Nanny saying 6 month old getting spoiled?

[Anonymous]

My 6 month old is the youngest in his nannyshare, the others around around 15 months. We follow LO's leaps using the Wonder Weeks app, which has a pretty good indicator of when their fussy times during a leap will be. LO has been slightly fussy a few times in the past week and had a fussy morning this morning - mostly just wanted to be held and fussed when being set down. In our app today was predicted as being his fussiest day in the leap.

Our nanny sends texts throughout the day and let me know that he was being fussy (usually she sends messages that he's having a great day). She added something about how babies begin to be spoiled around this age... it just struck me as kind of odd. Can a six month old be spoiled by receiving attention? I didn't really think this was possible. Maybe she's using an incorrect term, but I can't help but cuddle on LO when I have him. Is now when I should start teaching him to spend more time on his own? It feels so early.

[Anonymous]

You need a new nanny. NO, you cannot spoil a 6 month old by showering them with love and attention.

[Anonymous]

What do you mean by "leaps"?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What do you mean by "leaps"?

Developmental leaps - determined by their birth date and related to reaching their milestones.

https://www.thewonderweeks.com/the-mental-leaps-and-wonder-weeks/

[Anonymous]

How many kids are in this share? I'm thinking more than 2 and your nanny isn't able to sit and coddle your baby all day. Either pay for your own nanny to get individual attention or stay home your self and do it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You need a new nanny. NO, you cannot spoil a 6 month old by showering them with love and attention.

This, all sounds like non-sense from both you and the nanny.

[Anonymous]

No, a baby cannot be spoiled. However in a nanny share or daycare, your baby cannot receive the individual attention he wants. Not holding him won’t help but it sounds like it’s the best this nanny can do with another child to care for.

[Anonymous]

I find the whole “leap” concept a little odd -
But admittedly have never heard of it either.

I strongly doubt a six month old infant can be spoiled.
They NEED holding when they are fussy.
My guess is the poor baby is teething....??

I could never care for a six-month old along w/another child period.
Babies demand 120% attention at this stage & it would be too stressful to put him/her on the back burner for another child.

For instance, when they are hungry...they need to EAT.
Almost immediately.
Ditto if they have a soiled diaper.
And teething pain is a nightmare.

I suspect your Nanny is simply stressed + overwhelmed caring for multiple children.
Did she have Nanny Share experience prior?
I think you should find another Nanny.

One who can focus completely on your child.
Good luck!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You need a new nanny. NO, you cannot spoil a 6 month old by showering them with love and attention.

Holding a baby all the time or every time it cries can definitely spoil a baby. Referring to it as a LO can scar it for Life!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What do you mean by "leaps"?

Developmental leaps - determined by their birth date and related to reaching their milestones.

https://www.thewonderweeks.com/the-mental-leaps-and-wonder-weeks/

Snake oil from an internet app.

[Anonymous]

I think your nanny is ridiculous and I would be worried.

I also think judging things by "leaps" on a day to day basis will make you unnecessarily anxious and insecure in your parenting.

You cannot spoil a 6 month old baby. They cry when they need something, and it is ok if what they need is nothing more than fundamental attention.

Trust your instincts and tell the nanny (appropriately of course) that you expect her to respond to your child's cries, even if she thinks it's coddling.

That's her job. That's why you have a nanny - to take fantastic, focused care of your baby in the manner you want. If she's unable or unwilling you need another nanny (or nanny share).

-MB

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think your nanny is ridiculous and I would be worried.

I also think judging things by "leaps" on a day to day basis will make you unnecessarily anxious and insecure in your parenting.

You cannot spoil a 6 month old baby. They cry when they need something, and it is ok if what they need is nothing more than fundamental attention.

Trust your instincts and tell the nanny (appropriately of course) that you expect her to respond to your child's cries, even if she thinks it's coddling.

That's her job. That's why you have a nanny - to take fantastic, focused care of your baby in the manner you want. If she's unable or unwilling you need another nanny (or nanny share).

-MB

I agree with this and will add that your nanny May have too many children for her abilities. 3+ children is a lot for someone not seasoned in properly caring for that many. Nurturing and interaction are so important to your child’s development. There are studies out there that reference a connection between cuddling and brain development.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think your nanny is ridiculous and I would be worried.

I also think judging things by "leaps" on a day to day basis will make you unnecessarily anxious and insecure in your parenting.

You cannot spoil a 6 month old baby. They cry when they need something, and it is ok if what they need is nothing more than fundamental attention.

Trust your instincts and tell the nanny (appropriately of course) that you expect her to respond to your child's cries, even if she thinks it's coddling.

That's her job. That's why you have a nanny - to take fantastic, focused care of your baby in the manner you want. If she's unable or unwilling you need another nanny (or nanny share).

-MB

OP is in a nanny share. What should the nanny do when both kids need her - forget the other child just to focus and carry your child?!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think your nanny is ridiculous and I would be worried.

I also think judging things by "leaps" on a day to day basis will make you unnecessarily anxious and insecure in your parenting.

You cannot spoil a 6 month old baby. They cry when they need something, and it is ok if what they need is nothing more than fundamental attention.

Trust your instincts and tell the nanny (appropriately of course) that you expect her to respond to your child's cries, even if she thinks it's coddling.

That's her job. That's why you have a nanny - to take fantastic, focused care of your baby in the manner you want. If she's unable or unwilling you need another nanny (or nanny share).

-MB

OP is in a nanny share. What should the nanny do when both kids need her - forget the other child just to focus and carry your child?!

I have multiple kids, including twins, and I manage. So have our nannies. A good nanny, especially a nanny experienced in shares, manages multiple kids beautifully.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think your nanny is ridiculous and I would be worried.

I also think judging things by "leaps" on a day to day basis will make you unnecessarily anxious and insecure in your parenting.

You cannot spoil a 6 month old baby. They cry when they need something, and it is ok if what they need is nothing more than fundamental attention.

Trust your instincts and tell the nanny (appropriately of course) that you expect her to respond to your child's cries, even if she thinks it's coddling.

That's her job. That's why you have a nanny - to take fantastic, focused care of your baby in the manner you want. If she's unable or unwilling you need another nanny (or nanny share).

-MB

OP is in a nanny share. What should the nanny do when both kids need her - forget the other child just to focus and carry your child?!

I have multiple kids, including twins, and I manage. So have our nannies. A good nanny, especially a nanny experienced in shares, manages multiple kids beautifully.

Wow! A SAHM with “nannies”! You are amazing! How do you manage?!