I want to give nanny a raise

[Anonymous]

We found a nanny share earlier in the year. The other family had a nanny and we joined them. I believe the nanny is underpaid per hour for the amount of experience she has. But the other family doesn't make as much money as we do b/c of Covid. Should I

1. Ignore it
2. give the nanny a bonus each month
3. talk to the other family (I really don't want to embarrass them)

TIA

[Anonymous]

Give her the monthly bonus and tell her it is just between the two of you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Give her the monthly bonus and tell her it is just between the two of you.

I agree with this.

[Anonymous]

Just do a bonus at the holidays, an anniversary, birthday, etc. Or, maybe a gift card (even visa or master card) so its not income but an appreciation gift. Don't lie to the other family.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just do a bonus at the holidays, an anniversary, birthday, etc. Or, maybe a gift card (even visa or master card) so its not income but an appreciation gift. Don't lie to the other family.

Killjoy.

[Anonymous]

Agree with pp that recommended a bonus at the holidays from your family. Anything else would cause a pptential problem with the other family.

[Anonymous]

I say, give her the bonus, especially if you feel she is undercharging. I’m sure she will appreciate it. No need to mention it to the other family.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just do a bonus at the holidays, an anniversary, birthday, etc. Or, maybe a gift card (even visa or master card) so its not income but an appreciation gift. Don't lie to the other family.

No! Just give her cash bonuses. It’s not the other family’s business.

[Anonymous]

Nanny here. IMO the most productive thing would be to give a cash bonus a few times a year. Let the other family know you are doing something but not an amount. Maybe Christmas, “Nannyversary,” and her birthday if those are fairly well-spaced out? You can also slip her an occasional thank you card with $100 or less as appreciation for something special (like the kid is finally potty-trained, the kid just got over a tough developmental patch, etc.)

[Anonymous]

I’m a nanny in a 3-family share and each one pays me separately, as it should be. One of the families gave me a raise after 6 months and never told any of the other families. What you pay her is between you and her and should have nothing to do with the other family.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We found a nanny share earlier in the year. The other family had a nanny and we joined them. I believe the nanny is underpaid per hour for the amount of experience she has. But the other family doesn't make as much money as we do b/c of Covid. Should I

1. Ignore it
2. give the nanny a bonus each month
3. talk to the other family (I really don't want to embarrass them)

TIA

I am a Nanny. It is really nice that there are still Families like you. Who really value what is a Nanny Job. The person who will be taking care and loving your kids so much.
This Nanny must be very lucky to Have you.

[Anonymous]

Honestly, if you have a contract with the other family (not just with the nanny), you need to have a conversation with them. Just because you think they don't make as much money, doesn't mean they don't value the nanny and want to offer what they can. Bonuses are a great way to show appreciation, but the nanny can't rely on them for income if she doesn't know when they are coming.

Be adults about it and have a conversation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We found a nanny share earlier in the year. The other family had a nanny and we joined them. I believe the nanny is underpaid per hour for the amount of experience she has. But the other family doesn't make as much money as we do b/c of Covid. Should I

1. Ignore it
2. give the nanny a bonus each month
3. talk to the other family (I really don't want to embarrass them)

TIA

I am a Nanny. It is really nice that there are still Families like you. Who really value what is a Nanny Job. The person who will be taking care and loving your kids so much.
This Nanny must be very lucky to Have you.

I say 2.

And I agree.
You sound like an awesome employer!