Need advice from both nannies and parents. Please help!

[Anonymous]

ed some advice here. Our nanny has been with us for 6 months now. She is great with our little girl. But there has been times when she would comment on her pay and how we are not paying her enough. When I interviewed her, it was a fixed salary plus holiday pays and time off which equates out to $16 an hour roughly. The first time she brought it up, she said she did the calculation and we are not paying her 16 at which point I realized she was right and tagged on another 200 per month. When covid hit and my husband couldn’t work, she said she would need to look for another job if she can’t work and that she will give us her two weeks to which we told her she can come in two days (instead of 4). She is now back with us for 4 days a week. Recently, I came home from work and she kind of made a comment that we are not paying her 16. When I calculated it, she is not adding in the holidays and in reality it’s a salary not hourly. If holidays were calculated in there, we are actually paying more than 16. She made remarks once again that she might have to look for another family if we can’t increase her pay. The following day, my husband said she asked for 20 an hour and to let her know if we can afford her. We decided we couldn’t and at the end of the week, told her we will keep her for two weeks so she can find another family. She was surprised and told us she’d stay at the current pay. The issue is we were stressed out and started to look for other nannies and scheduled multiple interviews. Thinking through it, we didn’t mind increasing her pay just not that steep and it’s not the pay that bothered me, it’s the way she handled it... should we keep her or get a new nanny? She is great with our girl. This is the ONLY issue we have with her.

[Anonymous]

I’d like to add that I don’t live in dc but Wyoming. And the rate she had on her profile was 10-20 an hour.

[Anonymous]

You are a nut. I am a MB and would be MORTIFIED, totally ashamed of myself if I didn't pay my employee the right amount.

You keep changing things on the nanny. Two days a week. Four days a week.

You are chaos. It's best for your nanny that she leave.

[Anonymous]

Actually it 20 per month that I missed not 200*

[Anonymous]

I am a bit confused as to how you are factoring on the holidays.
How much are you paying her weekly, how many hours does she work, and how much paid vacation does she get?
If this is your only issue and you can afford to pay her I would keep her personally.

[Anonymous]

How she is with your child is all that matters, OP. Let it go but stop any discussion of salary in the bud in the future.

[Anonymous]

People need to be more serious about their jobs, and communicate better. This is her job, she agreed to it. If she has changed her mind, has talked to other people that put ideas in her head ( happens all the time) then she needs to sit down with both you and your husband ( not keep talking to you separately with different requests) and have a clear, clean , honest conversation about her concerns, what she feels is fair, and then you can also express your point of view. If no agreement, fine, happens all the time in all employer- employee relantionship, and you move on.
The whole thing about “ kind of making a comment”, or telling your husband one thing then acting surprise is very imature and manipulative.
Follow your gut on this. If she behaves this way here, she will behave similarily with other matters too...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am a bit confused as to how you are factoring on the holidays.
How much are you paying her weekly, how many hours does she work, and how much paid vacation does she get?
If this is your only issue and you can afford to pay her I would keep her personally.

she gets paid 2045/month. she works 32 hours a week. 7 holidays off and 2 weeks vacation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am a bit confused as to how you are factoring on the holidays.
How much are you paying her weekly, how many hours does she work, and how much paid vacation does she get?
If this is your only issue and you can afford to pay her I would keep her personally.

she gets paid 2045/month. she works 32 hours a week. 7 holidays off and 2 weeks vacation.

You are paying her $14.75 per hour.

$2045 x 12 months = $24, 540 annually
24,540 / 52 weeks = $471.92/week
471.92 / 32 hours per week = $14.75/hour

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am a bit confused as to how you are factoring on the holidays.
How much are you paying her weekly, how many hours does she work, and how much paid vacation does she get?
If this is your only issue and you can afford to pay her I would keep her personally.

she gets paid 2045/month. she works 32 hours a week. 7 holidays off and 2 weeks vacation.

You are paying her $14.75 per hour.

$2045 x 12 months = $24, 540 annually
24,540 / 52 weeks = $471.92/week
471.92 / 32 hours per week = $14.75/hour

no, it's $16 x 8 hours x 4 days * 4 weeks. she gets paid every 4 weeks. and that's not calculating in the time off and holidays which when we agreed upon i told her it's $2045 with holidays and time off.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How she is with your child is all that matters, OP. Let it go but stop any discussion of salary in the bud in the future.

+1. It should all be about your child and what best benefits her/him.

But definitely be firm with nanny that this is a closed book until her annual raise.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am a bit confused as to how you are factoring on the holidays.
How much are you paying her weekly, how many hours does she work, and how much paid vacation does she get?
If this is your only issue and you can afford to pay her I would keep her personally.

she gets paid 2045/month. she works 32 hours a week. 7 holidays off and 2 weeks vacation.

You are paying her $14.75 per hour.

$2045 x 12 months = $24, 540 annually
24,540 / 52 weeks = $471.92/week
471.92 / 32 hours per week = $14.75/hour

no, it's $16 x 8 hours x 4 days * 4 weeks. she gets paid every 4 weeks. and that's not calculating in the time off and holidays which when we agreed upon i told her it's $2045 with holidays and time off.

Why do you keep adding "with time off"? That doesn't change her compensation, it keeps it consistent. You shouldn't talk about her salary as if it's a fixed monthly amount. It's not, it's a fixed weekly amount based on numbers of hours worked/holiday/PTO used.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am a bit confused as to how you are factoring on the holidays.
How much are you paying her weekly, how many hours does she work, and how much paid vacation does she get?
If this is your only issue and you can afford to pay her I would keep her personally.

she gets paid 2045/month. she works 32 hours a week. 7 holidays off and 2 weeks vacation.

You are paying her $14.75 per hour.

$2045 x 12 months = $24, 540 annually
24,540 / 52 weeks = $471.92/week
471.92 / 32 hours per week = $14.75/hour

no, it's $16 x 8 hours x 4 days * 4 weeks. she gets paid every 4 weeks. and that's not calculating in the time off and holidays which when we agreed upon i told her it's $2045 with holidays and time off.

Why do you keep adding "with time off"? That doesn't change her compensation, it keeps it consistent. You shouldn't talk about her salary as if it's a fixed monthly amount. It's not, it's a fixed weekly amount based on numbers of hours worked/holiday/PTO used.

Are you paying her one time a month (12 times a year) or are you actually paying her every 4 weeks (13 times per year)?

[Anonymous]

Legally nannies are hourly employees. You can't have a monthly or yearly rate. Even if the two of you agree to it. She is an hourly employee. So if she works 32 hours a week, 32*16 = 516 per week. She is paid per week. 516*52= 26624. Divide by 12 is 2218 and change.

You are under paying her. But more importantly you are illegally compensating her. Sit and have a conversation. Hourly rate. Time off. Holidays. Sick time. This is what you offer. Does she accept.

[Anonymous]

I do not understand the concept of the holidays not being factored in - that should have no bearing on her salary. Your agreement should simply include the stated holidays. Why oh why is that a factor in the amount you pay your caregiver?

And from your own words, it appears yuou were not clear on terms of employment. In any case, have a conversation about things and be specfice, follow up in writing (a simple email) and get her agreement on moving forward with the stated terms.

Ensure she is happy if she is taking good care of your child.