Talking rude with child ( discipline issue)
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Anonymous
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Could we talk little rude with children to discipline them ( if they misbehave and don’t listen to you )
Thanks |
Anonymous
| No. You can never be rude. Use guidance, honesty and discipline. Say things like, “That really hurt my feelings and I will not allow you to talk to me like that”. And then turn your back on the child and let it sink in. |
Anonymous
| How is this even a question? |
Anonymous
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What does “rude talking” even mean lol
I think you should look for a new profession You’re clearly not made to be a child care provider |
Anonymous
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Op here
No I never talked rude may be I use wrong word The second poster says turn your back to the child ( if you don’t mind may I asking you don’t think it’s rude action? ) Thanks |
Anonymous
| How old is the child and what exactly did they do? |
Anonymous
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Six years old and don’t listen ,
Shout and misbehave I usually take care of infants ( new born to Pre school ) This age is new for me . I talked with the child very politely with love But not ready to listen For instance if it’s time for breakfast not ready to do breakfast or not ready to do any project from school Thanks |
Anonymous
“Breakfast is ready. At x o’clock, breakfast will be over. Please come eat before that time, whenever you are ready.” Pick up breakfast on time, have snack at the normal time. The child will get around. “It’s time to do some schoolwork. Do you want to draw up a schedule with me for the whole day or choose one piece at a time? Which subject do you want to do first? Ok, when that’s done, do you want to do [a physical activity] or [creative option]?” In the current environment, they need choices, and they need to feel heard. It sounds to me like you’re telling them what to do and when. Loosen up on compliance a little, and start asking questions. Initially, I thought that you were discussing discipline for a misbehaving child (throwing things, yelling, being disrespectful) without reason other than stress. But if you can change your behavior, that should help change the child’s behavior. Is this a new charge? Or a former charge? |
Anonymous
| Why don’t you ask your employer how they want you to discipline the child. How is this even a thread? |
Anonymous
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Mom give her time out but didn’t allow me to do so
It’s new job ( unfortunately I lost my job and start working with this new family) I fell here ( Forum ) most nannies are more experienced so why not I discuss with them This is not first time I am asking here they always been helpful. Mom going through a lot ( Dad is under cancer treatment I don’t want to give her more stress ) |
Anonymous
| Do you mean stern? |
Anonymous
| When my children were young and were rude or sassed, they were got a good seat on their bottom, and send to their rooms until they could behave. |
Anonymous
Swat not seat on their bottom°^ |
Anonymous
And if the nanny does it, it’s child abuse. While many states still allow parents to spank their children, caregivers can’t. |
Anonymous
Then you need to ask your employer specifically how she wants it handled. “Hi, can we talk for a minute? I noticed that you used time out with d when she did abc. When I wanted to use time out for x when she did abc again later, you said no. I need clarification on what the rules are for x, and what the consequences are if she breaks the rules.” Get it in writing, if you can. |