If you are NOT an AP or an HM...

[Anonymous]

Why do you regularly post here? I am genuinely curious. It is different if you used to be an HM or an AP, but from the content of many posts it is pretty clear that the poster has never been an AP or an HM. I understand this forum is open to everyone and it will be ok if you posted once in while, but hijacking many threads with your opinion about things you have no experience with, what is the point? Trolling?

[Anonymous]

I think it's really easy to be judgmental when you're not a HP. You think, these young women aren't earning much money, why not give them what they ask for? You have no idea how much money it really costs, how many demands there really are, how much emotional energy it takes, how if you give an inch they take a mile. We've had the full range of APs, awful to fantastic. But I am SO much stricter now than I was the first year because I've learned all the ways one can be taken advantage of.

[Anonymous]

There is also the nanny trolls who think their life will better if the AP program was to die (they couldn't be more wrong).

[Anonymous]

I don't post on the AP threads (I am an MB with a nanny), but if you click on Recent Topics, everything comes up at once!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There is also the nanny trolls who think their life will better if the AP program was to die (they couldn't be more wrong).

those could easily be daycare trolls, or spurned host parent trolls. or bratty au pair trolls. you have zero proof it's an actual nanny.

[Anonymous]

I have been an Au Pair a few times and I am now a professional nanny. I like to come and help if I can.
I wouldn't post if I didn't feel I can be useful.

[Anonymous]

Within some of the threads, valuable feedback can be shared even when neither applies to you - for example, the gift thread. I’ve never gifted something to an au pair, but I’m a human and I’ve given gifts. I can come up with a few suggestions if given a price range.

[Anonymous]

I’m a nanny and was an aupair for years. It’s a free o country and I can post my opinion when I see families taking advantage of their aupairs.

[Anonymous]

I am an Au Pair and personally while sometimes people other than APs/ HF post, I would say that 90% of the posts are from actual AP/HFs yet everytime an AP or some host parent tell other Hfs that what they do is abusive or not okay, out come the hfs calling out ''trolls'' refusing to admit that maybe what they do isn't okay or that there some pretty piss-poor host families around.

I have been called a troll (despite posting here a lot) yet I am very much an AP, though when it's me telling my stories of how the program have sometimes failed me, out come the angry host moms telling me I am lying because this would never fly! (yada, yada)

It's honestly ridiculous.

This forum is a bit of a wanna be echo chamber, where host moms come to bitch about their APs (and I am not saying they shouldn't or that all APs are perfect because some are definitely horrific) and only want to hear other host moms confirming that their AP is the worst and that APs are only ''glorified babysitters'' etc... Try and tell them maybe they are in the wrong and woosh, a bunch of angry host mom troll hunting. It's a bit tiring tbh.

I think it comes with this forum being so anonymous. I wish it wasn't.

[Anonymous]

I’m a live-in nanny. I’ve been hired by two families who had several rematches within a year and left the AP program; I don’t speak about every family that rematches, but I’m aware of a few reasons that are doozies! Because I live with my nf, I can often recommend ways to navigate the smaller issues that create strain between AP and HP. And I don’t think the AP program ending would be a good thing for nannies. I would mean a glut of families seeking daycare and not being able to find a placement, some families wanting to have a live-in nanny for absurd hours and rates (I get enough contacts wanting 80 hours for $75/week, I don’t want more, thanks.), and other families getting belligerent when part-time care costs soared and longevity plummeted due to competition. I also have researched the program and recommended it to several families who thought they wanted a live-in nanny, but could only afford (and really only needed) an AP.