Heartbroken and SO angry

[Anonymous]

I’ve been with my current family for about three years. It’s a very professional relationship, different from my past jobs where we were close but the pay is better and I think it’s healthier that our relationship is strictly professional and not too friendly.

However, I didn’t expect them to do what they just did to me. I thought they at least had a heart.

My husband was diagnosed with cancer in October and has had to quit work. I told them last week just to let them know.

I just received an e-mail saying that we’re terminating me. The e-mail basically said that I probably wasn’t going to be able to devour enough of myself to the job with a sick husband.

I’m so angry. I regret letting them know. Now we are both unemployed and in a terrible financial situation. I can not believe they’d do this to me. The way they worded it seemed like it was a favor. Like, here now you can focus on caring for your husband.

We are not wealthy people who can just not work. It’s not an option I don’t work. So now I’m in the situation where I have a sick husband and have to find a new position. Heartbroken and so angry.

I can’t do anything legally but wanted to warn every nanny who may not know. Never give any personal information. Ever. Keep your personal business to yourself ladies.

[Anonymous]

Oh, God, OP - I am so sorry. Your former employers are horrible, cruel people. Karma will get them.

Say nothing and try to get a good reference from them. Get up and start looking for another job tonight.

But you are right to keep your personal life to yourself.

Again, I am so sorry.

[Anonymous]

Omg... I am so sorry to hear that. That's really comes from a family without a heart. It's so sad to know that people like that, treat you like this knowing that you have been caring so much for their treasures. Just let's hope they never have to go through same thing you are going through. I really wish you the best for you and your husband. You will see you guys will get over this together !

[Anonymous]

Karma will hit them hard.

[Anonymous]

OP you should be able to get unemployment as they let you go through no fault of your own. Its not as much as a paycheck but better than nothing.

[Anonymous]

File for unemployment. Today.

[Anonymous]

I would request a letter of reference and let them know that you fully intend to be working full time, and need to in order to support your family.

I would not use the letter as I fear they would tell prospective employers why they let you go.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Karma will hit them hard.

+1

And I am so sorry, OP.

[Anonymous]

OP, I am truly sorry that this happened to you. ;(

What lousy timing too!!
Your family sounds like a real class act. Not.

Yes - I do believe that karma will come into their lives & take something away from them.

Something tells me that they might have actually considered giving you your walking papers earlier (unhappy w/your job performance, wanting to put their child into daycare, etc.) & used your husband’s cancer to let you go.

And on a holiday too!!!!!!!!

This really is just MEAN.
I am hopeful that you will fine another Nanny family stat.
Because honestly OP —>> This family does not deserve you one bit.

Good luck.

[Anonymous]

So sorry, OP. That truly sucks. And at the start of the holidays...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Karma will hit them hard.

+1.

[Anonymous]

OP, are you interested in some part time work while you search for something full time? We need help a few afternoons for two weeks starting mid-December when our nanny needs time off. And occasional evening and weekend help until mid-January. This is to care for our 15 month old. Let me know if you’re interested in chatting more.

[Anonymous]

You will be eligible for unemployment. File for unemployment.
Also make sure to get references from them.

I am so sorry. They sound like brutal heartless people.

[Anonymous]

Oh, OP, I am so sorry. That certainly beats my “Found out on Christmas Day from the teachers at my charge’s school that I was getting fired” story!

I am truly sorry, OP. Karma will not be kind to those dreadful parents. I wish you and your husband the very best. Please keep us posted when you get a new and wonderful job.

[Anonymous]

I just posted looking for a new nanny for our baby. Email me at [e-mail] if you are still looking for a place. I have a serious illness myself and I understand what spouses have to do to survive and support. Doesn’t mean I’m not great at my job (or that my husband isn’t!)