comes
—plan for this cold and flu season (knock on wood...kids and parents always get sick and I rarely do anymore...but don’t feel as comfortable providing sick care this winter with everything else that’s going on)

Only downside I see would be if something happens to the pregnancy, but even then-I’d likely need (or want) some time off to handle that, and I’m sure they’d be more forgiving/understanding if they knew exactly what was going on.

Thoughts?

[Anonymous]

I’d wait until 3 months!

[Anonymous]

I still wouldn’t tell them until at least 12 weeks if not longer. You be super careful and just keep working. I know too many nannies who were fired early because they were pregnant and employers had a chance at getting a newly available nanny.

Congratulations!

[Anonymous]

3 months and let them know your plan.

[Anonymous]

Another vote for waiting until your second trimester. There is no critical reason to tell sooner.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Nanny here. Very newly pregnant. Haven’t even been to doctor yet. Wondering how soon I should tell my employers? Would love to hear from nannies and employers both.

I know you’re “not supposed” to tell anyone until the 12 week mark but here are my thoughts so far:

—hard to hide being completely exhausted or (hopefully not) super sick while everyone is working from home
—won’t have to “make excuses” for doc appts (I’m older, so might be more often than usual)
—Covid concerns and need to discuss expectations/what I’m comfortable or not comfortable with
—enough heads up to make plans for when baby comes
—plan for this cold and flu season (knock on wood...kids and parents always get sick and I rarely do anymore...but don’t feel as comfortable providing sick care this winter with everything else that’s going on)

Only downside I see would be if something happens to the pregnancy, but even then-I’d likely need (or want) some time off to handle that, and I’m sure they’d be more forgiving/understanding if they knew exactly what was going on.


I am newly pregnant and didn’t even start my new nanny job yet. But I told my nanny family and they were very supportive and said I still have a job and we will work everything out and even put maternity leave in my contract. Their baby is 4 months and the mom was like because she’s so young if I need to take it easy I can. If you have a good relationship with them then tell them and I hope for the best.... Her exact words to me was we would never fire you for wanting to start a family of your own. That’s how everyone should look at it.... and I can bring my baby with me which is what I did when I was pregnant with my first child who is now 6 and I breastfed for 16 months so it is definitely doable.
Thoughts?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Nanny here. Very newly pregnant. Haven’t even been to doctor yet. Wondering how soon I should tell my employers? Would love to hear from nannies and employers both.

I know you’re “not supposed” to tell anyone until the 12 week mark but here are my thoughts so far:

—hard to hide being completely exhausted or (hopefully not) super sick while everyone is working from home
—won’t have to “make excuses” for doc appts (I’m older, so might be more often than usual)
—Covid concerns and need to discuss expectations/what I’m comfortable or not comfortable with
—enough heads up to make plans for when baby comes
—plan for this cold and flu season (knock on wood...kids and parents always get sick and I rarely do anymore...but don’t feel as comfortable providing sick care this winter with everything else that’s going on)

Only downside I see would be if something happens to the pregnancy, but even then-I’d likely need (or want) some time off to handle that, and I’m sure they’d be more forgiving/understanding if they knew exactly what was going on.


I am newly pregnant and didn’t even start my new nanny job yet. But I told my nanny family and they were very supportive and said I still have a job and we will work everything out and even put maternity leave in my contract. Their baby is 4 months and the mom was like because she’s so young if I need to take it easy I can. If you have a good relationship with them then tell them and I hope for the best.... Her exact words to me was we would never fire you for wanting to start a family of your own. That’s how everyone should look at it.... and I can bring my baby with me which is what I did when I was pregnant with my first child who is now 6 and I breastfed for 16 months so it is definitely doable.
Thoughts?

You should charge less if you are bring your child and BF multiple times per day.

[Anonymous]

Once you tell, the clock starts ticking for your job. I’m serious. Wait as long as you can. How many times have we seen nannies who are with unicorn families get replaced earlier than expected due to pregnancy. WAIT. I don’t care how nice your family is, you need to wait until you’re ready to be without a job. If the family searches early and finds their dream nanny, they’re not going to risk losing her by keeping you an extra 3 months.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Nanny here. Very newly pregnant. Haven’t even been to doctor yet. Wondering how soon I should tell my employers? Would love to hear from nannies and employers both.

I know you’re “not supposed” to tell anyone until the 12 week mark but here are my thoughts so far:

—hard to hide being completely exhausted or (hopefully not) super sick while everyone is working from home
—won’t have to “make excuses” for doc appts (I’m older, so might be more often than usual)
—Covid concerns and need to discuss expectations/what I’m comfortable or not comfortable with
—enough heads up to make plans for when baby comes
—plan for this cold and flu season (knock on wood...kids and parents always get sick and I rarely do anymore...but don’t feel as comfortable providing sick care this winter with everything else that’s going on)

Only downside I see would be if something happens to the pregnancy, but even then-I’d likely need (or want) some time off to handle that, and I’m sure they’d be more forgiving/understanding if they knew exactly what was going on.


