How much notice to give?

[Anonymous]

Per contract, I will give two weeks minimum.

I’ve given all my previous families 4-8 weeks.

I don’t particularly trust this NF so want to give them two weeks because I’m afraid they may let me go immediate and I need to work till the end of June.

Can I give them 4 weeks but write in not notice they owe me the entire 4 weeks if they chose to let me go earlier?

Not sure they can find someone in 2 weeks. They’re highly anxious people. It was a full 2 heads before they trusted me, yet they absolutely can’t parent themselves and their backup care is gone due to corona so it’s all on me.

Feeling conflicted.

[Anonymous]

If your contract says 2 weeks and you think they may terminate rather than working out whatever notice period you give, wait until 2 weeks. The only way you could enforce 4 weeks would be if the contract read that you’d be paid out for whatever notice period you gave if they chose to terminate earlier.

[Anonymous]

No, you can’t write in the notice, “I am giving you four weeks notice, so you have to pay me for four weeks.”

Just give them two weeks notice.

[Anonymous]

Two weeks and no more.

[Anonymous]

Do you realistically expect a great reference letter from them? If not, be careful. They’ll probably have a fit, and fire you immediately just for spite.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do you realistically expect a great reference letter from them? If not, be careful. They’ll probably have a fit, and fire you immediately just for spite.

I’ve been at this job for 5 years and I’m a great employee. They’ve been desperate to keep me and when I suggested moving on in the past it wasn’t pretty and they did what they could to keep me.

The parents have really challenging personalities and I find them unpleasant to be around so the position hasn’t been idea despite my absolute adoration for the children. I’m moving on now because my SO has a great job opportunity across the country. I don’t plan on working as a nanny anymore, and will be able to finish my degree and start in a different field so wouldn’t say I need the references but would appreciate a good relationship with the family.

I wouldn’t be shocked if they let me go as soon as I gave them notice. Although I don’t know what they’ll do for childcare . I think it will take them awhile to find a replacement and that’s my hang up.

[Anonymous]

OP, it is very obvious to me that you have a heart of gold despite not having great bosses.

Kudos to you!

If you really need to work until next month, then do the minimum via your contract & give them two weeks notice.
Yes, it may be challenging for them to hire another Nanny, but as long as you abide by your work contract then you should have no worries after that.

Good luck in your future endeavors.

[Anonymous]

MB here. Give them two weeks. They can always ask you to stay an additional two and then it's your choice.

[Anonymous]

Please make it as easy on the kids as possible. This is going to be hard for them (and you). To do that you have to part with the parents on good terms. Moving to another state is something no one can really argue with, OP. Be kind, firm and open. The parents don’t deserve sh*t but the children definitely deserve a gradual and peaceful goodbye.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:MB here. Give them two weeks. They can always ask you to stay an additional two and then it's your choice.

This! Tell them 2 weeks prior to when you COULD terminate, but phrase it’s that you’ll stay up to x weeks longer after that June date while they look for a replacement.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:MB here. Give them two weeks. They can always ask you to stay an additional two and then it's your choice.

This! Tell them 2 weeks prior to when you COULD terminate, but phrase it’s that you’ll stay up to x weeks longer after that June date while they look for a replacement.

You seem to have no clue how many parents go ballistic when the nanny resigns. How would you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:MB here. Give them two weeks. They can always ask you to stay an additional two and then it's your choice.

This! Tell them 2 weeks prior to when you COULD terminate, but phrase it’s that you’ll stay up to x weeks longer after that June date while they look for a replacement.

You seem to have no clue how many parents go ballistic when the nanny resigns. How would you?

I’m a nanny. Since you be never given notice, I don’t have any personal experience with parents losing their minds in that way. (My positions have always ended naturally or due to employer change in circumstance.). If she thinks they’ll fire her on the spot, she shouldn’t give notice more than 2 weeks before the earliest date she can afford to be off, that way they can simply pay out the contracted two weeks. But if she offers to stay for a few extra weeks while they find someone else, she protects her financial health, and she may possibly be able to get a few extra weeks. Since she’s not interested in the reference, it becomes more about her financial health and the children’s attachment.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:MB here. Give them two weeks. They can always ask you to stay an additional two and then it's your choice.

This! Tell them 2 weeks prior to when you COULD terminate, but phrase it’s that you’ll stay up to x weeks longer after that June date while they look for a replacement.

The issue is I can’t stay past the end of June as we are moving the end of June. If they let me go mid-June, I’ll survive I just have a savings goal that includes those last two weeks of June.

So I truly can’t stay past those two weeks if I give my notice on that date. If they need more weeks, I give them a notice earlier.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:MB here. Give them two weeks. They can always ask you to stay an additional two and then it's your choice.

Another MB here - agree with this.

[Anonymous]

give them 4 weeks. if they terminate you file for unemployment.