Rehire old nanny
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Anonymous
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Hello everyone,
I have worked for a family for over 3+ years and they fired me two months ago. We agreed before the termination of our contract to talk about issues and both agreed to give notice one or two months before. I had some family issues, divorce, lost of relatives and my mother recently. But, they were very demanding, housework chores, staying late without notice and changing my work hours without consulting me. When they fired me I was chocked because they always told me that, the wanted me to stay with their family at least 8 years. After they fired me I told them I know that I wasn’t receptive with their demands but I went to lot of issues. Therefore, to give me another chance to work with them because I didn’t like to change families all the times. They said that they love me but they already took their decision. I discovered that they had interviewed someone around thanksgiving without even telling me. Something I would never do to them. Seriously, when working with them I went above and beyond for them because they were nice to me. From cleaning, laundry, cooking for the family, grocery shopping, changing linens, organized their closets along with the children. Their house was a mess all the times and they wanted me to clean it. They have a new nanny who told one of my nanny friend that I had too many issues and took lot of offs and that I was insubordinate. Also, she got paid for everything even their laundry. Not walking the dog, not doing their laundry or cook. If she has to do it she asked for $30 for each load and doesn’t cook or do groceries for her parents. She told them they would pay her for any extra. After working with their new nanny for a month they come back to me. They wanted to hire me again and said they just wanted to teach me that everything wasn’t granted that I should do what they expect. I don’t know what to do. I already started a new position with less money but less work. I really love my ex family and I adore their children. I really missed the children. But, I was disappointed that they didn’t respect our contract not telling all those things to their new nanny. Please give me some advices how to deal with it. Sorry for the grammar error. English is not my first language. I’m learning and thank you for your time. Best Nanny |
Anonymous
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Move on.
You deserve respect. |
Anonymous
This times 100. Move on. They are not good people. |
Anonymous
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Your English is FANTASTIC for someone who is learning it.
My advice: do NOT go back. What I think happened: you were being treated unfairly and blatantly exploited, you stayed because you love the kids and your personal life was a mess so you wanted to keep your work life stable, they fired you because your personal life interfered with your job, they hired someone new who doesn't put up with all the same shit you will, and now they want you back because the new nanny will charge them a hell of a lot more and do a hell of a lot less. You'd be a total sucker to go back. Stick with your new family. |
Anonymous
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“...said they just wanted to teach me that everything wasn’t granted that I should do what they expect.”
Nope, don’t go back! |
Anonymous
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When someone shows you who they are - believe them.
Don’t go back, OP. Ask to babysit or visit the children (it’s not their fault) but keep your word to your new employer. |
Anonymous
| Agree with the above. Politely tell your old employers that you’ve accepted a new position and don’t feel comfortable breaking your word to them. But ask to visit or babysit the kids from time to time. I always feel so bad for the children in these situations. |
Anonymous
Nailed it. They clearly realized with you they were able to treat you horribly and take advantage of you. In reality most professional nannies aren’t going to put up with their bullsh*t. Become more professional, know your worth and don’t just take a job just because it’s there. Move forward and don’t look back. Let them learn the lesson they wanted to teach an adult. |
Anonymous
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Op here,
Thank everyone for the advices. I really love and missed those children. I offer them to babysit and even a letter of reference I never heard about them. I knew what I really wanted not to go with them anymore. But, just wanted to hear outside advices. Thank you very much and I would stick to my new position. I have asked them for the letter after I went to give children their Christmas gifts but nothing until they came back to me for the job agai. Best, |
Anonymous
| Op again sorry! How could grown up employers can repeat what I told them about having back the job. Also, they told the new nanny that I was begging them to have my job back. I’m really very disappointed. Thank you for the people who said I’m doing well with my English. I really appreciated all of your responses. |
Anonymous
| OP I know you are sad about leaving the children. That is a hard part of this job. But they want to hire you back because now they realize they made a big mistake. Not because they wanted to teach you a lesson (which is not their job). I guarantee the new person isn't working out. The parents have shown you who they are. Do not go back. Congratulations on your new position and I know you will come to love these new children as well. Maybe not the same way as your previous charges but as time goes by you will realize you are in a better situation then you were before. Good luck to you. |
Anonymous
| PS English is a difficult language to learn. If you can speak as well as you can write you sound pretty fluent in English to me. |
Anonymous
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The family wasn’t satisfied in the great Nanny they had (you!) & assumed the grass was greener.
They did all this w/out any concern about you. This was callous, inconsiderate + overall disloyal in my book. 
So they let you go, under the premise that they would get their unicorn Nanny overnight. Well karma kicked in (as it usually does) and now they realized that you truly were a gem and that finding someone like you was not so simple! Oh well. Not your problem!! Do not return to this position!! They will try to screw you over again - trust me! Look at them now, they won’t even write you a reference letter unless you return!! Such shady characters! I wouldn’t want to work for the enemy. Stay where you are right now and do not look back. Good luck! |
Anonymous
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OP here,
Thank you all for the advices. |
Anonymous
| They haven't changed and you will be used and abused again. Go and do not look back not even to babysit! |