I am newly pregnant and didn’t even start my new nanny job yet. But I told my nanny family and they were very supportive and said I still have a job and we will work everything out and even put maternity leave in my contract. Their baby is 4 months and the mom was like because she’s so young if I need to take it easy I can. If you have a good relationship with them then tell them and I hope for the best.... Her exact words to me was we would never fire you for wanting to start a family of your own. That’s how everyone should look at it.... and I can bring my baby with me which is what I did when I was pregnant with my first child who is now 6 and I breastfed for 16 months so it is definitely doable.

Your family is the extreme minority. DO NOT FOLLOW THIS ADVICE.
Thoughts?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Nanny here. Very newly pregnant. Haven’t even been to doctor yet. Wondering how soon I should tell my employers? Would love to hear from nannies and employers both.

I know you’re “not supposed” to tell anyone until the 12 week mark but here are my thoughts so far:

—hard to hide being completely exhausted or (hopefully not) super sick while everyone is working from home
—won’t have to “make excuses” for doc appts (I’m older, so might be more often than usual)
—Covid concerns and need to discuss expectations/what I’m comfortable or not comfortable with
—enough heads up to make plans for when baby comes
—plan for this cold and flu season (knock on wood...kids and parents always get sick and I rarely do anymore...but don’t feel as comfortable providing sick care this winter with everything else that’s going on)

Only downside I see would be if something happens to the pregnancy, but even then-I’d likely need (or want) some time off to handle that, and I’m sure they’d be more forgiving/understanding if they knew exactly what was going on.
Thoughts?

I am newly pregnant and didn’t even start my new nanny job yet. But I told my nanny family and they were very supportive and said I still have a job and we will work everything out and even put maternity leave in my contract. Their baby is 4 months and the mom was like because she’s so young if I need to take it easy I can. If you have a good relationship with them then tell them and I hope for the best.... Her exact words to me was we would never fire you for wanting to start a family of your own. That’s how everyone should look at it.... and I can bring my baby with me which is what I did when I was pregnant with my first child who is now 6 and I breastfed for 16 months so it is definitely doable.

You’re more likely to need time to relax as you get to the end of your pregnancy... right when their child is likely to start walking and/or running.

[Anonymous]

I'm an MB too and I'd be fine with you bringing a baby to work (after having a mat leave of some sort), but I don't think everyone is like this. I didn't tell my employer until my fifth month with #1 and until my fourth with #2 (showed earlier so had to).

[Anonymous]

Do not tell unless you are ready to be let go immediately. Now is the perfect time to find another nanny and chances are good that you will be let go immediately.

[Anonymous]

Before 12 weeks you will have one, possibly two, appointments. The need for more appointments doesn't start until you are MUCH more pregnant (sorry to be morbid but until about 20 weeks there is nothing that anyone can do to help if something goes south for baby so any extra monitoring comes at the end when they can - and I say this as someone with three high risk pregnancies and two miscarriages).

So Dr appointments won't be the tip off. I have always felt fine during the day and sick at night. You might be the same or different. If you find you are so sick you can't work, then you tell, but not before.

If you are uncomfortable with the level of exposure to illness, have a meeting and talk about that. Yu don't have to explain why. You are allowed to say you want a position where this level of exposure is what you have..if they can't accommodate that, you need to find someone who will.

[Anonymous]

people wait 3 months if they had miscarriages previously. If you haven't had health concerns share your news as you wish

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Nanny here. Very newly pregnant. Haven’t even been to doctor yet. Wondering how soon I should tell my employers? Would love to hear from nannies and employers both.

I know you’re “not supposed” to tell anyone until the 12 week mark but here are my thoughts so far:

—hard to hide being completely exhausted or (hopefully not) super sick while everyone is working from home
—won’t have to “make excuses” for doc appts (I’m older, so might be more often than usual)
—Covid concerns and need to discuss expectations/what I’m comfortable or not comfortable with
—enough heads up to make plans for when baby comes
—plan for this cold and flu season (knock on wood...kids and parents always get sick and I rarely do anymore...but don’t feel as comfortable providing sick care this winter with everything else that’s going on)

Only downside I see would be if something happens to the pregnancy, but even then-I’d likely need (or want) some time off to handle that, and I’m sure they’d be more forgiving/understanding if they knew exactly what was going on.


I am newly pregnant and didn’t even start my new nanny job yet. But I told my nanny family and they were very supportive and said I still have a job and we will work everything out and even put maternity leave in my contract. Their baby is 4 months and the mom was like because she’s so young if I need to take it easy I can. If you have a good relationship with them then tell them and I hope for the best.... Her exact words to me was we would never fire you for wanting to start a family of your own. That’s how everyone should look at it.... and I can bring my baby with me which is what I did when I was pregnant with my first child who is now 6 and I breastfed for 16 months so it is definitely doable.
Thoughts?

You should charge less if you are bring your child and BF multiple times per day.

The women who take pump breaks in my office don't charge less.