hi there! My husband and I are preparing to welcome our first au pair at the end of the month and are thinking about what to put in our family handbook. We would love to review some other veteran host families books. Would anyone be willing to share? Thank you! whitney.r.irish@gmail |
Good luck! You will likely get a major amount of pushback if you start implementing rules now AFTER matching. Is there any way to backtrack, get the handbook out and make sure incoming AP agrees to it, match with someone else if not? |
Check out aupairmom website. Lots of handbook info there. |
We did not have a handbook with our first AP. This still did not stop us from communicating certain house rules to her. That year helped us understand what is important to us and we have had a handbook ever since. Each year, we make minor changes because (a) the kids get older and (b) we discover things that we wish we would have included. Good luck, OP. If you are still looking for a handbook after reviewing what's on aupairmom, let me know and I will share mine with you. |
+1, I created the handbook after I had matched with my first AP. I gave it to her the day she arrived. She read it and never broke any rule. Tbh, most APs don't even read them until they get to your house. I gave my current AP the handbook during matching and I am sure she didn't read it or she didn't understand 80% of its content. Most of the time they will ask you questions that are important to them during matching. And yes Aupairmom has a handbook and APC also have a handbook template I can sent to you if you like. |
Hi everyone- OP here. Thanks for your feedback. I have looked at Aupairmom but was hoping to see some additional local examples. We did include extensive/important information about the most asked rules (cars,guests,schedule,chores) in our CCAP application profile but I’m sure there are a lot of other items we should include. If anyone is willing to share we would love to see what’s worked for you. Whitney.r.irish@gmail
Thank you! |
I’d ask someone you know in real life. This is an anonymous forum so unlikely to email you.
Make sure you have contact numbers, safety info (911, poison control, drs info, where are fire extinguishers located,etc.), drivers license requirements, car usage rules and insurance info, phone usage rules, internet usage rules, guest policy (in town and out of town), sick policy, vacation policy, kids school info, work schedule, pay schedule, smoking/drinking rules, kids rules - allowed snacks, screen time, etc., kid related chores, room/bathroom rules (must be kept clean, no food storage, etc. ). Rules about when she needs to notify you of things (like taking kids out, kids get injured etc). You should include details about what she should be doing during work hours. For example, morning routine and afternoon routines, or suggested schedule. Known activities, etc. |
We did not put together a handbook and I wish we did. We definitely went the path of being a little too laid back and a bit regretful on that. Thinking of putting one together as we approach the 5 month mark. I highly recommend doing so! |
Did you find a handbook? If not, if you will send me an address I will send you mine. I am on my 8th au pair (considering a 9th). |
NVM -see it above. Will send it today. Good luck! |